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Since my surgery I have had the increased desire to actually date and go out more. It has been frustrating because no one really interests me & I am not the social butterfly. All the good guys seem to be taken. My mother says that I am too picky but I don't agree. At any rate, an old friend that I have known for many years before my surgery called the other day. I have not seen him in like a year because he moved about 2 hours from me for a new job but we talk at least monthly. I have known him for like 8 years & we went out occasionally but nothing serious ever materialized because I am not attracted to him in a romantic kind of way. He has invited me to come up to Northern Va. to go to a Washington Wizards basketball game with him Saturday and to hang out. Of course I told him that I would drive up. Then, I got up the courage to contact an old friend that I saw on Facebook. I have not seen him since 2005 because he moved to North Carolina & we just went in different directions and lost contact. Needless to say it has been two weeks since we "found" each other and we talk/send e-mails or texts daily. We have made plans to see each other next weekend and hang out. I have lost about 140 pounds since the last time he saw me. He has seen recent pics of me and I told him that I had lap band surgery. I am actually nervous about seeing him because I really did like him. Hopefully both outings will happen. Seems here lately my life has been work and worrying about gaining weight/not losing anything. I go out with my girl friends and happy hour type stuff with co-workers/friends but this is the first one on one with a guy since I don't know when. I need to have some fun for a change.

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Good luck! I hope you have a wonderful time!

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That's great. Good luck and have fun.

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Since my surgery I have had the increased desire to actually date and go out more. It has been frustrating because no one really interests me & I am not the social butterfly. All the good guys seem to be taken. My mother says that I am too picky but I don't agree. At any rate, an old friend that I have known for many years before my surgery called the other day. I have not seen him in like a year because he moved about 2 hours from me for a new job but we talk at least monthly. I have known him for like 8 years & we went out occasionally but nothing serious ever materialized because I am not attracted to him in a romantic kind of way. He has invited me to come up to Northern Va. to go to a Washington Wizards basketball game with him Saturday and to hang out. Of course I told him that I would drive up. Then, I got up the courage to contact an old friend that I saw on Facebook. I have not seen him since 2005 because he moved to North Carolina & we just went in different directions and lost contact. Needless to say it has been two weeks since we "found" each other and we talk/send e-mails or texts daily. We have made plans to see each other next weekend and hang out. I have lost about 140 pounds since the last time he saw me. He has seen recent pics of me and I told him that I had lap band surgery. I am actually nervous about seeing him because I really did like him. Hopefully both outings will happen. Seems here lately my life has been work and worrying about gaining weight/not losing anything. I go out with my girl friends and happy hour type stuff with co-workers/friends but this is the first one on one with a guy since I don't know when. I need to have some fun for a change.

Crishell,

I hope you have a wonderful time on each of your dates and maybe one of them will turn out to be Mr. Right. Or at least Mr. Right-now. Have fun!!

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