Will & Will-Nots for Pre & Post-Bandsters

[mimi1512 0]

Hi All,

I am reletively new to this site and I would like to thank you all for your support, encouragement, and inspiration. This forum has such a wealth of knowledge, and I am very thankful for it!

I have not yet been banded, in fact, I haven't even met my surgeon yet, but I am scheduled to meet him on January 12th - where I hope there will be a quick approval by my insurance and I will be on my way to banded life by March 2010. In the meantime, I plan to read as much as I can about your experiences and successes, as they are a huge inspiration to me.

That being said - I would like to share with you the things that are not going to be a part of my life when I finally get banded. And I'd love to know what you plan to drop (besides some pounds!) once you get banded.

I will no longer:

- Be out of breath walking up a flight of stairs

- Search a room to see if I'm the heaviest girl around

- Stay home because I'm too embarassed to go out with my friends

- Work out in my house because I'm too embarassed to go to the gym

- Give into the newest miracle weight-loss drug hype

- Place the blame for my weight on circumstance

- Need a double-digit ring or pant size

- Binge eat alone in my room

- Fret at the thought of going to an amusement park, movie theater, or ball game (because I will fit into the seats)

- Need a seatbelt extender for an airplane flight

- Settle for an unsatisfactory relationship

- Have "such a pretty face" - without the body to match

- Shop at Lane Bryant or Torrid

- Hide in the back behind plants or walls of relatives during family pictures

- Use food as my escape and comfort

- Be miserable in my own skin

I will:

- Walk tall with my head held high

- Be able to shave my legs with ease

- Be able to cross my legs while seated

- Fit into a classroom desk

- Zipper my jacket

- Control my food, not be controlled by it

- Go for a run - because I can

- Not ever forget where I have come from, I will always be kind to those overweight

- Be thankful for the ability to change

- Become the woman I was meant to be

- Find a meaningful relationship with a man who doesn't have a scary fetish for BBWs

- Shop at regular clothing stores

- Wear heels

- Share clothes with my friends

- Have so much more closet space

- Be an inspiration to others, as much as others have been to me

Edited November 28, 2009 by mimi1512

[TheCutestFatty 3]

This is a great list. I especially agree with the part about being kind to those who are overweight. I think about this all the time. I don't ever want to be the formerly obese person who now hates overweight people.

[mimi1512 0]

So true - I hope I never EVER forget how painful it is to be treated poorly due to my weight.

[chinchilla mom 0]

Great list!

I add that I will not be too scared to sit on my nephew's toddler bed because I might break it!

[mimi1512 0]

I add that I will not be too scared to sit on my nephew's toddler bed because I might break it!

Chinchilla,

This literally made me LOL. I KNOW how that feels!

[mimi1512 0]

I add that I will not be afraid to buckle a folding chair when I sit in it!

[illuminationlady 7]

This is a great list. I think I'll retype it and post it on my fridg. I will add that I will buy a bra from Victoria Secret!!! And maybe a sexy nighty too!:Yawn:

[mimi1512 0]

Illuminationlady - YES! And along those lines, I will also never walk into a regular size clothing store and hear "Can I help you find a gift for someone?"

[illuminationlady 7]

You are too funny...lol...You made me chuckle. I copied and pasted your list into a Word Doc. I modified it and made it mine. Hope you don't mind. It is going on my fridg when I go downstairs!!!

[mimi1512 0]

No I do not mind at all - I was hoping this would become a popular thread because everyone can relate to what we want to leave behind, and what we have to look forward to! Sometimes the smallest things can mean a world of difference. I hope this silly little list inspires you as much as your responses inspire me! We are all in this together!

[SharShar 0]

There will be more space on my lap for my two kids to sit!

[TheCutestFatty 3]

Illuminationlady - YES! And along those lines, I will also never walk into a regular size clothing store and hear "Can I help you find a gift for someone?"

Has someone really said this? I thought being ignored by the sales people was bad.

[mimi1512 0]

OH yes! I've gotten it more than once, to be honest. At first I was mortified. You're "lucky" - I'd take being ignored over being chastised any day.

Isn't it sad the stigma against us overweight folk?

[BigMomma 0]

There will be more space on my lap for my two kids to sit!

I will have a lap!

[PrincipalsOffice 16]

So many never agains...

- i work in a school, so never again will i squeeze my fat ass into one of those freaking desk, with my "extra boobs" piling over the top

- never again will i be embarrassed about what's in my grocery cart and paranoid that everyone is judging my choices....

- never again will i have to go to the "left" (or right) of the door at the clothing store to get to the plus size half

- never again will i be "such a pretty face"... knowing they are thinking .... but so fat :confused:

- never again will i wear capris all summer in 100 degree weather because i wouldnt dare put on shorts

- never again will my son suffer at MY weight. just yesterday I called to set up swim lessons and had to make sure it wasn't a "mommy and me" class first, because if it was, i wasn't doing it. how sad for my son

- never again will i be ashamed to do ANYTHING because someone might say something rude in front of a new boyfriend, etc and just make me want to DIE (there are some RUDE freaking people in this world)!

- never again will i have to stalk the tables and booths in a restaurant to 1. make sure ill fit at the booth and 2. make sure i can find a semi-direct path that doesnt require my belly and butt rubbing someone else's chair - or worse, having to ask them to "scoot"

- never again will i stand all day at a BBQ because I am scared of chairs - listen to that SCARED OF CHAIRS! how pathetic! because i wont fit, they might break, the arms will dig in and my fat will squeeze out, etc

- never again will i have to skip the cute shoes because they dont come in "WIDE"

- never again will i be ashamed to go to the food table at a party or cookout or whatever because im too ashamed of what people think when they see me up there eating

- never again will i be the "fat mom" at my son's activities