Dreams shattered....Any hope or is it over???

[realme 0]

It has been more than a year.

Before I was banded I had dreams of getting thin. I smiled and cried at various success stories. I thought that my life would finally change for ever. I thought I would again look great as I used to 8 years back, I would get healthy and most importantly I would get pregnant. Except for losing 20 pounds in first month (pre and post surgery weeks) since then I have not lost any weight. I started at 230 and currently at 210. What I have today - big dark ugly scars on my stomach and pain when I touch those areas. People who operated me told me this pain is due to scar tissues that my doc gave during surgery. I had 3 fills in past one year and I was told that's enough.

My mom and husband tells me to take this stupid band away as they are worried about me and have completely lost trust in this concept.

Is there any hope for me??? It is hard to accept that it has failed. I have failed despite of following all the instructions.

Is there any angel out there who can show me some direction?

Edited July 3, 2009 by realme

[ocotillo 0]

Do you journal your food? Despite all the stuff out there, the only way you lose weight is if you decrease calories and increase motion. You can do that is several ways, and some don't work very well. Start and keep a journal for a month. Note the time you eat, what you eat exactly (the food, the Condiments, the amount), note what kind of mood you were in. Write down everything you eat and when you do it. If you only do this for a week, I think you might find your answer. Be honest and please ask for help from some of the very experienced and successful people on this sight. You are also welcome to PM me. There is not reason why you should not succeed.

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[nazzy 1]

to lose weight to you have to exersize,i walk 2 miles everyday or more,its hothere so i go when sun goes down.alot days i dont want to go but i do.i watch what i eat,i have a 14 cc b andand have 9 cc,i lost another 10 pds last month and this month doing better,its been 7 months,i dont think i need another fill this m onth cause im not hungry and im not eating a whole lot,as far as scars mine is like almost gone.they healed great,

[nazzy 1]

o i forgot i lost 55 so far,and its coming off faster now

[Cleo's Mom 257]

Check how many calories a day you are getting. There are some good online sites like www.dailyplate.com that will help you to do that. Also, exercise daily for at least 30 minutes. Do something that you like. If you don't like it, you won't do it. I do the treadmill 5 days a week, on 2 of those days I also go to the gym and do weight bearing exercises and the other 2 days I got an exercise dance video with oldies songs that I like. I had to shake things up because the treadmill everyday just wasn't doing it anymore for me.

That being said, I lost so much weight on my own and then with the 6 month pre-op diet and then all that liquid only before and after the surgery that I have only lost 15 lbs. from my surgery of Sept. 2008. But I have lost 75 pounds altogether. My weight loss might be 1lb a month at this point. If that.

I have a 4cc band and was overfilled to 3cc's and had to have 1cc removed. But even when I was too tight and had pain, reflux and heartburn, I was hungry. I still am but I have to use willpower and what little restriction I have to help me. I do journal my food intake. That helps. But I know the band will not work for me like all these people who have found their sweet spot. I am also not willing to put up with the complications I had before to lose more weight.

So I will continue to exercise and count calories and see where that takes me. Try that and see if it helps.

Make sure your food is healthy, nutritious and provides variety. I believe you should have veggies and fruit each day, not just Protein. Some will tell you to drink a lot of Water between meals. You could try that, too.

Good luck to you. I think if you make some changes you will start to see success.

[lizzypatsy 0]

Hi, I'm in the same boat, Im a year post band and no result only pain and vomitting, I can't eat meat, veg or fruit, the only thing i eat is crackers, chocolate and custard as that is all that goes down, I'm dehydrated all the time and life in general sucks. Wouldn't recommend this to anyone.

Edited July 8, 2009 by lizzypatsy
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[Enchanted 2]

RealMe: When was the last time you saw your doctor? Sounds like you probably need a fill. How did they determine that your fill was sufficient? If you're hungry, snacking, and not losing weight, you are probably not tight enough.

Lizzy: Sounds like you also need to see your doctor. If you can only eat food that slide right down and aren't getting in enough Water, you are probably too tight.

I hate HATE going to the doctor, but I'm committed. Even when I gained 12 pounds in May, I came home from my trip and immediately scheduled an appointment. I'm now going back every two weeks (accountability!) until I lose what I've gained.

You have to take charge of your health. You have to.