What would you do?

[mahelpme 24]

You absolutley do not have to tell him anything! You simply put in your request for time off, it is a medical matter and that's it. He will approve your time off and there should be no further comment. If he is educated, he should know that for him to inquire beyond what you have volunteered to tell him is an invasion of privacy. There are HIPPA laws to protect you. Don't be intimidated by him, just put in your request for time off, at take it . Speak to your Hr Department if you have further concerns. I can tell you from experience as being THE BOSS, we (bosses) are very sensitive to those issues, at least everyone in my company was. Remember, you don't have to disclose anything that you don't want to.

[alatina 1]

in a perfect world thatd be true but take it from me who also is usually the boss-this stuff is RARELY ever kept quiet.

[princess_n_thep 2]

I would tell him a "female type surgery". I know it isn't female specific but it is for you. Plus, most men assume tubes tied or something and don't want to know more.

[alatina 1]

lol-so true.

[Zoe 6]

I agree with Jenna. Or you could try my routine: blush (if you're a pale white person), look shyly away, and say it's a delicate matter. He'll figure it's either a gyne problem or hemorrhoids. If he pushes you, you can assure him that your prognosis is good, and you'll be back to work soon. Good luck!

[Jachut 487]

I wouldnt share the details, its not like you have a close relationship or anything. And if he asks, I'd fib, say gall bladder or something.

I dont think having a lap band is anything to be ashamed of, but at the same time, you dont want all and sundry knowing either, because some people will make those kind of judgements. Unless you suffer from being obese, you simply cannot know what the problems involved are.

If you really want to put him off asking any more questions, just say its girls stuff, lol.

[IVANinNJ 0]

Avoid the whole discussion by using a week's worth of vacation time for the surgery.

Save your sick time in case there is some complication or you get sick.

Remember you are making a commitment to follow-up appointments every month plus bloodwork plus who knows what. You never know when you will need to take a day.

Take advantage of the fact that you can schedule this a month or more in advance.

Since everyone is in agreement that there is no privacy at work and your boss will find out from the medical department anyway, don't get yourself caught up in telling a lie or half truth if he will find out anyway.

[vinesqueen 2]

Well, if you do tell him you are going to have your gall bladder out, then aren't you going to look special if you have to have it out for real?

Honesty is always the best policy.

[NJChick 3]

Well, if you do tell him you are going to have your gall bladder out, then aren't you going to look special if you have to have it out for real?

Honesty is always the best policy.

Thats exactly how I feel. I'm not going to tell him, I'm just gonna say its personal. I'm not ashamed of the band what so ever, its just that I feel he won't understand (yes one of those).

The only thing I can do is talk to medical when I hand in the paperwork and ask them not to say anything. If they blab, then they blab. I know that when companies say "Privacy" they are full of moose kaka. I've seen it over and over. But I can try.

Ivan, I have a LOAD of sick time to take rather than use my vacation. Thats one good thing about the company I work for. But thats a good suggestion, thanks !!

Thanks everyone for your advice

[NJChick 3]

I agree with Jenna. Or you could try my routine: blush (if you're a pale white person), look shyly away, and say it's a delicate matter. He'll figure it's either a gyne problem or hemorrhoids. If he pushes you, you can assure him that your prognosis is good, and you'll be back to work soon. Good luck!

ROFL !!! Yes, I'm pale too

[Fauxnaif 1]

I wouldn't tell him. It's really none of his business. I told no one at my work. I just said "surgery." Let him think it's a female problem or something.

[juliek 0]

Hi, I know you already made your decision, but I will swear I work for your boss's twin. I had major problems with my boss when I had twins and then over back surgery I had 2 years ago. He was in the Navy for years, attended the Navy academy and is super fit. I didn't want to tell him what I was going to do, then a co-worker suggested that I do tell him because he is such a health nut. I did decide to tell him and he was way more supportive than I ever dreamed of. So you never know, he could surprise you. I would probably keep quiet until the last minute, then let him know. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Julie

[LilAngel 0]

This might work for you too...

My boss almost denied my vacation request about an hour ago, so I just said, "Well I really didn't want to discuss this with anyone, which is why I requested vacation in the first place, but I am having surgery and need the time to recover. I will be back to work no problem in a few days though." I think he assumed it was "girly," but serious since I was keeping it close to the vest. He didn't push any further, and granted the time without question at that point. Not dishonest in the least, maybe just intentionally misleading? Hope all is going/went well.