how do i fix this weakness

[Mels423 0]

Ok so I know where my biggest problem is and I would like some advice on how to rectify this issue. I am 4 months post op and I have only lost 22 lbs, I live with my boyfriend and my 11y/o daughter. I am very good through out the week while I'm working my boyfriend and I work opposite shifts, so I work days he works even/nights.

He is very thin and muscular, and he works out all the time, now the problem is, that he eats whatever he want, whenever he wants, and as much as he wants. So on the weekends he always wants to order out or go out to eat, or when he goes shopping he buys total junk food.

I stick to a very strict diet throughout the week, but on the weekends i struggle so much I always end up being bad and eating things I shouldn't or more then I should, so I always gain back the couple lbs that I lost throughout the week, and then the next week I am struggling to lose them again. Plleeeeease help me, I don't know what to do, and I feel bad asking him to not eat the way he does because I know he is always trying to gain weight and bulk up because he lifts weights all the time and it is difficult for him to even put on 1 or 2 lbs, I am in opposites hell right now!!!!!!!!!!

[lipstix64 1]

Dont take this the wrong way, but it seems like your boyfriend is trying to sabotage your diet. Maybe he is feeling a little insecure about you losing weight and looking good. Thats understandable, but for him to bring home junk food knowing that its a struggle for you to resist it, seems really unfair to you. Why dont you sit him down and explain to him how this makes you feel and if he loves you and respects your wishes, he will eat his junk food somewhere other than your home. Which by the way, is unhealthy for him to binge as well on the weekends and that garbage isnt good for your 11 yr old to eat eaither. Good luck

Ok so I know where my biggest problem is and I would like some advice on how to rectify this issue. I am 4 months post op and I have only lost 22 lbs, I live with my boyfriend and my 11y/o daughter. I am very good through out the week while I'm working my boyfriend and I work opposite shifts, so I work days he works even/nights.

He is very thin and muscular, and he works out all the time, now the problem is, that he eats whatever he want, whenever he wants, and as much as he wants. So on the weekends he always wants to order out or go out to eat, or when he goes shopping he buys total junk food.

I stick to a very strict diet throughout the week, but on the weekends i struggle so much I always end up being bad and eating things I shouldn't or more then I should, so I always gain back the couple lbs that I lost throughout the week, and then the next week I am struggling to lose them again. Plleeeeease help me, I don't know what to do, and I feel bad asking him to not eat the way he does because I know he is always trying to gain weight and bulk up because he lifts weights all the time and it is difficult for him to even put on 1 or 2 lbs, I am in opposites hell right now!!!!!!!!!!

[kiz 1]

Dont take this the wrong way, but it seems like your boyfriend is trying to sabotage your diet. Maybe he is feeling a little insecure about you losing weight and looking good. Thats understandable, but for him to bring home junk food knowing that its a struggle for you to resist it, seems really unfair to you. Why dont you sit him down and explain to him how this makes you feel and if he loves you and respects your wishes, he will eat his junk food somewhere other than your home. Which by the way, is unhealthy for him to binge as well on the weekends and that garbage isnt good for your 11 yr old to eat eaither. Good luck

I totally agree with most of lipstix's post, although, I would give the bf the benefit of the doubt until you've sat down and had a heart to heart talk to him about how much harder this is for you when he's bringing home junk food over the weekend. What you said in your post about the difficulties you're having is the perfect opening. He may not even be aware the effect his weekend eating habits is having on you, so don't feel the least bit guilty about asking him to make a few changes to help you. Ultimately, this is for your longterm health. Having WLS and living with a band is not something you've done on a whimsy, and you deserve the best possible environment (at least in your home and with your bf) to make it work. You could also ask him, if you haven't already, to help you start a light weightlifting/cardio program, so that the two of you could work out together on the weekends.

Another very important point that lipstix made is that this isn't good for your child either, especially a child with at least one obese parent. It's important for both of you to role model good eating habits, which in my opinion can include "junk food" on occasion, but not as an every weekend occurrence. Good luck, and I hope you're able to work this out with your bf so that you're working together to get healthy and that you have a long, happy and active life together.

Edited November 3, 2009 by kiz

[Mels423 0]

Thanks you guys, and i really dont think he is trying to sabatoge me he just doesnt want to give up what he loves, but i will talk to him about it

[Padanelle 2]

If your boyfriend is trying to bulk up, he should be doing it with Proteins, not junk food. Why don't you find out what healthy foods he likes (steak, shrimp, veffies, etc) and plan your weekend menu around that. There a plenty of good tasting healthy foods.

Good luck.

[Jachut 487]

I would take up his sort of exercise program. I find with regular cardio and strength training, the overall trend was down with my weight (now I maintain) and a bit extra on the weekends doesnt affect my weight at all.