Not comfortable with how I'm looking

[losingit37 0]

I just want to start off by saying that you should be proud of yourself for losing 88 lbs. That's a huge acheivement. The lap band surgery isn't a miracle cure, it's just a tool. You lost the 88 lbs through hard work. Congratulations, that's really awesome.

But I also want to say that I think you have a really upsetting outlook on things. You have wrinkles, so what? It's a part of life. In a society that markets anti-aging creams to 20 somethings, I understand how difficult it can be to age. We're old, we're going to get wrinkles. You should love yourself anyway.

You seem like a wonderful person who's had a very successful first year. Don't you think you should enjoy that, rather than finding something else to hate about yourself?

A very close friend of mine had/has the same problem as you do with your hair. The trick for her was to drink more Protein. Her hair has stopped falling out, and has even started to grow back a little bit. It's a slow process, but I'm really hoping that it'll help you.

If it doesn't, go the Dolly Parton way. Have fun with it :biggrin:

Don't eat it down. You obviously don't need to, as you've lost 88 lbs.

Instead, try spending a little time each day looking at yourself and loving yourself. Find things you like rather than things you dislike. And if nasty thoughts enter your head, tell them to shove off.

I sincerely hope that you will take my advice, because everyone deserves to be happy. Especially when they've worked so hard. Don't beat yourself up over trivial things.

[amylovescookies 8]

I live on two sides of the mirror. I can look at the mirror and see the good parts that have come from losing the weight, (I look good!) and then later that same day I can look in the same mirror and think, 'OMG I look so old and saggy now! Gross!'

Then there is my muffin top-UGH! It keeps me in saggy pants that are two sizes too big, because I refuse to have muffin top.

I have the money to get a full body lift, and I was all for it. But then I researched the it in detail on the internet. For some reason after thinking about the pain, and scaring that would be involved with getting this surgery I am started to reconsider.

I need to get right in my head. I think I need to accept my body as-is. I need to remember why I got this surgery- it was to save my life; looking better was just a great bonus.

If I don't learn to love myself I can get as many surgeries as I want, and I will never be happy. What a waste of money, and time. (And I don't want to go through extreme pain over and over again.)

Good luck- remember you are not alone. You were, you are, and you continue to be beautiful.