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Hello my name is Emily. I am 32 and was banded on May 21st. My highest weight was 303lbs and am currently 277. My weight loss has been slow so far as I lost about 15 lbs before surgery. I have had 2 fills and am getting a 3rd one today which I am hoping will get me closer to my sweet spot.

My biggest struggles are consistency. I work a lot and like most of us have a high stress lifestyle. I know what I should be doing but often lack the self control to do it. I will do really good for 2 - 6 weeks and then fall off. I then do poorly for awhile before I can get back into healthier habits. I am looking for someone to help me with accountability without beating me up when I am struggling.

Mentally I understand it took me 10 years to put on this weight and its unreasonable for ME to expect to lose it in 6 months.

I struggle with emotional and stress eating. I also have PCOS which slows my weight loss.

I live in Gilroy, CA (about 80 miles south of San Francisco). I am married with no children.

Thank You for reading :mad:

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Hi: It is sooo easy to fall back into old habits- consistency is really what is necessary to succeed and from that consistency comes new habits to replace the old. I am 5 years out and still find myself slipping - I just go back to basics each time and that helps- a diet of mostly Protein for a day or 2 to get the carbs that I have overeaten out of my system - I found that with working lots of hours and having a high stress life planning was my greatest tool ..planning my meals in advance and always carrying something with me so I never got stuck buying fast food in a pinch....also, lots of water...you can pm me if you want some more ideas or so we can talk more specifics- I lost 250 lbs and have been able to maintain it...and, you are right- slow and steady wins the race....you just need that steady part worked on a little- but you can do it!

sandi2004

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