What did you tell your young child?

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I am being banded on April 29 and I have a 2 and 3 year old. What was it like chasing after your 2 year old after surgery? Myt wife is 28 weeks pregnant so I hate to have her do the lifting (bath, car etc).

The first week was the toughest. I was so tired and slept a lot. I had help tho. Between DH and my mom, I was covered for the first 4 weeks.

I had a lifting restriction of 10lbs for 6 weeks. That's about a gallon of milk. Every doc is different, so be sure to ask yours. It's the port attached to abdomen that is what will "pop" if you lift too soon or too hard.

DD totally got in to helping me. She loved it! If she wanted me to pick her up, I'd either have her get up on a chair or I would hunker down and give her a hug and at the first opportunity, we'd sit somewhere and snuggle. Explaining to her again why mama couldn't pick her up. For the most part, she was fine.

We switched cars, DH took my truck and I took his car so DD could climb in to the car on her own and get herself into her seat, then I'd buckle her up. Same getting out.

DH did all the laundry and went shopping with me.

Like I said, DD loves to help and she's pretty independent so it actually worked out pretty well. She climbed on to our bed for diaper changes and dressing/undressing. Bathing her, I couldn't do, it was hard to get down there and then get back up, leaning over to wash, etc. Later it got easier, but the first couple of weeks, no way.

Is there a way you 2 could get some help during the day? At the very least, for the first week? It sure would help a bunch. If wifey wasn't preggers, I'd say no worries, you 2 would be fine but it would help if someone could come in everyday. I know how busy mine is and I only have 1! You'll probably be fine without help but it would be nice.

Best wishes and let me know what you 2 figure out.