Do you have a loved one w/an eating disorder? If so, how did they react to your WLS?

[SpideyMom 1]

My sister has a long history of eating disorders, and I haven't told her yet that I am going to be banded. She is always competitive, even when there is NO competition. Case in point -- my weight vs. hers. I have always been overweight. She's always been thin. But, sometimes when I have been able to lose weight, she tries to sabatoge my efforts because she's jealous (with no reason at all) and it has caused her eating disorders to get worse.

So, I haven't told her about my surgery yet. But I want to because I love her.

Has *anyone* out there had to deal with a situation like this? If so, how did your relative/friend react when you told them or they found out about your WLS? Were they jealous, supportive, did they try to sabatoge your diet? Did it trigger a relapse for them?

Any suggestions for how to tell her? Any advice is appreciated.

TIA! :thumbup:

[Libbyjane1976 1]

That's a toughie. Has your sister ever sought treatment for her eating disorders? I guess just be honest and say my doctor says i'm overweight and recommended I get this procedure done it's the healthy way to lose weight. Put emphasis on the fact that it's a healthy way to lose weight.

Good luck with this one!

[luluharper1981 0]

My best friend was not very supportive at the beginning. She thought I should just be able to eat small amounts on my own and loose the weight. She is thin and controls her weight. She is finally coming around, and acutally went with me today to get my 2nd fill. Good luck.

[2Flyguys 13]

wow!!!! i can totally relate to this post...my best friend is over weight and cant deal with my weight loss...she is now having bypass surgery on wednesday....she was all 4 the band till her surgeon told her it was going to take her a lot longer with the band to lose 100 pounds...she totally rushed in2 this surgery...she has no idea what she is getting herself into...i ask her ?'s about dumping and how she feels about having her intestines tampered with...her response is "i dont care...i want to lose just as fast as u did"...she is scheduled 4 this wednesday...and has not bought her Vitamins or her Protein drinks...because she is unable to afford them...i'm worried about her....but she is so gung ho about catching up to me....losing a 100 is more important to her than her health....:thumbup:

Edited April 30, 2009 by 2Flyguys