Why do women have anal sex?

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Amazing that there would be an extreme difference. I would guess it would be the same with regular sex. Without proper foreplay, there is not the lubrication that you need- which is not comfortable!

[Carrie_C 9]

I've tried it and didn't like it. I tried it relaxed and, nope. And I had an ex-who tried the rear sneak attack ... well I couldn't sit for a couple of days (or so it seemed) and he found himself out of the relationship. Trust is key with me. I'm married now, but when I was single I made it clear what my limits were before we hit the bed ... I don't have too many limits ... so it's not like a man was getting a 1/2 hour list ... more like 3 "Don't do this, I don't like it" things. If you can't trust someone in an intimate setting, then you can't trust them anytime ... so buh-bye!

My hubs said his ex-wife liked it when she was preggers .... he's not into, for which I am thankful. He thinks it's a little too 'gay' for him.

I have a lot of male friends and I'm not shy when it comes to discussing general sex stuff with people. When I've asked men who are into anal why they like it so much, there seem to be two top answers, 1) it's taboo and 2) it's tighter.

I don't know too many women who like it. Or, maybe they are just embarrassed to say they do, lol.

On a hygiene note, don't go from the anus to the vagina with out proper cleaning of the penis or device used, as you can introduce bacteria into the vagina and get a bacterial infection.

I also had an exboyfriend who did the surprise attack. But he was the first guy I ever had sex with, so I just thought it was normal and that everyone did it! I have slept with about 10 guys since then, and surpisingly, none of the others ever asked for it. I never liked it, so I have never tried to do it again. I also made it clear when my husband and I got together that I wouldn't be doing it. I never thought women liked it, but my husband says that there are women who will beg for it!!

Good note about the hygiene issue.

[talkalot1981 5]

Well I have been reading this post for the past couple of months now and have decided to add something. My husband and I used to do it on occassion. and YES I did like it. But unfortunately after giving birth to my second son I developed a hemorrhoid(sorry TMI) LOL Now I don't think so. We try on occassion but after the head I am involuntarily shoving him off from so much pain.....Never had an orgasim doing it that way though but wish I had.... LOL

[plain 12]

You ladies are cracking me up with all the talk of the "sneak attack".

[Kristine73 1]

You ladies are cracking me up with all the talk of the "sneak attack".

Well, some men are sneaky little b*st*rds. They seems to think, "All I have to do is ram this in there before she figures out what I'm doing. Once it's in there, she'll look at me at say, "ohhh you big stud, thank you for showing me what I've been missing all my life!" :wub:

As some have said, a woman needs to be relaxed and a willing participant! Just think of a woman putting on a strap on, sneaking up on your ass w/o your permission :crying:

.... yeah now you know why I call it the "rear sneak attack" :drool:

[Fanny Adams 7]

You ladies are cracking me up with all the talk of the "sneak attack".

Believe me, Plain, surprise buttsex is only funny when it happens to someone else. When it happens to you, it HURTS!!

[plain 12]

Believe me, Plain, surprise buttsex is only funny when it happens to someone else. When it happens to you, it HURTS!!

Hopefully, barring an extended stay in state prison, I'll never be in that position to know!!:grouphug:

[DivaStyleCoach 89]

Hopefully, barring an extended stay in state prison, I'll never be in that position to know!!

But if you're in prison, I don't think it's a 'sneak attack' - they just come at ya full force!:eek:

Why anyone would want to 'sneak attack' their spouse that way is just incredible...how selfish and inconsiderate can you be?

It's far more enjoyable for ALL concerned when you make a conscious decision to indulge...it's way more fun when you have two willing partners!:tt2:

It's not something I'd do for just anyone...though I've been married to my current stud :wub::wub::wub: for nearly 19 years, I was married before, and it was OUT OF THE QUESTION. I didn't feel as comfortable with husband #1, and he never got up enough nerve to ask...his loss!:thumbup:

[Fanny Adams 7]

I suspect that for the most part the "sneak attack" is the result of ignorance, not lack of consideration. If a guy doesn't know better, he could be getting his only knowledge of anal from porn movies, where they don't bother to show you all the preparation that the girl has done before the film starts rolliing - it just looks like it slides right in there on the first attempt.

Now I'm pretty sure that even for the pornstar women, it takes a bit of preparation but for those of us who don't make a living taking a huge one up the kaiber on a daily basis, it takes more than just a little!

[plain 12]

I suspect that for the most part the "sneak attack" is the result of ignorance, not lack of consideration. If a guy doesn't know better, he could be getting his only knowledge of anal from porn movies, where they don't bother to show you all the preparation that the girl has done before the film starts rolliing - it just looks like it slides right in there on the first attempt.

Now I'm pretty sure that even for the pornstar women, it takes a bit of preparation but for those of us who don't make a living taking a huge one up the kaiber on a daily basis, it takes more than just a little!

Fanny, I literally am ROF-crying!!!

[Carriedaway78 0]

I think it can work and feel good if you are totally relaxed. But seriously, who is totally relaxed trying anal the first time? I know not me! It can hurt like hell the first time, but after that it does get better.

[DivaStyleCoach 89]

Hello all,

I was relaxed my first time - the partner I had (now my DH) and I had talked about it a lot...I was curious, so was he. It really is important to be as relaxed as possible. YOU have to want it as much as HE does (maybe more)...

If you're not sure, then don't agree until you are...perhaps that will never happen, and you need to be sure your partner is okay with that. 'Sneak attacks' are a recipe for disaster.

I was NOT tipsy when we first attempted it. It was very slow going, lots of deep breathing, and a lot of false starts, so to speak, but my DH was infinitely patient, loving and gentle, and made sure I was good and hot before attempting...

Finding someone who makes the experience about YOU and not so much HIM is critical...:thumbup:

[*slim* 2]

I still don't get it. My first "experience" was in a doctor's office as a teen during an exam. That was an awful experience. Now, I could never look on it as something that could possibly be pleasurable. Not happening. My DH and I tried it once and that was enough. Neither of us liked it (thank goodness).

[*susan* 1,709]

I must admit to being a bit curious. But, I still can't help think that it is an exit zone only.

[Rutiglius 0]

I like it -- on occasion! I definitely have to be in the right mood. My DH loves it! He and his ex used to do it anally all the time. Me...I was an anal cherry when we got together 3 years ago. After the first time, I said, "NO WAY" to a second. However, we have done it a couple of more times and with stimulation, I did have a great orgasm!