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I was baned June 30,09 so I am still early in the game. I listened and understood that life would be diffrent, but I emotionaly I am still riding the rollacoster with ups and downs. I have suffered with depression since childhood. I am socialable person in a unbalanced body with a unbalnced brain. This past winter 08-09 I was missreble. I was seeing a proffesional theropist, my pastor, and a friend. Spring came and I came closer to being band. I was happy. I grinned 24/7 from the day I got my approval from insurane. I was so excited to have my surgery. The day came still filling good. I went home felling ok (sore and tired) a week went by and my energystarted to come back started to feel like my self again. Then two days before going from liquids to mushies I stared to get nervous. Then a lot of sad things have happened in my community some directly related to me some not. One that is our pastor and his family have resined from our church (serious health problems).Then there are other things less about me though. But I am just so sad. I just can't seem to focus on anything good just the sad stuff.:bored:

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I hear you! I have had a really rough year as well! I am Bipolar and off my meds...I have good days, but I have a lot of bad days! Sometimes it's hard to see the light, but if you dig down and look hard enough you will see that little pin point of light glowing in the darkness! Try writting down your thoughts! Try to find a good side to things....sometimes it's hard, but...try. Watch a funny movie or a fun book! Hell watch some cartoons! :lol: Good luck and I hope things get better for you!

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*BIG HUG* I hope things get better. Im not sure what advice to offer other than maybe trying the counseling again. It will get better though. Just try and take things one day at a time :lol:

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Thank you both so much! I appretiate your replies. I saw my theropist after I posted and I am doing better now, but your replies mean a lot it is so nice when you can just kind of pour your heart out and there is someone out there who understands. The lapband alone puts a spin on who understands what each day is like. I have a lot to be thankful for and your reply is one of those things. Thanks for the encouragement.

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You're in the very beginning of being banded. Probably barely back on "real" food. This is a tough time under the best of circumstances. It does get better, though, I promise! But time and a good therapist will get you through the rough spot and once you start seeing the scale move and you start to physically feel better, the emotional boost of being able to say "I can do this. I AM doing this." will help too.

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Cathy, thanks for the reply it's funny how somedays you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and other days when it seems like there is nothing wrong in the world. I know the latter is less common for my self, but on the good days I feel like "I was sad yesterday,oh I don't rember why" crazy the emotional amnesia. Good day can't rember any thing bad. Bad day's can't rember anything good. Today's my birthday and I feel very bless. My friends called and wished me Happy Birthday. I have friends on lap band talk that take time to reply to my problems and concerns. I am thankful.

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You should also consider medication for depression. I suffered with depression for many years always trying to blame it on something else. Finally last year I found myself unemployed, about to lose my house and just feeling like their was no way out. I finally went and saw a great psychiatrist who started me on medication. It is the best decision I ever made. After getting my inside feeling so good I decided I wanted the outside to look good too.

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Hang in there! I totally understand the frustration with life after the band!

It is funny....there are days when I am so thankful for the band, and so pleased with my decision, and other days were I wish I could just take it out and eat whatever it is I want to eat! We just have to stay positive and remember all of the reasons why we got the band in the first place.

I have had the band for almost a year now, but just joined this site. The last couple of weeks have been so much better for me because of this site. It is really nice to read about other peoples stories, questions, difficulties, and to know that none of us are alone out there.

Hope you are feeling better!

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