Help don't want (boink)partner to know

[Brandy~ 2]

To say this as nice as possible...

Why the heck would you be getting it on with someone if you're not even comfortable enough to tell them you had the surgery.

My 2cents and sorry if you take offense to it. No freaking way my knickers would be coming off to someone who doesnt know me that well.

[Jaffa 5]

If you like science fiction or he does, you could tell him you are really a cyborg and that this is your download port. If he wants more detail, tell him it is beyond most humans ability to understand.

If you can't laugh about things, then move on to a new person.

[lingling 0]

Hang on - so you can SEE the port??????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

[giveyouthemoon 4]

When I started dating my guy (now my husband) after we had "done the deed" the first time I said, "so you are probably wondering about my scars"

"What scars?" he replied. He was serious.

He was having WAY too much fun to notice scars.

I say, don't sweat it. If you have some "fun" with a partner, have fun. If they are bold enough to ask about your scars, then say "oh, I had some surgery, no big deal" and shrug.

If you don't make a big deal of it, no one else will either.

[lellow 1,713]

Yep lingling, if you lose enough weight, you can see the lump where the port is.

I can see mine now. It's not very obvious, but you can see that there is a 'hill' where the port is lying under my skin. My DH can also tell where it is by looking at me closely.

I do wonder though if after my PS, if it'll be relocated deeper in, so it doesn't stick out. Though if it doesn't happen, I'm okay with that too.