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Everybody has said the right things. The only thing I would add is that when restriction final comes . . . it will make all the difference in the world. You will not be able to deny that the band is working for you at that point, you just have to get there.

It is hard not to eat when you are hungry. If I had to suggest anything to you at this point, it is to cut out the junk food. That will sabotage your banding over the long run. If you are going to eat more, eat healthy things. If you are hungry, fill yourself with Proteins and veggies. If you keep up the junk food habit, you will find that even with restriction the junk food goes down all to easy.

Exercise also makes a huge difference. It also helps you to feel better about yourself. Now that Spring is pretty much here, you should do everything in your power to incorporate it into your life.

Good luck :0)

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thats for the support but i don't deserve all this credit I should have clarified that I lost 48 lbs prior to surgery during my qulaifying period and pre op diet. I lost 10 lbs my 1st weigh in 2 weeks after surgery and 16 my second weigh in when I got my first fill and 7 lbs my last weigh in when I got my 2nd fill. So I really have only lost 31 lbs since surgery. SO you can see my frustration. I am just so scared of gaining the weight back because I can fall back into my old eating habiyts so easily, due to the fact I have no reaction from the surgery. I almost welcome getting sick to teach me when to stop because obviously if I were able to know when to stop I never would og got up to 479 lbs and needed the surgery. I just need some physical indicatiors to tell me to stop or it is enough or this is not the best thing to eat.

You do deserve credit. You lost 48 pounds before surgery... you did it, no one else.

I got banded 3 days after you and have lost almost the same as you have since being banded. It is not easy. I have struggled with depression and lots of personal stuff as well. But no one promised me that it was going to be easy. You are going to have bad days. This is normal. Please stop being so hard on you. You are doing it. Some people have an easier time then others. I had lost very little weight until recently getting another fill and I think this time it is closer to that sweet spot people refer to. My last fill was only ½ cc and I thought to myself “what a waste of time and money. All of this for ½ of a cc???” But it was just enough to put me over that hump. It got me to a point where I feel the restriction and the fullness that people describe. So stop psyching yourself out. Keep trying and stop stressing over it so much. I can say this because I have had to swallow my own medicine recently and do the same thing. It will all work out. But it is work and you have to keep going. You have come so far!! Please add me if you need someone to talk to. I really do understand how hard this is. It has not been an easy road for me either. Take care and keep in touch.

-steph

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thanks for all the support. It helped not be so hard on myself. I went to my appointment yesterday and admitted all the bad things I had done in the last month. I stressed I need some restriction. I gained 5 lbs which is not as bad as I thought it was going to be. I still believe in this choice . I am just anxious to get to the part where I am getting full on the healthy foods with out having to have more than one helping and adding in junk food just to get full. I know there are many successes with this and I know my day is coming. Patience has never been my strong suit but hopefully with this last fill I will start to feel this restriction. My doctor suspects that I lost maybe a cc of fill due to air pockets and stuff so he added 2cc to my band so if he is wrong about me losing Fluid then I am at 5cc if he is right then I am between 4-5cc in there. On mushies today real hard to gauge by that since they don't really fill you . In a week and a half if I still have no restriction then he will add more and not make me wait a month. Onward & upward. Keeping my head up.

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Congratulations on the fill. Good luck!

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thanks for all the support. It helped not be so hard on myself. I went to my appointment yesterday and admitted all the bad things I had done in the last month. I stressed I need some restriction. I gained 5 lbs which is not as bad as I thought it was going to be. I still believe in this choice . I am just anxious to get to the part where I am getting full on the healthy foods with out having to have more than one helping and adding in junk food just to get full. I know there are many successes with this and I know my day is coming. Patience has never been my strong suit but hopefully with this last fill I will start to feel this restriction. My doctor suspects that I lost maybe a cc of fill due to air pockets and stuff so he added 2cc to my band so if he is wrong about me losing Fluid then I am at 5cc if he is right then I am between 4-5cc in there. On mushies today real hard to gauge by that since they don't really fill you . In a week and a half if I still have no restriction then he will add more and not make me wait a month. Onward & upward. Keeping my head up.

Great news, Anne-Marie!!! You're doing fantastic!

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