I Need a Boost-Me-Up- Please Help

[Rukhshandah 0]

Well, my parents found out my plans to get the Sleeve in Mexico with Dr. Aceves. Wow did I get a full attack.

I feel so bad right now. They got on me about going to Mexico, that I am crazy. I tried to explain that I've researched and have been talking to all of you and I am confident in the doctor and hospital. Still they came back saying the internet is all lies. They argued that anyone on these chats and forums could be by people who are paid to promote it. I offered all my research and for them to view Dr. A's website, but it was no use.

They went on and on about how I may have complications in the future and why am I going to risk my life for this.

Can you believe they even attacked my husband. He is the greatest man ever and he supports me 100%. They feel he doesn't realy love me if he's going to let me do this; he must only care about looks. That is NOT true. My husband loves me no matter what size I am. I am doing this for me; for my happiness and health.

I know my parents are just being parents and they love me. And I know I am an adult and the most important opinions are from me and my husband. But I've always been a family girl, and the fact that they are fighting me and see this surgery as only resulting is a negative way really hurts me.

Now I am even doubting myself. Am I doing the right thing. Is Mexico and Dr. A right (I can't afford it here in the states). Will this decision make my life Hell later due to problems. My heart says GO for it, but now my head is swimming.

I really need a boost right now.

Rose

Hi Rose,

This all sounds like my family a month ago when I went for my sleeve. I'm from a big family and told my family that I was going abroad to have the sleeve, one by one I got told off by everyone.

I'm from the Uk and on 24th March I had the sleeve in Czech Republic through Cosmetic Bliss. WhenI was leaving even my husband said this is you decision I don't want you to do this. I think he was worried if anthing happened to me out there he will not be able to live with it which, is understandable when you've been with them for a long time.

I still went ahead and it's the best thing I ever did I wish I had done it earlier and now my family are all happy with me as they can see the difference in me.

Don't worry about it they will all be happy when they see the difference in you as mine did.

All the best

Rukhshandah

[MacMadame 81]

[i can attest to the fact that Daisy, Susan, WASA, Mac, myself, and others do NOT work for Dr. Aceves.

Dr. Aceves isn't even my surgeon.

But I did my research and I think Dr. A and Dr. Rumblaut are two of the best surgeons in Mexico.

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

If you would like me to copy and paste or email all the incredible information on Dr. A credentials that WasA sent me, I would be happy to do it. He is better than a lot of American doctors . That is for sure!

After reading all of this, my daughter who is an RN, felt a lot better about putting my life in his hands.

[Jaffa 5]

Yes, they are saying things out of ignorance. But, in reality they are scared and feel guilty for a lot of things. They don't want to feel guilty if you die.

I know, I'm a parent. And I have a child who needs to have it done. But, I won't push too hard, not because I don't know it is the right thing, but because of fear and guilt.

My wife, is going in late June to Dr. Aceves. I did a lot of research, and he was my pick. Frankly, there are people who are cheaper even in the US, but in reality, my wife won't be someones learning curve or ginny pig....so I'm very comfortable with our decision.

[Elisabethsew 50]

Your wife will do great and I look forward to following her progress.

[OnTheWay to Thin 0]

People who dont have weight problems dont understand what it is like. That being said, I too am slightly afraid of Mexico and am glad I have insurance to pay for my procedure. I know they have had great results and many people on LBT are testimants to that. I just worry about follow up care and complications. Have you checked with your insurance to see if there is any possibility you can get payment for a procedure? Just do your homework and you will make the right decision. Your parents will not likely change their mind, which is made mostly of fear and love for you, but they will get used to it eventually.

[DownInSocal 12]

People who dont have weight problems dont understand what it is like. That being said, I too am slightly afraid of Mexico and am glad I have insurance to pay for my procedure. I know they have had great results and many people on LBT are testimants to that. I just worry about follow up care and complications. Have you checked with your insurance to see if there is any possibility you can get payment for a procedure? Just do your homework and you will make the right decision. Your parents will not likely change their mind, which is made mostly of fear and love for you, but they will get used to it eventually.

You are right. People who don't have weight problems don't understand.

Most of my coworkers know I am doing the surgery and I have to lose 10lbs before I can get a surgery date. So what does one do? Bring me brownies today. WTF? I love her dearly, she is really one of my best friends but geez. I don't think she was trying to sabotage me, she was really just being nice. She has always been skinny so she doesn't get it I think. I really should not eat "even one" brownie.

There is another skinny coworker who looked shocked when I told her I was having surgery. She doesn't think I need it. I am 90lbs overweight with hypertension and I don't need it? I a sure she was just thinking stop stuffing your face and you will be fine.

A heavy coworker I have is uncomfortable talking about it but I think that is their own issues. Another heavy coworker thought it was scary to think of "doing that to your body" but she didn't say it in a negative way, just being honest. I am thinking what are you and I doing every day to our hearts and our joints?

Some people are supportive I guess and some are not. I am lucky the most important person, my husband, is all for whatever it is that I think is best for me.

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

Yes, they are saying things out of ignorance. But, in reality they are scared and feel guilty for a lot of things. They don't want to feel guilty if you die.

I know, I'm a parent. And I have a child who needs to have it done. But, I won't push too hard, not because I don't know it is the right thing, but because of fear and guilt.

My wife, is going in late June to Dr. Aceves. I did a lot of research, and he was my pick. Frankly, there are people who are cheaper even in the US, but in reality, my wife won't be someones learning curve or ginny pig....so I'm very comfortable with our decision.

You know, we like you so much we should dub you our honorary Sleeve Brother! ;o)

You should invite your wife here. We want to meet her!!

[Ruthi 60]

I second that motion! Welcome sleeve brother!

[OnTheWay to Thin 0]

Oh dear I have my date now I am officially the 28th of May, and have to lose 10lbs by then. Which I will do but the first person who brings me brownies at work better run fast! LOL... I have a heavy coworker who started looking into this with me, she is ending up going for the gastric bypass because the doctor thinks it is best for her, but since we have been going through this I have been trying really hard to be concious of what I eat, but man she has been going like each meal is the last supper. I dont get that, but I guess I am glad I dont. Good luck to you.

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

Oh dear I have my date now I am officially the 28th of May, and have to lose 10lbs by then. Which I will do but the first person who brings me brownies at work better run fast! LOL... I have a heavy coworker who started looking into this with me, she is ending up going for the gastric bypass because the doctor thinks it is best for her, but since we have been going through this I have been trying really hard to be concious of what I eat, but man she has been going like each meal is the last supper. I dont get that, but I guess I am glad I dont. Good luck to you.

CONGRATS!!! That's fantastic. You get your life back!

I'm really happy for you! Are you excited?

No worries about last dinner. We all go through it. I could tell you not to do it but you will anyway. Just keep remembering that you WILL eat those foods again, you are getting a sleeve and NOT a band! ;o)

[OnTheWay to Thin 0]

Yes kind of excited and kind of scared. But I am doing the band not the sleeve, my insurance wont pay for a sleeve at least not right now. I am not too worried about what i wont eat in the future, just want to get this show on the road...

[Jaffa 5]

I love the sleeve concept....I accept the sleeve brother nomination!!!!

My wife doesn't ever go on line. She isn't allowed to at work and at home, she just doesn't want to work on a computer.

I'm on a lot because I have to sit all day doing nothing, but wait for people. I'm lucky, working out for a couple of hours a day just helps get rid of the boredom.

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

I love the sleeve concept....I accept the sleeve brother nomination!!!!

My wife doesn't ever go on line. She isn't allowed to at work and at home, she just doesn't want to work on a computer.

I'm on a lot because I have to sit all day doing nothing, but wait for people. I'm lucky, working out for a couple of hours a day just helps get rid of the boredom.

what kind of work do you do that you sit around all day?

Tell your wife she would enjoy the support once she gets her sleeve and teach her how to find us. I bet she will be glad she did.

[Jaffa 5]

Corporate Pilot. I usually fly somewhere for about 45 minutes, then sit around for 12 hours and fly home 45 minutes.