Never Again...

[acasner 0]

Wow, this post about Never Again was really touching! I am in the process of "exploring" lap band surgery. I am what they call "extremely obese" but at 6 foot tall and an really large frame I wear 2XL and go to the gym to work out every day. I walk 2 miles every day and ride the stationary bike 4 miles every day. I'm not flabby and have a heart rate of 65 resting. However, I weigh 325. That is so heartbreaking. I had tried really hard about 4 years ago and lost 90 lbs but that was by being on phentermine for 1 year straight! I bought it over the internet. But after a while it didn't do good for my body and i stopped taking it and so the weight just flew back on right back to 330. I was crushed. Now at 47 it's really hard to lose weight (maybe it was the phentermine shock) so now i'm considering the lap band. Problem is I am really scared. This lap band is a permanent fixture. What if it breaks? what if my body rejects it? what if i get too skinny? What if I die? Will my husband of 31 years still love me? (i'm sure he will) Will the reversal surgery cost the same amount as the original cost? Even if it's a rejection? Could someone help me get over this fear? I know that only I can get over the fear, but I really need to hear it. Hubbie doesn't want me to have it he is very nervous and worries a lot, but he supports me and is willing to come to a seminar. I am having mixed feelings about it and desperately need some advise on what to do. I know that in the end I am the only one who can make the decisions, but maybe it'll be easier to make the decisions with some help. Thanks guys and sorry about the book

I am the same height and weight as you, and because I am tall and have a bigger body structure I carry my weight very well. Noone believes me that I weight 330lbs. When I first decided I was going to start the journey people kept saying no no no you're not big enough, blah blah blah. For the first time in my life I got the nerve to tell people how much I actually weighed. When people heard that I weight 330lbs they were in shock. It helped me get people on my side and understand why I needed to go through with this. The lap band is really a "safe" surgery... I am 4 weeks post op and haven't lost much but I am still in bandster hell. I get my first fill in 3 weeks and that should help start the weight loss. As you said, only you can make the choice but I think it would be an excellent one for you.

[thinoneday 445]

Where r u located Eryka?

Good Morning kittkat2009, I live in San Antonio, Texas. how about you?

[thinoneday 445]

I am the same height and weight as you, and because I am tall and have a bigger body structure I carry my weight very well. Noone believes me that I weight 330lbs. When I first decided I was going to start the journey people kept saying no no no you're not big enough, blah blah blah. For the first time in my life I got the nerve to tell people how much I actually weighed. When people heard that I weight 330lbs they were in shock. It helped me get people on my side and understand why I needed to go through with this. The lap band is really a "safe" surgery... I am 4 weeks post op and haven't lost much but I am still in bandster hell. I get my first fill in 3 weeks and that should help start the weight loss. As you said, only you can make the choice but I think it would be an excellent one for you.

good morning! Thank you for posting your post, i felt like there actually is another person in this world who can totally relate to me. . . thank you so much, question though, what is banster hell? am I going to regret this No one has warned me about that . . what is it? I know, don't you just hate when people tell you " your not fat" "you don't need to lose weight" I love this one " fat people are happy people" yah right???? any how thanks for being there and thanks for understanding. . .

[ciaraethan 0]

Just wanted to see how everyone is doing, this is a great thread!

I've lost the "bulk" of the weight I wanted to lose after surgery and am very happy with my size now (14-no W, just a regular 14!) although I do intend to keep losing. Now that I have a little prospective I wanted to post my list...

Never again...will I be the fat mom picking up my kids at school...now I'm the "Hot" mom

Never again...will I shop in the plus-sized section of ANY store. I only shop "normal" sizes. Went from 2x to L

Never again...will I hesitate to buy a tank top for fear of my flabby arms. My arms are getting toned and are "regular" not fat

Never again..will I wear capri pants in 100 degree heat in Florida because I'm embarassed to wear shorts

Never again...will I avoid shopping at The Forum (at Caesars) because I can't fit into anything at any store

Never again..will I wonder if my children are proud of me

OMG!

I felt like crying when i read this.

I want to be the hot mom at school!..lol

My 6 year old daughter is always tell me to lose all the extra pounds. Im in the process of get this done..looking for a good Dr. in Jersey.. I once was at 150 back in 2001 and im at 230.. boohoo

U inspired me!!!

[john47 0]

OK, some from a guy.

Never again will I have to look at peoples faces hoping I don't sit next to them when I get on a plane.

Never again will I have to sit down like a lady when I go for a pee.

Never again will I be grateful to buy a shirt "just because it fits" and not because I like it.

Never again will I be ashamed to go swimming with my young daughter.

But most importantly.........

Never again will I ever let myself get in this condition again.

[acasner 0]

OK, some from a guy.

Never again will I have to look at peoples faces hoping I don't sit next to them when I get on a plane.

Never again will I have to sit down like a lady when I go for a pee.

Never again will I be grateful to buy a shirt "just because it fits" and not because I like it.

Never again will I be ashamed to go swimming with my young daughter.

But most importantly.........

Never again will I ever let myself get in this condition again.

I love the last one... NEVER AGAIN WILL I LET MYSELF GET IN THIS CONDITION... none of us will and we all have each other here for support!

[acasner 0]

good morning! Thank you for posting your post, i felt like there actually is another person in this world who can totally relate to me. . . thank you so much, question though, what is banster hell? am I going to regret this :thumbup: No one has warned me about that . . what is it? I know, don't you just hate when people tell you " your not fat" "you don't need to lose weight" I love this one " fat people are happy people" yah right???? any how thanks for being there and thanks for understanding. . .

Bandster Hell... well it's about the first 2-3 months after surgery. Most of it is "emotions" that you go through and doubting if you should of had the surgery to begin with. The first 10 days after surgery you are on a liquid diet. It's HELL! Honestly, if it wouldn't have been for this site I would have caved in, but everytime I felt so hungry and down and out I just came here and got picked right back up. This site truly is the greatest thing! So anyways... then after liquids its the mushy stage and then about a month out it's solid food. So, it's hell because you want to eat things that you can't and your emotions are playing with. Now, I didn't have gas problems but a lot of people will tell you they had awful painful gas.. thank God I was lucky.

I am 4 weeks post op and have only lost about 10lbs.. now this is part of bandster hell... you think you should be losing more weight but your body needs time to heal and get normal again. After you are able to get a fill you will start losing weight (I haven't had mine yet but people assure me)... So.... most of it really is mental and emotional hell but it will be so worth it in the end.

[SlimDownDani 1]

Thank you so much for this thread! Truly inspiring to me because I'm on day one (of two) of Clear Liquids before my surgery- Spent the evening watching food Porn.

Here are my never agains:

I will never again see the inside of Lane Bryant, Avenue, Ashley Stewart, Catherines, or the Encore dept at Nordstorm.

I will never again have people say to me that I'd be so much prettier if I "really tried" to lose the weight.

I will never again say no to those ultra sexy heels.

I will never again be a size 24.

I will never again use food to make myself feel better.

I will never again change clothes 4 times before going to work because the mirror shows just how big a size 24 really is. (Next time, I'll change because I can't decide which outfit is cuter!)

:thumbup:

Current weight 300

Surgery Date: 9/9/09

[dlacny 0]

I am just about to have my 6th month visit. I have jumped through most of the hoops, but I have to wait for insurance approval.

I feel really nervous. I guess that is normal. I don't want to hope for too much fearing that my attempts at weight loss will be crushed again. You know that scenario, lose 3 lb. and gain 5 lb. yo-yo. Well that's what I am afraid of. I can just hear the "I told you so" coming from my husband :sad: and family. For them to tell me that I went through all this and spent all this money for nothing!:mad:

Deep breath. This too shall pass.

Don't worry about what your family may or may not say. You are doing this for you. Stay focused on you -- for once.

Dore

[bradybrat 0]

GREAT inspiration! Loved it! Good luck and God Bless ya Girl!

[bradybrat 0]

AMEN! You go Girl!

[thinoneday 445]

Bandster Hell... well it's about the first 2-3 months after surgery. Most of it is "emotions" that you go through and doubting if you should of had the surgery to begin with. The first 10 days after surgery you are on a liquid diet. It's HELL! Honestly, if it wouldn't have been for this site I would have caved in, but everytime I felt so hungry and down and out I just came here and got picked right back up. This site truly is the greatest thing! So anyways... then after liquids its the mushy stage and then about a month out it's solid food. So, it's hell because you want to eat things that you can't and your emotions are playing with. Now, I didn't have gas problems but a lot of people will tell you they had awful painful gas.. thank God I was lucky.

I am 4 weeks post op and have only lost about 10lbs.. now this is part of bandster hell... you think you should be losing more weight but your body needs time to heal and get normal again. After you are able to get a fill you will start losing weight (I haven't had mine yet but people assure me)... So.... most of it really is mental and emotional hell but it will be so worth it in the end.

Thank you so much for explaining that to me. . . yes I can just imagine, it's like being on a non-band diet, you work so hard at it and in the end you've lost MAYBE 10 lbs. . . it's so very discouraging. . . I haven't even been banded yet but i find this site extremely helpful. . . so many new friends who have been through this and can totally relate to what your going through. . when I get banded this site will become my second family! Who knows, might even become my first! hehehehe :thumbup:

[xmagirl 0]

Don't worry about what your family may or may not say. You are doing this for you. Stay focused on you -- for once.

Dore

Thanks, I needed that kick in the butt.

Sometimes, I just think that everyone is judging me. I guess they are, but it's the little innuendos that hurt so much. Even my medical doctor reminded me again today that this is a lifestyle change. I feel like I can't live up to that big change.

[thinoneday 445]

Thanks, I needed that kick in the butt.

Sometimes, I just think that everyone is judging me. I guess they are, but it's the little innuendos that hurt so much. Even my medical doctor reminded me again today that this is a lifestyle change. I feel like I can't live up to that big change.

OK! That last sentence "I feel like I can't live up to that big change" that totally sounds like your setting yourself up for failure. I'm sorry you feel that way, but honey, why did you do this band thing? You did it cause you were unhappy with how your life had become, and now with the band your still unhappy? I'm not trying to sound judgemental or like the shrink next door, but it's so clear to see here that your unhappy. Maybe try new things, plant a flower, watch it grow, go shop, take a walk (its amazing what that can do) or chat with another friend. But before you can succeed you must change in the sad you. Depression hurts, it hurts more than being hit, I know! Been there done that. . .but I made a pac with myself that I would never let that demon possess me ever again. . . and you know what, I WON!!!! No more pills, no more shrinks, it's just me and like me, you too can and WILL WIN the battle. . .

[xmagirl 0]

OK! That last sentence "I feel like I can't live up to that big change" that totally sounds like your setting yourself up for failure. I'm sorry you feel that way, but honey, why did you do this band thing? You did it cause you were unhappy with how your life had become, and now with the band your still unhappy? I'm not trying to sound judgemental or like the shrink next door, but it's so clear to see here that your unhappy. Maybe try new things, plant a flower, watch it grow, go shop, take a walk (its amazing what that can do) or chat with another friend. But before you can succeed you must change in the sad you. Depression hurts, it hurts more than being hit, I know! Been there done that. . .but I made a pac with myself that I would never let that demon possess me ever again. . . and you know what, I WON!!!! No more pills, no more shrinks, it's just me and like me, you too can and WILL WIN the battle. . .

Haven't had it yet. I am just apprehensive. Just afraid of going through so much. People always watching how well you are doing. Too much pressure. LOL I know once I start losing, I will feel better about it. Thanks. I appreciate the great advice.