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[mommymya 1]

Hello everyone,

My name is Mya and I am currently pre op. My surgery is set for December 3rd and I am getting pretty jumpy! I have 5 children and am hoping to get an idea of how this might affect them or how I might feel after surgery (as in, what kind of support system I might need in place). I have approx 150 lbs to lose and am so excited to finally get a handle on my weight issue.

I have been overweight since after my first pregnany (approx 14 years ago). I am wondering if there are any others here who have wieght issues who don't necessarily binge. I know this is a heated topic, and I mean to offend no one. I have found that most who decide on bariatric surgery have a negative relationship with food. I used to have a VERY negative realtionship with food in my early adolescence( I was bulemic/anorexic) and I wonder what effect this has had on my weight and may have on this journey. Any thoughts? Thanks in advance!

~Mya

[plain 12]

Hi Mya, welcome to lapbandtalk! When it comes to kids, you will be restricted in how much weight you can lift right after surgery (so as not to dislodge the stitches). So if your kids are very young and require physical picking up and holding, you might want to start thinking about people that can help with that.

Other than that, the only other issue you might have is preparing meals for the kids. There may be times pre and post op when you'll be on liquids, and preparing real food can be torture, lol. Also, (and I don't know if this is applicable in your situation) once you're banded, you'll need to eat healthier food.....so there could be a change in diet for the whole family. That's all I can think of right now.

[mommymya 1]

Thanks for the reply! I just started thinking about not being able to lift the little guys, lol. I had major surgery about 2 years ago, and I had the same drill. (but I wondered if it would be the same since this isn't a "major" surgery. )

One problem I seem to be having is that because it will be right before Christmas, my inlaws are having a hard time understanding that I might not want to host the big Christmas get together. I was thinking it might be wayyyy to much and kind of mean to expect me to prepare all the yummy holiday food when I will still not be even eating "real" food yet. My dh is also being kinda wierd trying to commit us to the company Holiday Party (think 3 day get away in tahoe with drinking and partying, lol) that will potentially be a few days after I return from surgery. Do you have any advice with how to deal with people who don't "get it"?

I actually would have preferred not to tell anyone (especially the in laws) but couldn't figure out a way to get around it since it's the Holiday season. KWIM?