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Three weeks after surgery and going to a family wedding this weekend...HELP!!!!



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I was banded on May 20th and every thing seams to be going well. I am now down 15 lbs since the surgery. I am on the mushy stage of foods. I am going to a family wedding this weekend. I haven't told any family members of the surgery. How do I get a way with not eating at the reception without anyone taking notice? The wedding is in the afternoon so I will eat something before I go but it will be a long night with tons of food around. Any suggestions?:thumbdown:

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I usually say I recently eat and still full. I do tell people I was dieting, so they begin to expect weightloss and it also helps me to make good choices with I am with friends and they just thing I have gain super-willpower.

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Not sure what kind of reception you will be at, but there is nothing that says you can't take the food, a little, and then pull the old "play with it on the plate routine" so that people will think you are eating it. If possible, and you are allowed, choose food that you maybe can mush up and eat slowly. Enjoy the company. Talk, laugh and be sociable. Te weeding is about celebrating right? Eating is just a small part of the celebration. Being with your family is the most important part. Be a social butterfly :thumbdown:

Elgrad

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Believe me, most people really won't notice. I had to go to a family picnic 2 days before my surgery, which I hadn't told most of them about, and only 1 person even noticed I wasn't eating. I told them I had eaten before I came and that I might get something later. They really don't pay attention, especially when they have a plate in front of them. But to make yourself feel better, do put stuff on the plate & move it around, or find something like pudding or Soup that you can have and make it last.

Have fun!

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I went to an easter bar b que three days after surgery and kept a drink with me at all times to make sure no one noticed I wasn't eating. I kept making sure everyone had what they needed and focused on feeding my kids. No one even asked if I had eaten. I even ate Jello with the kids.

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Mingle around the room, walk around and talk to different people, that way no one even notices what your doing. When it is time to eat excuse yourself and go to the bar for some Water or something, I doubt anyone will notice.

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