Lucky #7 are still going strong !!!

[cramerk 1]

By the way, think of all the money we all save by acting as surogate councelors for each other. Wouldn't trade it for anything.

Jackie, just so you don't feel like you are alone. The only bander here that i've met is Steph, so you are not alone. By the way there is a plan to meet up next summer. So mark you calendar. I figure if nothing else, I will be Stephanie's kettle Korn slave for money to pay my way. for those of us who are broke, we need to come up with a plan so we ALL will be there. I know I must be there. What about renting a condo somewhere? that way the biggest expense is transportation and our share of the rent? Years ago, a friend of mine & I rented a condo in Lincoln city Oregon on the beach for a week. I bet we could find a similar situation else where. I would be willing to sleep on the floor for a reduced rate? Just some thoughts.

You are all family!!

TTFN

[jackie506 1]

Good morning Ladies. Slept terrible when I finally slept. Got back up at 6am and finished ALL of my September paperwork. I am so happy I won't be stressing about that and have to come home to that. I have several night meetings next week and lots of annuam plans to write up from each meeting so no time to deal with the other so I HAD to finish before leaving. Now I will not be taking any work to the hospital with me!!! I am done and have nothing for work to do until Monday. I am so happy about that. Sometimes the kids think that I am always focusing on work (having a home office has its advantages and disadvantages) so I am glad I am caught up and ALL focus will be on Courtney. She will need it. She is in great spirits this morning. Raring and ready to do this. Me I have taken 2 doses of anxiety meds. I am feeling better. Just had a pep talk with myself and reminded myself that she is doing this for the same reasons I did and look how it has changed my life and I want her to have the same thing. Brings piece of mind to me knowing that. Still scares the shit out of me but if it didn't I would wonder what kind of mother I really am.

Well sorry so short but have to run. Have errands to do before leaving at 11am.

Later everything and thank you all for your thoughts and prayers!

[IndioGirl55 32]

Good Morning Gang

Jackie - Hugs & Prayers for your and Court...

Steph - HUGS HUGS HUGS - You are not a terrible mother - wife - bander - teacher - Like Karla says you are in crisis mode - Hell in 8th Grade Andrew took my car out for a joy ride (I was in the back yard swming and cleaning the patio) got a call from GF - Andrew had wreaked my car - I went to the garage and their it was - with a big dent in the center - he was home afraid to tell me called gf to tell me) So Michael isnt the 1st or last kid to steal a car - But I sure in the heck didn't think I was a bad mom cuz of it - Kid's make their own decision - hell Andrew went in his room and started to pack his clothes - to move with his dad - he thought I would throw him out - I said darling just cuz you did something stupid doesn't mean I don't love you - I am not throwing you out but you are grounded for the rest of the summer - this happend in June. The diff between Andrew & Michael is that Andrew understood what he did - Michael doesn't get it - and I think the advice that Karla gave is very good - you need to sit down and find a place for him - You can not let him ruin your life - he's what 17 - he's a big boy - he will survive - He needs to understand what he's doing...

You are super stressed and this is why you can't eat - I know it makes no sense that you can eat Cookies but not oatmeal - hell right now don't worry about it - that's just going to make it worse - just do the best that you can for right now - You will get back on track once things settle down.

I think that once Michael is out of the house - the others will settle down too - when they act up - just give them time outs and if they don't want to eat - don't make them - they will eat when they get hungry..

Darling your problems are very real - I would say that they top what I was bitching about a few weeks ago - You have very very major shit going on. I know that we all wish we could fix them for you cuz you know that we would.. But alas we can't so you better come here an cry on our shoulders - that's what we are here for... I know how good is feels to be able to tell you all my little issues. So please don't think that what you are going thru doesn't matter to us - it does - we love you !!!!

Phyl - I'm ok and yes it will be nice to meet my cousin & his wife - I have some family tree info for them that my 2nd cousin's dh had given me and some info that Aunt Dot gave me and then I ordered my Grandfathers birth certificate - so I know where my GGF & GGM were born in Ireland - English on my Paternal grandma's side - and Irish on my paternal grandfathers side...

My biggest concern is that I eat horrible while traveling... Since I have eaten well all week the scales have gone back to 143 (hit 144.5 on Monday after the candy and cookies last weekend - see Steph you aren't alone in drowning your sorrows with food - I still do it ) - but I want to get back to 138 - I really don't like being on the high side of my 5 lb limit...

Well gang - gotta get butt in gear - wanted to leave early today - need to get nails done and food shopping - but doesn't look like I am going to be able to...

CBL

Steph Hugs !!!

Ok ya Karla - I agree about the credit score - your health is more important - xoxo

[Twilight 2]

Thanks ladies. I appreciate your concern. It makes me feel good.

I have called the placement center. They said that once they have paperwork they could have him admitted within the next 72 hours. They have room, I just have to get his diagnosis changed. Where he was this summer needs to call me back. I just don't know.

I don't want to get political but this health care thing....THIS is why it needs done. His placement for 11 days this summer cost over $18,000 dollars. We are lucky to have health insurance to cover most of it. It will only cost us $5000. But still....how many people can't afford that? grrrr...I hope we figure something out, if only for kids. Kids who need help should be able to get it. It shouldn't matter if their parents are good, bad, or indifferent. I will get off the soapbox now.

Okay....so I have to go get Michael and take him to therapy. I have to stay positive. I can keep this going for 72 hours without breaking down. I know I can.

Thanks for the love ladies. You have no idea how important.

[peaches9 3]

Hi ladies. I don't know what to say to you all. I've completely fallen off the wagon. I'm sleeping all day, eating junk when I'm awake, would rather sit on my ass or sleep than get anything done.

My EDG scope went fine yesterday. Nurses got me hooked up to monitors, asked me to roll on my side and the next thing I remember is opening my eyes to hear the doc say everything looked fine. They don't put you to sleep but I think they must have knocked my ass out because I don't have a clue. No prolapse, no hernia, no erosion, no nothing. No fill. No solid food going down. WTF??? How can I be completely open and too tight? What does that mean? The only things I can keep down are junk. chocolate is no trouble. Ice cream a dream. Walleye stays, tuna doesn't. Cereal...no way in hell....and oatmeal is too thick some days. However, I could sit and eat a dozen or more choc chip Cookies today. No problem with those. Tried chicken tonight...no way in hell. I'm so frustrated. I am so scared. I don't know what I'm going to do. If there is no problem what's the problem???? Lord have mercy!

Michael? I can't even begin to explain. I don't know if I told you guys that while I was on my walk that he took my credit cards and charged a couple hundred dollars. Well, I told Jeff he needed to go press charges. He did but now we are waiting for the legal system to work it's magic. In two weeks nothing....so yesterday, while we were in Bismarck, he came home from school at lunch and took my car. Drove to school. On the way home, 100 yards from the school wrecked it. Spent the late afternoon at the emergency room making sure that he was alright. His head hit the rear view mirror so hard that the mirror went through the windshield. No major injuries. Brought him home and then tried to lay down the law. His only concern was that we "didn't even mention that he had been hurt." Really? Are you kidding me? Talked to the sherriff last night. He had me bring Michael in and talked to him. Thought he did some good. Made great points. I was impressed. First thing out of his mouth when we got home was, "Will you and dad talk about taking me to Richey for homecoming this weekend?" Really? Are you kidding me? Then he copped an attitude when I made him brush his teeth. Talked to the therapist today. She suggests residential care. Called the psychiatrist, but didn't get a call back. Called county mental health, no real help there. Talked to my insurance and they walked me through the process. Tomorrow we have therapy again. I just don't know.

My younger two are acting like complete assholes. Yelling at me, refusing to eat, mouthing everything I tell the to do, fighting each other.

Jeff and I are finally speaking after a week of me sleeping on the couch. I just feel like a complete and utter failure. I'm not a teacher, I'm a lousy mother, I'm a sucky wife. ... I hate everything about my world right now.

The sad part is, I don't want to come here and tell you all this because you all have your own issues and mine seem so very inconsiquential when put next to yours. I feel like I'm whining and being selfish. I'm so very sorry. I can't seem to even do THIS right. I don't want you guys to spend time trying to bolster me up. I know I'm being a whine bag and I need to buck up. Get over myself. Move on.

I love you all and your issues do concern me. Janet, my heart breaks for you. Karla, go see a doc even if you have to file bankrupcy afterwards. Your health is more important than your credit score. Phyl, you make me so proud. You are such a fighter and an amazing woman. I wish I was half of you! Love you ladies. I hope you know how much. Even when I'm not posting I'm reading. I wish I could be more involved but I just can't.

Hugs. I'll be lurking.

Dear Steph; oh girl don't ever feel like you can't come here and tell us your troubles. Don't ISOLATE that is very distructive o.k?? WE are all your SISTERS and we love you ALWAYS, even when your life sucks.

It is dark now, but you know what they say "its always Darkest just before the LIGHT: which means it is going to get better, maybe not in the next week... but you've put the wheels in motion for dealing with Michael. Residential care is the BEST solution for your WHOLE family for now... You have tried so hard with him and now its time for professionals.

You can then concentrat on the younger ones who are obviously smart little tykes.... who are modeling MIchaels behaviour...

Go give JEFF a big sloppy kiss and hug... HANG TOGETHER... you'll get thru this too.

REMEMBER WE LOVE YOU!!!

[peaches9 3]

Quilt is wonderful!! Love the spider webs! Not my thing, but GREAT!! Our DIL does machine quilting. She made us one last Christmas that she had kids & grandkids draw/color squares for. We LOVE it! Canadian quilters... friends at Sky Valley... had pictures of it emailed it to their quilting club in B.C. by Christmas day afternoon! They really liked it.

So is NO & CA going to be part of this trip or another one??

No the N.O. and Cali portion will have to be a separat trip I think....

Karla... so no healthcare plan where you work??? or you just can't afford it? That's awful. I'm sure you explained it to us before, but I'm old and I forget stuff!!

:w00t::smile:

There has to be a way to get this taken care of.. you definitely need surgery!

Bathroom scale -- which is not completely reliable... was weighing me between 199 and 202 this morning! That's a couple of pounds lower than two days ago and seriously flirting with "ONDERLAND"! So what do I do?? Totally blew it today! Primetimers served Kiebasa and macaroni and cheese! I took two small pieces of the sausage, but one would have been plenty... and macaroni and cheese, and some steamed veggies that seemed to be swimming in butter. A few bites of baked apple... more butter and lots of sugar... gave most of it to Earl, and then these big thick cookes with all sorts of stuff in them... white chocolate chips, cranberries, etc. It was WAY to sweet, too.. so I broke off a ssmall bite and gave the rest to EArl. Then tonight he heated up some mashed potatoes and gravy, two small chicken drumsticks and some cole slaw. Way to may calories for one day, I'm sure! I don't even want to try to add them up. Did have 35 minute workout at PT, but most of it fairly passive exercises, except for 5 minutes on the bike. Oh well, back to basics tomorrow!

Oh Phyl, take the 199 and RUN>>>>>>> its a super accomplishment... scales are always correct when they hit the 'lower' number hee,hee,hee...

Is Earl getting fat eating all your leftovers???

[jackie506 1]

She's done!!! Waiting for doctor to come talk to us and Courts in recovery. Thank goodness surgery is over!! Now she is on the mend! The gave us a private room with 2 beds at no extra charge so I can stay with her and have a bed. I was staying anyway jusy figured I'd have to sleep in a chair. I will keep you all posted! Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers! I love you all!

[jackie506 1]

Ok he just came out. His words 'nice smooth boring run of the mill surgery. Just like we like it!' In recovery iuntil 7

[phyllser 3]

Ok he just came out. His words 'nice smooth boring run of the mill surgery. Just like we like it!' In recovery iuntil 7

GREAT NEWS!!

Now relax, Mama!!

[peaches9 3]

She's done!!! Waiting for doctor to come talk to us and Courts in recovery. Thank goodness surgery is over!! Now she is on the mend! The gave us a private room with 2 beds at no extra charge so I can stay with her and have a bed. I was staying anyway jusy figured I'd have to sleep in a chair. I will keep you all posted! Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers! I love you all!

Congratulations COURTNEY!! Whoo-hoo now you can join ALL of us LOSERS!!! :smile:

Great luck on the twin beds MOM... now wasn't all that worry for nothing???

How many days will she have to be in hospital?

Did your Insurance cover all this?

[jackie506 1]

Peaches we will be here 2-3 days. Our insurance paid for all of the surgery except for 128.00. Court thanked the doctor and said 'am I really going to be healthy now?'. He said yes and she started crying thanking him. Then she just asked me if they really did the surgery and I told her yes. She wanted the blankets removed so she could see for sure and she started crying again and said 'it really happened!'. Tell dr glasscock thank you so much. Then she says 'he didn't take anything else out tho did he?'. Lol. She is definately happy and still loopy.

[phyllser 3]

Cut my 1/2 mile walk from 25 minutes to 18 minutes! Maybe because it was raining!! LOL! No.. I'm walking considerably faster than I was.. and with a more normal stride. No pain. Down to 1-2 pain pills a day. Took one yesterday before PT an one at bedtime because my knee was hurting after about 20 minutes working out on the Wii Fit. None today, though.. Feeling really good!

Have a pork roast in the oven, and some sweet potato strips. Yummy!

Glad to hear everything went so well with Courtney!

We are making great progress with our packing.. if you don't listen to Earl. He is always stressing about something! LOL

He's agreed to go to lunch with Tracy tomorrow. That's good! High school she worked at before she was laid off has a parade every fall and she's always missed it because even though hte kids all left for the parade... she had to stay in the health room in case of any incidents. So she's looking forward to being able to watch the parade. So we're going early to get a good place to watch, so we'll have lunch first.

[phyllser 3]

Peaches we will be here 2-3 days. Our insurance paid for all of the surgery except for 128.00. Court thanked the doctor and said 'am I really going to be healthy now?'. He said yes and she started crying thanking him. Then she just asked me if they really did the surgery and I told her yes. She wanted the blankets removed so she could see for sure and she started crying again and said 'it really happened!'. Tell dr glasscock thank you so much. Then she says 'he didn't take anything else out tho did he?'. Lol. She is definitely happy and still loopy.

That is so sweet! Courtney sounds like a real sweetheart!! I know... she's on drugs!! LOL! But...when our defenses are down... sometimes we're more free to express our real feelings.

[phyllser 3]

Don't know what dates you gals want to consider for our next summer Lucky #7 reunion, but I just looked at Holiday Inns in the area. I found a pretty good rate at a Holiday Inn in Marysville.. about 10 miles from where we live. Rate was about $30 a night less than the one in Everett with basically the same amenities ($104-108 per night for 2 queen beds) and probably a little better location. Indoor pool & hot tub, exercise room, complimentary Breakfast, microwave & refrigerator in room, free Wi-Fi, 32" flat screen TV. Dates I looked at July 22-26, 2010. There is a LARGE casino/hotel in Marysville, and a huge outlet mall right next to it. And, of course, lots of other attractions in the area.

I have sent an email to the Busy Bee quilters of Snohomish WA to see what activities they might have scheduled for July 2010.

I have told you that I am seriously flirting with ONDERLAND! I made a declaration to Earl today that I thought that deserved another REWARD, and I choose a COACH PURSE! I have a knock off... but I want a real one! There was only a very quiet, pathetic groan in response, so I may be purse shopping this weekend!!

Edited October 2, 2009 by phyllser

[cramerk 1]

Home, lost dinner. Too much stress I guess. I hit the wall, going to take a shower and go to bed.

Jackie, whewww, relax now!!

Steph, get Michael to the residential facility.

Did some stress eating. Only Jerky, but probably too much.

Chat tomorrow.