My baby done gone and left me...oh mama!

[bfrancis 0]

Once again - thank you all for being so kind and supportive.

You're all far too lovely - along with the fantastic resource of information you get from this forum, its such a great thing to have support where one wouldn't usually receive from local communities (mainly because the people around this place would never admit to the procedure, so I can't seek them out and demand a hug!)

Happy_Girl: <blush - aw stop it!> Thanks for your comments. Unfortunately us Brits don't care for the accent as much as other nationalities seem to. I need to find me an American!

heidib: Uh oh - do you think men will start to notice me a bit more as well...?

WannaBSkinnyB: Thanks - and I am a songwriter (although some people like to say I'm not!) - shameless promotion...Benedict Francis: Music

Melody2006: Hug coming straight back at ya!

JABBA THE MUTT: Brilliant quote! Glad to hear the "quality time" is picking up...rub it in why don't you! (um...wrong turn of phrase there I think...)

aubrie: That's exactly what I am positive about. Although, Rafi (my boy) maybe a few miles further away, I know that I will be able to play football with him this time next year. Being a full time dad and not being able to participate in those kind of things is probably much worse than an active part-timer.

Thanks everyone.

Edited March 12, 2009 by bfrancis

[SuzanneG 1]

Ben, you have such a great attitude, you're good looking, and witty. You'll have them lined up at your door before you know it.

You're right about the accent and us American's though, it just sounds so adorable.

Good luck to you and keep up with the possitive attitude, it will serve you well.

[TQUAD64 9]

Sorry to hear about your circumstances, but word to the wise, which I am sure you already are aware of. Communication is key, so you already know that communication was lacking in this relationship. The WLS was one of other reasons why your relationship failed.

Lastly, men have a tendency to jump right back into a relationship without given themselves an opportunity to reflect upon what happened in the last relationship.

Ben, before you go out looking for that American woman, treat yourself right by giving yourself time get over the last relationship and to wrap your head around your WLS journey.

Really, both of events are major life changing activities and you deserve sometime to recover from both.

Best wishes!

[Big Momma is Shrinking 0]

Beset of luck to you Ben....

it sounds like you will be a great role model for your son, and that is something he will definetly need!!

It's sad to say, but some people are better apart then togeather, this is a hard journey to make, but I think it would be even harder with an unsupportive spouse.

Now you have time to focus on becoming healthy and being the best dad you can be!

[canadagirl33 0]

~I need to find me an American!~ ...Come on Ben !!! What about us Canadian girls ?? :confused:

Seriously tho.. Your attitude will get you far. Take the time to look after yourself, everyone in your life will benefit from it.

Congrats on your surgery and all the best for an amazingly successful journey !!!

Patricia

[SanDiegoPhotog 0]

I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through, too. But it sounds like you have the right attitude. Best wishes to you!