what is good restriction? I AM FAILING

[aminorharmony 0]

HI THERE!

so I had my second fill on thursday (it is now monday). on saturday night i had a gluten free wrap as a pizza base with avocado, tuna, taziki and cheese (IT WENT DOWN FINE) I thought I was still hungry so I had a small bowl of cerial. down it went fine. the next morning had maybe two cups of cerial with banana to top it off. OH and i snuck in plenty (toooo many) dark chocolate covered sultanas! and it all went down fine. THEN. it started. a small piece of shaved ham got stuck, pb. sushi stuck. pb. had frozen yoghurt went down fine! then vitawheat snack biscuts, pb. a few pieces of bbq chicken, pb. Soup, pb. Optifast (to take my normal tablets with) pb. DEATHHH!

Tomorrow i am sitting my first lot of university examinations and because i am stressed I feel the need to eat!

TODAY

i had a small bowl of cerial (uncomfortable going down)

then here comes the issue!

I ate a gaytime icream and a kitkat chunky bar! ALL WENT DOWN FINE!

see the bad food is fine to go down ?????????????????

I DON'T KNOW WHAT HUNGRY IS! i am scared of being hungry (cause food makes my brain work!)

i cant have a proper diet until uni break and when i move out of home. MY LIFE IS TO ON THE GO and miss matched to cope with the band right now! I CANT DEAL.

I EAT BECAUSE IT IS A COPING MECANISM! I CANT COPE!

so because i hadnt eaten yesterday. i said its ok you can have chocolate and icecream to conpencate for it!

I CANT DO THIS!

I CANT LIVE WITH THIS BAND

I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!

I WANT TO EAT A salad AND NOT WORRY ABOUT PBING

I WANT TO BE ABLE TO EAT WELL ROUNDED MEALS! NOT JUST SMALL Snacks ALL DAY

CHICKEN, SALAD

A HEALTHY SANDWHICH

WHOLE GRAIN Pasta WITH VEGETABLE STIRFRY!

CELERY AND PEANUT BUTTER!

ALL MY FAVOURITE! ALL WELL ROUND! THIS IS NOT WHAT I HAVE NOW AND I CANT COPE ANY LONGER!:thumbup:

TODAY I AM REGRETTING MY BAND DECISION!

[Jachut 487]

Bad food will always go down fine, probably no matter what your restriction.

But you do need to calm down and change your attitude a bit. You seem to be looking for problems and then panicking because they dont happen. Why SHOULDNT you eat a home made pizza like that? Why exactly is it a problem that that would go down? Do you really WANT to be able to eat nothing? That was a healthy meal, if you were still hungry, maybe finish it off with something fibrous (amd therefore filling) like an apple.

Cereal with banana is a healthy Breakfast (as long as its healthy cereal!). Just stick with one bowl. If you're still hungry, have something like a hard boiled egg for some Protein to damp down the hunger.

Over time, with more fills, you wont be hungry after the pizza or the Cereal.

You need to choose those more solid foods you mention - yes there's more risk of them getting stuck - but you eat them more slowly and carefully and they'll stick with you for longer, making you less hungry. Are you eating this way, or do you still have some work to do in this regard?

Big, solid meals are a thing of the past. You will, by necessity have to eat smaller, more frequent meals with a lapband, something which is better for your body and metabolism anyway. But it takes a long time for your head to catch up with this, dont be so hard on yourself, cope as well as you can and have faith that over time, it will get easier and more naturall to eat in this new way. You dont pick up other coping mechanisms overnight, it is really hard when such a major one is taken away so suddenly.

Eventually, food wont be so important to you, and believe me, I never thought I'd be saying that!

But sadly, ice cream, biscuits, chocolate covered sultanas etc will ALWAYS be easy to eat. You have to not eat them very often.

Edited November 23, 2009 by Jachut

[ElfiePoo 109]

ALL MY FAVOURITE! ALL WELL ROUND! THIS IS NOT WHAT I HAVE NOW AND I CANT COPE ANY LONGER!:biggrin:

TODAY I AM REGRETTING MY BAND DECISION!

The band is not a mental control device. Just because it's there, it's not going to stop you from overeating (as some idiots think). If you can still overeat, you don't have restriction.

The band should be controlling how much you can put in you at one time and giving you a sense of fullness for a longer time after you eat. If it doesn't, it sounds as if you don't have restriction. Talk to your doc.

Oh and why can't you have a salad and regular food? I'm generally happy with Protein shakes all day until dinner and I'm usually too busy to want to stop and eat anyway, but at dinner I eat a regular meal. Last night I had some baked cod, rice pilaf and a small salad with some homemade blue cheese dressing...albeit only one helping and the whole thing only totalled about a cup of food and it took me longer to eat than it had pre-band. A fraction of what I used to eat...and that was why I got the band.

What the band won't do is keep you from bad choices. That part is up to you.

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