male only Women want to know: are you melting?

cmmcguire66 · April 21, 2009

I am newly single and VERY self conscious about my "melting body syndrome" with skin hanging loose. How do you men deal with this in your own personal experience? I am scared to death that some man might want to see me naked, and it's not pretty. Do men feel this self conscious? My ex-husband didn't seem to mind because he saw me as it was happening, so it wasn't like he got this big shock because in clothes I looked like a 7 or 8, but naked I was a 2. Just wanting the male perspective. Thanks, guys.

plain · April 21, 2009

First, let me offer this highly sexist remark: As a female, the difference between how you view your body and how a potential sex partner views your body is vast.

Second, I don't mean to brush aside your feelings. If you are really really self-consious, then maybe turning the lights out might help your confidence?

Renob · April 28, 2009

I have been lucky so far Im more then have way to my goal of losing 120lbs and so far the skin seems to be shrinking with the weight even to the point that the stretch marks on my belly are 90% gone, was not expecting my skin to do so well at 41yo.

My guess is I will end up with a little loose skin in the end but its ok I have always thought of myself as a Sexy Beast weather I was thin or over weight.

If I were you I would not worry about it to much, for me I find a woman gets more sexy the more I get to know her, if she has the personality type I like. Oh and if you find you cant live with it look into getting it removed.

SpiritDriven71 · April 29, 2009

I am self conscious, to the point, that I need surgery. My stomach looks worse than WWI trench battlefield.

When, I was 23 I had open surgery on my intestines. The way they closed me up and the subsequent weight gain over the years my stomach almost looks like a bell pepper.

I am married. My wife does not mind it that much. But when I go to the Doc's and swimming, it bothers me a bit.

I am looking forward to surgery to get rid of it. I hope next year this time to get it done.