lizcap 0 Posted August 21, 2009 I am new to this website and new to Lap-Band. I am here because I am the heaviest I have ever been and this has caused me much unhappiness. The quality of my life has been so diminished. I am 50 years old and I feel 80. I want a change. I do not want to live like this. I am sick of being so heavy. I need help to make this change and I just feel it in my bones that LAP-BAND is the tool I need. I am married with two daughters ages 17 (UGH!) and 9. I love my husband and my girls with all my heart. My husband is very much against this. He just doesn't get it. He has never had a weight problem and is naturally very fit. His comment to me is, "Just eat less and exercise!" As I told him, I am sorry he is angry that I am doing this, and I am sorry this upsets him, but with or without his support I am doing this. I need to do this for me and I have never been more sure about one thing. I believe he will come around. I went to my first "information session" last night and I'm very excited about my decision to go forward with the lap-band surgery. I feel ready and confident albeit, a little nervous. I just have such a great feeling about this. My first doctor's visit is 9/14 (consultation). I can't wait. I want this done yesterday. I heard that joining this forum could be helpful and supportive, so here I am. I look forward to reading posts and learning about what awaits me. I will keep you all posted (no pun intended) on my status. Thank you. Liz Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RestlessMonkey 7 Posted August 21, 2009 Welcome and good luck! Hopefully your husband will come around, but if not, he'll get over it as you get more slim and healthy. :confused: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lizcap 0 Posted August 21, 2009 Thank you! My sentiments exactly! Look at you! Wow. I would love to do what you have done in a year. Congratulations! And thanks again! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RestlessMonkey 7 Posted August 21, 2009 Thanks! You'll probably exceed my loss; I didn't "diet" (like many do) UNTIL I got good restriction and my doc is pretty conservative with fills. His approach and my last semester of nursing school conspired to make it almost 9 months before I finally "felt the love" as it were...so I bet you'll blow me out of the water! Good luck! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ThePoolGirl 1 Posted August 21, 2009 Welcome, Liz! I'm sure you'll find lots of answers here. This is a great forum. Best of luck to you!! :confused: TPG Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
greytz 4 Posted August 21, 2009 Welcome Liz and Good Luck! Congrats on taking that first step with or without your husband's support right now. Hopefully, he will see how good this will be for you. Can you get him to a seminar at all? It might help him if you could get him there. I am 51 and was banded on 06-17. I had my husband's full support and it has meant a lot to me. But I would have done it anyway whether he agreed to it or not. I am so glad I did it and I am on my way down the scale. I am excited for you! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Lap Band 71 Posted August 21, 2009 Liz do it it I am so serious do it! Your level of happiness sounds just like mine was before surgery. My husband also was originally against (although he isn't fit) but he came around. What makes me happy makes him happy. Also, the Band is a slow progression so its not as life alterating as gastric. The band needs adjustments and it happens slowly so it gives you, and your husband, time to adjust to the changes happening in your life. Do it do it do it and I dont think you will ever regret it. =) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lizcap 0 Posted September 4, 2009 Thankyou Breanne! Sorry I'm so late responding. I have been away on vacation. Thank you so much for what you said. I am indeed going to do it. I can't wait. I know it will be the best thing. I loved reading your note. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RebeccaJ 0 Posted September 6, 2009 Hi there, and welcome! I had my surgery six days ago, and I don't regret a thing! I wish you all the luck in the world! My husband, thankfully, is very supportive of my efforts. He was very worried about me during sugery, but I did great. I think what helped him more than anything was going to the support group meetings with me and seeing what kinds of changes it has made in the lives of others. I think you should do this for you....no one else. But there may be some benefits for him down the road....I know I am much more receptive to lots of things now that I have lost about 65 pounds. :0) Good luck, and keep us posted!:thumbup: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
