Skinny Ass Boyfriend

[BillOh 13]

Speaking as a man, I don't think men mature till at least 35 :tongue_smilie:. Now, its easy to look at your picture and see why he finds you attractive, but he isn't thinking long term. My wife and I both went through this. I didn't love her any less, and still found her attractive when she was your weight, but now I know I will have her around a lot longer. At our age, that becomes more important. As for your need to alter yourself, that is just what he is doing at the gym.

[1234567890- 2]

It would be nice if you could make him wear a fat suit for a day. Just because you are confident doesn't mean you want to put your life at risk and that is what obesity does. Maybe he is insecure in being able to keep you when your already such a dynamo. I asked my sig other what he thought about it and he said he loves me not my size. I think the only issue would be if he is one of those guys who are only attracted to bigger women which does happen. Sit down and have a conversation with him. But in the end you have to do whats right for you!

The more I think about it..read you all comments, and how how he is treating me as the date gets closer. I know that he loves me, I think he may be scared of losing me. I use to date an NBA player right before I met him. I also gained about 50lbs or more since we have been togather. I know hes not attracted to big girls ( I have seen pictures of exs). I think he just made me an exception. I just dont know, hopefully it will all work out. I think we will be able to stand this test and if we do this will really let me know that me and him are ment to be togather...I might end up marrying him after all

[1234567890- 2]

Speaking as a man, I don't think men mature till at least 35 . Now, its easy to look at your picture and see why he finds you attractive, but he isn't thinking long term. My wife and I both went through this. I didn't love her any less, and still found her attractive when she was your weight, but now I know I will have her around a lot longer. At our age, that becomes more important. As for your need to alter yourself, that is just what he is doing at the gym.

Thanks so much...I dont think men mature until at least 40...and my dad just turned 42..I still dont think he has it all the way..lol. I am glad you and your wife had the procedure..and you all both look wonderful! I know as we grow older we will grow closer...I want him to be even more proud of me..I want him to be happy there is this sexy girl on his arm that isnt twice his size..( I am literally twice his size...hes like 144 or something) Thanks so much for your comment..

[mgmagnolia 1]

Maybe he's feeling threatened by you losing weight. Maybe he's afraid that once you've lost your weight that you'll lose interest in him and find a new guy. Or maybe he's someone who doesn't deal with change very well. Sounds to me like he's feeling insecure about it and worried more than he lets on.

[TSB 1]

Does this strike you as total hypocrisy? It does me.

Don't know him OR you...but I can't help but wonder if he prefers you fat (for HIS ego) and is running this line of BS to keep you that way?

Just my 2 cents, for whatever that's worth!

He could be a "chubby chaser" as well and maybe just finds big girls physically attractive????????

[1234567890- 2]

I am officially approved!!!!!! I am so excited...they moved my surgery date to this coming Tuesday:thumbup:!! I can not wait!!:biggrin::thumbup::smile2:

[BillOh 13]

Wow, thats fast. Good luck.

[Evie71609 0]

Congrats! Mine is July 16th- i am going to Michigan to have mine done because of being self pay-

so good luck and keep in touch.

[1234567890- 2]

Hey yall..I have a question that isnt about my Skinny ass boyfriend..

Since I opted out of the special program that cost $2500. They said I will have to pay for my own fills and then ask my insurance company for my money? Is this normal?

[BillOh 13]

Hey yall..I have a question that isnt about my Skinny ass boyfriend..

Since I opted out of the special program that cost $2500. They said I will have to pay for my own fills and then ask my insurance company for my money? Is this normal?

Normal seems to vary a lot with different programs and different insurance carriers. Many people here have said fills cost $200-300, and most people only get a few, for what that is worth.

[isaviolinist 11]

My fiancee isn't 'skinny ass' but he is very tall (unlike me, I'm 5'2). He is overweight, but he holds his weight very well and really doesn't look very overweight. Its a different kind of frustration because he can eat whatever and pretty much still look the same, whereas if I eat half a teaspoon of ice cream I gain 5 pounds. However, he is very supportive of my decision to have WLS and has been nothing short of amazing throughout this whole process.

The good thing is, we both have weight to lose, and so now we are able to help each other do it. Also, as I am losing weight, I think he is getting motivated to lose weight as well!

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...oh okay...I was just making sure I wasent the only one..because they were trying to force me to do this program..I didnt know if they were just saying that to f with me..[QUOTE=BillOh;1270067]Normal seems to vary a lot with different programs and different insurance carriers. Many people here have said fills cost $200-300, and most people only get a few, for what that is worth.

[Delean 0]

This is so interesting. I wish I could get my husband to talk about what he likes, he is so quiet. If your bf is a loving supporting "soft place to fall" as Dr Phil would say, maybe he does just need to come to terms with your desire to get healthy. Perhaps he is comfortable with you and likes your weight. If I can pretend to know you from the little bit I have read...you seem to put on a good face for everyone. The confident "big girl." Maybe he is confused with your motivation for your surgery. Maybe he wonders if you will still want his 'skinny ass" as a boyfriend when you are a skinny ass yourself!:confused: Best of luck to you both. De-Lean

[justcurious 0]

Good luck hun...I hope everything turns out okay

[1234567890- 2]

Hi!!!

Im back from the "dead" and I swear it has been a task and a half. I have lost 15lbs already...follow your diets!! I am very excited but let me just say..

:cursing:WHY DIDNT YOU TELL ME THIS SURGERY HURTS LIKE HELL????:thumbup:

I have experianced the worst pain in my life....morphine and percs were my new best friends...That only lasted about 5 days though...and then it seemed as if I couldnt chew enough damn Gas X to save my life!!! ooooo...GOD!! just thinking about it all makes me sad and want to cry!

But the good news is...I am well on my way to a healthy recovery :laugh:. 15lbs down in one week is nothing short of amazing to me! I am excited that since im on full liquids now I can actually feel myself get full off of 8oz of milk!! This was the ansewer for me! I know once I heal and get everything going I am going to be able to exercise and eat right and get this weight off for good!! As of right now I can tell all of you that this surgery is worth it. Lets see what I say in a month though...

As for my Skinny ass boyfriend if anyone cares to know. He never left my side...ever...he was the most and is still the most compassionate person. If I needed meds at 4am he was there, helping me walk, massages, dozens and dozens of roses and 2 "health nut teddy bears" (they are these cute little stuff animals with work out gear on and health facts) I think he was just nervous...but I see now that he reallly truly and always will love me:wub:..even if I am getting a massage and start tooting like its going out of stlyle.