male only Was a loner At my support Group again!!

[Big Ed 0]

I'm getting alittle sick of being the lone band guy at my local support group. I just don't wanna drive 20 times as far to find people with my issues. tired of hearing about their dumps' I'm scheduled to get banded on Nov. 10th, I guess I'm lucky there's forums like these to find out issues.

[Humming Bird 275]

I have not gone to any support groups because they are armost a 2 hour drive for me and they do it on work days, so there is no way I can drive there and make it on time. I find it very helpful here on LBT. Even if you don't want to post anything or reply to other's posts, you can read.

[KartMan 58]

I go to 2 different groups, each is once a month. Both have very low attendance. The one fro the surgery center usually has 6-7 people, th one formed from people on here has 3-4 people at each meeting. In both groups I am the onl man.

[JayTee562 1]

the center I went through has 2 a month one downtown and one further out, I go to the one further out there are usually 2 or 3 men and the room is usually full. Our support group let's each person intro themselves and tell a little about their journey and then they usually have a speaker.

[2big4U 0]

I go to my local one every now and then, when the topic is of interest or we are ahving a speaker. Otherwise I am the only guy and the only one under 45. It is a little disheartening tho. My interest in how weight loss affects menopausal symtoms is of VERY little use to me.

[silvers320 12]

I have never been to a support group, mostly because I figure it will be like every WW meeting I attended (all 3 of them) where I was the one and only guy.

Let's face it - we have been trained that asking for help is a sign of weakness and men arent suppose to be weak. I dont ask for directions - I am not asking someone how to lose 20lbs. But... with age and the internet comes this board so we learn, grow (yeah ok).

I dont want to start a "turf" war but one of the things that bothers me is when about 2 or 3 posts into a thread on in the Men's room - a woman will post. I understand when a woman wants to start a thread to get a mans point - I have no issue with that. BUT ladies - nothing is going to shut down a thread on here faster then a woman chiming in on male body image or whatever the topic is.

Or maybe its just me ... could be I guess.

[Humming Bird 275]

Well, Excuuuuusssse ME!

[silvers320 12]

Well, Excuuuuusssse ME!

Funny... I assume this is a response to my post - which means I have started a turf war.

But I actually wasnt referring to you - if fact, I didnt even realize you werent a guy.

[Humming Bird 275]

The day I offered my few words of support I did not realize I had replied in the men's room. I usually just look at "new posts" and pay little attention to the "room".

I know it must be rough to go to support groups and forums that are so estrogen rich. I guess Humming Bird would be an ok name for a guy that swings the other way. I use that name often because I live in the mountains in Colorado where we get many humming birds. sorry again.... will try my best to stay out of u guy's special little place :closedeyes:

[jfc193 718]

Humming Bird is correct when you reach most post by going to new posts that you may end up in the mens room.

When I used to attend WW it was not unusual to be the only mail.

When I attended the two support groups I went two I was the only male as well.

I am fortunate in that my wife and I had the lap band put on the same date in 9/07 one hour a part, the hospital thought it was cute. Kinda hard to be cute at almost 300 lbs.

Having my wife on the same page is far better support team for me.

I also spread the word regarding the benefits of the lap band in my case: no more sleep apnea, no more diabetes, no more back pain, no more knee pains, breathing is no longer consider exercise.

[pipedoc 0]

I went to my first meeting last night, and I expected to be the ony guy there but was surprised to find 2 others there. yes I think its different for guys since we travel in a whole different circle than the gals.

[Big Ed 0]

I was meaning that I was the only Lap band person. Not that I was the only guy, there were actually several men. sorry, I can see where It was misleading.....

[HAL380 0]

I agree!! Ladies, let us have our own place - Please

[msmith73 0]

I think I may be lucky. There is about 3 - 4 other guys in my classes. The only issue is Bypass talk out weighs the Lap band talk =(