Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Why do women have anal sex?



Why do women have anal sex?  

76 members have voted

  1. 1. Why do women have anal sex?

    • I like it. It feels good. I have had an orgasm that way.
      214
    • I would do it only to please my partner
      84
    • I tried it and didn't like it
      160
    • No way I would even try it.
      119


Recommended Posts

I can't explain how I have without clitoral stimulation, because vaginally, I do need clitoral stimulation. However, I was just thinking, maybe it's like a mental thing, similar to a wet dream or something. I mean when men do that they are not receiving any physical stimulation. I know women who have had orgasms in their sleep as well. So maybe it is such an arousing session that you don't need the physical stimulation...just a thought.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The reason some women find they can orgasm from that way is because it shares the back wall of the vagina. So you can feel the penetration on the vaginal wall too. And also all the nerve endings. If you are focused enough you can have an orgasm from being touched anywhere.

For years I believed in the EXIT only mentality. But as I've gotten older I guess I've become more open minded and want to fully explore my sexuality(why not?) So gradually over the years we have worked up to that, starting with an occasional finger or toy. Eventually we progressed to anal sex. Not something we do often.. but on rare occasions I do enjoy it, but like everyone said, you have to go slow and trust your partner. I find a glass of wine or 2 beforehand really helps me relax. Or a hot shower with your partner.. I like to make sure its really really clean before I have any kind of anal play. Otherwise I wouldn't be relaxed enough.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The reason some women find they can orgasm from that way is because it shares the back wall of the vagina. So you can feel the penetration on the vaginal wall too. And also all the nerve endings. If you are focused enough you can have an orgasm from being touched anywhere.

For years I believed in the EXIT only mentality. But as I've gotten older I guess I've become more open minded and want to fully explore my sexuality(why not?) So gradually over the years we have worked up to that, starting with an occasional finger or toy. Eventually we progressed to anal sex. Not something we do often.. but on rare occasions I do enjoy it, but like everyone said, you have to go slow and trust your partner. I find a glass of wine or 2 beforehand really helps me relax. Or a hot shower with your partner.. I like to make sure its really really clean before I have any kind of anal play. Otherwise I wouldn't be relaxed enough.

This explanation of how it works makes sense to me. Thanks.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Yea, finally it does make some sense explained this way.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Before my husband and I started dating, we were great friends (still are for that matter!). He told me he enjoyed anal sex with his girl friend. I had never tried it and was absolutely horrified that she would even do it. After we started dating and became intimate, he told me with his first wife he went about it all wrong. He was young, inexperienced and in a rush. He asked if I would even try it and I said I suppose if he would make it worth my while!

It was never painful, but was uncomfortable for the first few months. I had the same experience when I started having vaginal sex (petite frame, etc). After about six months - probably about 10 experiences - I had my first orgasm. WOW!!!!! I think I relaxed enough to really let my mind and body enjoy it.

We're married now, and he created a monster! We enjoy each other 5 - 6 times per week, and at least half that time is anally. For me, the biggest turn on and the reason I kept trying it was the taboo nature of it. The orgasm is different than what I have vaginally or orally. It's more severe and tends to last longer. I don't know from a medical stand point why it feels different, I'm just glad it does!

For those on the fence about giving it a go, make sure you're with somebody who will stop at any point. I imagine if my first experience with him was like his ex-wife's experience then we wouldn't have tried it again!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Oregon Daisy - After I posted, I went back through and read the earlier posts. I don't need clitorial stimulation to orgasm. Not just with anal sex - I think I'm one big set of nerves. I can orgasm with a massage, kissing, breast play, etc. Lucky me I suppose! I find that if there is also clitorial stimulation during anal sex it almost pulls me out of the experience and takes longer to orgasm. When I first started having orgasms from anal sex, my guy would pull out because the feeling was so intense. He doesn't need to now that we've been doing it for 8 years. I actually have 2 - 3 orgasms per "session" so yah for me!

Regarding size - my guy is well endowed and just takes longer to make sure I'm ready. Because he's my only experience I have nothing else to compare it to.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks for posting that. I honestly never knew it was possible to have an orgasm without g spot or clitoral stimulation. I wish I could!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

your butt was made with a sphincter, that should read"one way valve". too much pain,bacteria,grossness, and the poop shoot is just for that,poop.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am jumping from the guys site to here to post this. Oregondaisy asked in the guys forum why guys seemed to like anal sex. To me anal is a tighter fit, so it just feels real good on my dick. (i thought about how to say that and had all kinds of crazy names and stuff, but f-it right, lets just call it what it is.) Guys like a tight fit because it causes more um friction for us.

Like say when we get oral right, we don't want the girl to open her mouth the widest she can and just go up and down and barley cause any suction. We want them lips to fit tight and hear that suction sound. HELL YEA !!

So back to anal, sorry was getting sidetracked. So since the usual (why am I blushing typing this) way is really nice and wet and inviting, sometimes we wanna switch it up. Get a new tight fit in there now and then.

What about this questions ladies. If your not into anal, are you into a guy "tossing your salad" when he is down there taking care of business?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I feel perfectly ok in saying that if a guy wants me to do anal, he has to do it too, lol.

It's interesting that since we have started this thread, an old "friend" has contacted me online again after years. Apparently he can't stop thinking about being bent over and taken. And no, this guy is not at all gay. He is a lawyer and very much a guy's guy who loves to hike, bike, and ski. It's kinda strange actually, he is completely beautiful and very normal and has a very dominant sexual relationship with his now wife.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It's interesting that since we have started this thread, an old "friend" has contacted me online again after years. Apparently he can't stop thinking about being bent over and taken. And no, this guy is not at all gay.

cattoy, I'm sorry, but this sounds extremely gay. Maybe I'm not as "cosmopolitan" as you, or maybe I'm closed-minded, but....."he can't stop thinking about being bent over and taken"?!? That's not something a hetero dude has fantasies of. IMO. I think a poll in the men's room would bear this opinion out, lol.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

What about this questions ladies. If your not into anal, are you into a guy "tossing your salad" when he is down there taking care of business?

Ok, call me a prude, but what exactly is "tossing salad"?! :blush:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You know, I was wondering that myself. I thought I should know, but I have actually never heard that expression used.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

"tossing a salad" refers to analingus....stimulating the anus and the area around it with your mouth.

Bet you're glad you asked, right? LOL

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      Just been waiting until time for my consult with my bariatric surgeon. It's scheduled for Jan 9th. Turns out I won't actually be seeing him. Apparently it'll be with his P.A.             Not sure what to expect. I thought this is where the surgeon would discuss the best surgery option for me. For years I had my heart set on the sleeve, but I've read so many people have issues with reflux - even if they've never had it before - that they've had to be revised to the bypass. I already deal with GERD & take 40 mg of Omeprazole daily, so I started studying about bypass and honestly, it seems like it might be the better choice for me. How can we discuss surgery options if the surgeon is not there?
      What happened at your first consult? Trying to get an idea of what to expect, or maybe I should say, what NOT to expect.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • rinabobina

      I would like to know what questions you wish you had asked prior to your duodenal switch surgery?
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • cryoder22

      Day 1 of pre-op liquid diet (3 weeks) and I'm having a hard time already. I feel hungry and just want to eat. I got the protein and supplements recommend by my program and having a hard time getting 1 down. My doctor / nutritionist has me on the following:
      1 protein shake (bariatric advantage chocolate) with 8 oz of fat free milk 1 snack = 1 unjury protein shake (root beer) 1 protein shake (bariatric advantage orange cream) 1 snack = 1 unjury protein bar 1 protein shake (bariatric advantace orange cream or chocolate) 1 snack = 1 unjury protein soup (chicken) 3 servings of sugar free jello and popsicles throughout the day. 64 oz of water (I have flavor packets). Hot tea and coffee with splenda has been approved as well. Does anyone recommend anything for the next 3 weeks?
      · 1 reply
      1. NickelChip

        All I can tell you is that for me, it got easier after the first week. The hunger pains got less intense and I kind of got used to it and gave up torturing myself by thinking about food. But if you can, get anything tempting out of the house and avoid being around people who are eating. I sent my kids to my parents' house for two weeks so I wouldn't have to prepare meals I couldn't eat. After surgery, the hunger was totally gone.

    • buildabetteranna

      I have my final approval from my insurance, only thing holding up things is one last x-ray needed, which I have scheduled for the fourth of next month, which is my birthday.

      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • BetterLeah

      Woohoo! I have 7 more days till surgery, So far I am already down a total of 20lbs since I started this journey. 
      · 1 reply
      1. NeonRaven8919

        Well done! I'm 9 days away from surgery! Keep us updated!

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×