Why do women have anal sex?

[mumof2boys 71]

Been there...tried it...didn't like it so much.

EXIT ONLY!!!

[DivaStyleCoach 89]

Mornin' all!

Loved seeing the guys' perspective...and good for him for being brave enough to post here! Plain - that goes for you too...

I have had my "salad tossed" - my hubby enjoys it and so do I. He isn't yet 'comfortable' enough to let me reciprocate, but does very much enjoy fellatio and manual stimulation of his testicles (gently, now!). Again, as others have said, cleanliness is critical - you can't expect someone to enjoy tossing a salad with grit in the leaves, now can you? :scared2:

Re: the guy who likes "being bent over and taken"...if that's what makes him happy, at least he's open enough to admit it! Perhaps the idea of being submissive to a strong woman who will enjoy him that way is what he wants - not necessarily being submissive to another man.

*TMI Alert* My DH and I have an alternating dominant-submissive relationship - we take turns being dominant, but I am most often the dominant one. He likes it that way...and since I am a strong woman who likes to be in charge, I kinda like it that way too.

Now back to your regularly scheduled discussion...

[cattoy71 0]

EbonyRose I loooooove your response...you totally rock!

I don't know what to say about the cosmopolitan comment, but I am a trained sex educator so I am already completely sex positive! It does help that I know a lot about male anatomy, anal sex, and sexual pleasure. I've also been trained as a sexual domina so some men can find that exciting as well.

[plain 12]

I don't know what to say about the cosmopolitan comment

I just meant that I live in a community of less than 200 people in rual Texas.

but I am a trained sex educator so I am already completely sex positive!

I'm not being snarky at all (I know it could come off that way in print), but what training did you get? Psyche / Socio / Biology courses? I'm just curious.....Waaaaaay back in the day I took a "Human Sexuality" course in college. It was pretty interesting (it focused more on the physiological responses and mechanisms of the body).

It does help that I know a lot about male anatomy

Me too! lol

Ebony, I get the alternating dom / sub thing. I'm probably waaaaay out of line for asking, but when you're the dom, does your husband enjoy being "penetrated"??

[smsmithart 4]

This thread makes me feel all dirty...I like it.

[jubjub 1]

it feels good to be dirty now and then

[cattoy71 0]

No, I didn't take the comment as snarky, lol.

Most of my training was done in San Francisco at the following institutions:

SFSU's School of Sexuality

San Francisco Sex Information

Institute for Community Health Outreach

Good Vibrations

Center for Sex and Culture

My most recent background has been in the HIV community where I did everything from outreach, school presentations, to program directing.

I left that job last year, and have been doing contract sexuality workshops on a very part time basis. They're few and far between, but I've given 2 at Stanford University in the past week and they were really fun

Edited March 5, 2009 by cattoy71

[DivaStyleCoach 89]

Ebony, I get the alternating dom / sub thing. I'm probably waaaaay out of line for asking, but when you're the dom, does your husband enjoy being "penetrated"??

Hi Plain! :crying:

No problem with you asking...right now, he is not into "penetration". Probably part of his very conventional male upbringing...he will allow me to touch him there, but penetration is right now out of the question. I say right now because who knows what the future brings?

I have heard that some men find extreme pleasure in penetration with a finger or other slender object, because it can provide additional stimulation. Haven't yet tried it...if he was willing, I'd give it a shot...I'd do that for my lover!

[Gone4Now 4]

Good Vibrations....that one shouted to me.

One thing I'd love to have is a toy party. I just don't know too many ladies who'd come.

[theninside 0]

Good Vibrations....that one shouted to me.

One thing I'd love to have is a toy party. I just don't know too many ladies who'd come.

Wish you were in NJ, I'd be there

[theninside 0]

I've tried the back door entry, it's just not for me. I found it to be very painful. Besides that I have my own reasons why I think that area should be off limits, but I do have friends who enjoy it.

[DivaStyleCoach 89]

Good Vibrations....that one shouted to me. :crying:

One thing I'd love to have is a toy party. I just don't know too many ladies who'd come.

Maybe we could use software to have a 'virtual' toy party online...a webcam to show off the toys, special teleconference logins (with passwords) sent to invited guests, and invoices sent via Paypal for secure payment...

Just my techie brain working...

[Ready4a2ndChance 0]

"Tossing your salad" is an expression for "licking your anus"

There are LOTS of nerve endings around that area so i'm gonna raise my hand and say YES, I do like it and I like to do just about anything within reason with my husband that I trust. The only things that I would not do is anything involving someone else, I'm just NOT into bringing a 3rd party to our "party".............I'm selfish

[DivaStyleCoach 89]

The only things that I would not do is anything involving someone else, I'm just NOT into bringing a 3rd party to our "party".............I'm selfish :ohmy:

Girlfriend, you ain't neva lied! I am so jealous that I could NEVER bring anyone else to the party. Definately not another woman, and certainly not another man, because I don't want HIM to be upset either.

We just keep finding new ways to please, tease and tickle each other!:thumbup: :crying:

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Glad to see this thread moving again. It's nice to know what other people like. My life has gotten rather boring. It's better than it was though, so I should not complain. My last bf needed viagra and could not afford it. Thank goodness my bf now has no problem in that area.

It amazes me how many people in their 50's just give us sex because of menopause for women, or their guy has ED.