Help don't want (boink)partner to know

[slimmy120 2]

To me having the lapband is personal, now i have lost my weight i noticed, very noticeable even when surgeon repositioned as deep as he can a roung circle lice 20cent piece and where the tube starts, also scar from incission, i dont want a new prospective partner to know what i have done, what excuss can i use? hernia operation and scar tissue with prolapse now lost weight???? help suggestions i have problem enough with really sloppy thighs and bottom now,HHHHHHHHEEEEEEELLLLLLPPPPPP. Please.

[gone 4 ever 6]

IMHO Why not just tell the truth. If you lie about it, you won't be getting off on the right foot. Your partner will wonder how many more lies have you told.

[slimmy120 2]

Yep i know, but dont want to tell anyone at moment, personal choice. Not to say will not tell in future.

[HotRodV6 0]

I don't see the big deal, Ive told everybody i know, best decision Ive made. Id just come clean from the start, its not that big of a deal.

[TerriDoodle 6]

yes, hernia surgery is the closest 'match'

[smsmithart 4]

Yeah I say hernia...or tell truth

[Bamagal 1]

When my PC doc saw it for the first time he thought it was a Gallbladder sugery

[bandlover2009 0]

gallbladder surgery is your best bet. the incisional scars are almost exactly alike. 2nd choice would be laparoscopic hernia repair. good luck!

[momcof3 1]

I think explaining the food issue will be harder. I have wondered what I will say about not being able to drink anything with my meal or for 1 hour afterwards and not being able to eat certain foods. Yes, I can order something and take the part home that I can't eat, but I am starting to think it would be easier to just say I was banded. If he has a problem with that, it isn't meant to be as I will be banded for life so if I ended up in a commited relationship he would need to know anyway for health reasons. I guess there's not a perfect answer.

[HotRodV6 0]

I think explaining the food issue will be harder. I have wondered what I will say about not being able to drink anything with my meal or for 1 hour afterwords and not being able to eat certain foods. Yes, I can order something and take the part home that I can't eat, but I am starting to think it would be easier to just say I was banded. If he has a problem with that, it isn't meant to be as I will be banded for life so if I ended up in a committed relationship he would need to know anyway for health reasons. I guess there's not a perfect answer.

Yeah, i say its just easier to tell the truth, if the person cant accept you for that, or has a problem that you used to be overweight, than you don't need them anyways, and will be better off finding somebody that accepts you for who you are now or then and who you used to be.

Just my $.02

[RestlessMonkey 7]

If you aren't going to tell the truth (especially to someone with whom you are going to be that intimate) then just don't say anything. If asked, just say its not important now.

[gentletouch72 0]

I agree with restless monkey, we oftern try to find solutions to things we think might be a problem and they end up not being a problem at all. Tell the truth, hopefully he will be supportive and if not drop him before he get the GOODS!!!!!!

[HeatherO 7]

I agree with hernia or gallbladder if you feel you must not divulge about the band, but really it would just be easier to say band if someone asks.

I think that unless your partner is very observant, you wont even get a question until you have been with someone for a long time.

[Jachut 487]

Hmmm, there's no WAY you could miss my port, you can feel the tubing too. I'd go with the hernia operation explanation if you dont want to say anything just yet.

Doug doesnt have to feel for my port with his hand, he can feel it when he hugs me. Anyone could actually see it if they were looking at my bare stomach. You wouldnt need great powers of observation.

[slimmy120 2]

Hmmm, there's no WAY you could miss my port, you can feel the tubing too. I'd go with the hernia operation explanation if you dont want to say anything just yet.

Doug doesnt have to feel for my port with his hand, he can feel it when he hugs me. Anyone could actually see it if they were looking at my bare stomach. You wouldnt need great powers of observation.

Yep that is exactly what mine is like. These damn Aussie docors eh? But I would not remove my band and do not regret at all.

You nice Americans , I Tthink are alot more at ease re lapbanding as as I can see by the members on this site and sites I looked at for info, all the feedback and information from you guys is great.

I can eat everything, I am 1 and a half years out, and boy oh boy what a difference it has made to my life.

I have to eat and drink when I am taking my tablets otherwise there is terrible terrible burning in my throat.

Hope everyone doing as well as I did, and here's to me informative and friendly,helpful discussions on here.

All the best everyone. God Bless.