Why do women have anal sex?

[*slim* 2]

I tried it once with my husband a few weeks after childbirth since vaginal sex was a big no-no. We never made it to complete. I was in such agony that I told him he was crazy if he thought I would ever do that again.

[Gone4Now 4]

Wow...I voted yes. I guess I'm odd woman out.

I don't like it w/DH now, because he's very well endowed. We've actually never really been able to complete it because it hurts too much.

But, in my younger days and with a smaller BF, I loved it this way. The O's achieved were better than any I've ever had.

I liked it so much, that I bought a double sided toy, one with a smaller, almost finger sized, attached to it. But, after a while, I got rid of it. I still intend to buy another one, I just never have gotten around to it.

It's funny that I ran across this thread...just the other day I was thinking how much I miss it. :wink5:

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Gloucester, Would you mind explaining to the rest of us how this is possible. I never knew there was a way to have an orgasm this way. I thought the G spot was right behind the pubic bone and I don't see how that can be reached from behind. Also, I didn't think there were any

erogenous zones back there.

I am not being critical, but I want to understand how this could be pleasurable.

[Gone4Now 4]

Beats me! I have no idea HOW. :scared2: I'm not even sure why I even did it to begin with. I only have done this with 2 people, and it was over 12 years ago. First and best was w/high school BF, so I think I probably did it just to make him happy. Then, we broke up and the second BF and I did it a few times.

Long term BF after that would tell me, "That's an EXIT!!" So, that was the end of that and the beginning of my 2 sided toy.

I do remember looking it up in the library w/high school BF because I was scared of long-term effects. (Like, when I get older will I need to wear Depends? My main concern.) The book we read said it wasn't harmful as long as you're clean and don't go from there to the traditional way, and that it actually strengthens the muscles.

I guess it just depends on the size. Like I said, HS BF was kinda on the small side, so I didn't feel it like a bowel movement. DH now would rip the hell out of me, so I don't even want it with him.

Does that help you out a little?

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Thanks. I would sure like to know how it's possible to have an orgasm that way. It makes no sense to me. It's not that I would want to try to have an orgasm that way, but the whole thing just mystifies me.

[Gone4Now 4]

I'll be researching it at home tonight...from my work computer - well, that may raise eyebrows in the IT watchdog office. :scared2:

But, I assure you - 'tis possible.

I've heard of people having orgasms by having their ears sucked on, which blows my mind.

[green 6]

It works best if the guy is on the small side and if he takes it very slow. Then I have enjoyed it but it is not high on my list of faves. A lot of foreplay is required to make it work.

[Daisalana 33]

It works best if the guy is on the small side and if he takes it very slow. Then I have enjoyed it but it is not high on my list of faves. A lot of foreplay is required to make it work.

Can't believe I'm going to answer hah hah, but this is basically what I was going to say. I've only done it with one guy (an ex--not my husband), and the first time we did it, he did not go slow, no foreplay to get it 'ready' and it tore (and I think I still have an anal fissure from it but too emberassed to ask a doc to check it out). So it was bad and hurt, etc. Same boyfriend we decided to try it again (he was really into it)and we did it the right way..slow, lots of lube, etc.. and it really was amazing, made my orgasm about 20x better.

That being said, DH never has had anal, wanted to do it and for years I told him "I'm waiting till we're married!" truth is, he's bigger than the guy I did it with, and since DH has never done it, and blah blah.. I'd hate for it to tear again, or if he really liked it--it's NOT something I want to do all the time. Don't really want to walk him through it. And-the orgasm is really good, but I hate how you feel afterward.. like something was stretchin open yer butt, and the lube.. bleh. So I keep meaning to go there with him, but I'm lazy I guess.

One of my best friends though, anal is about all the sex she has with her husband anymore. She likes it better (mostly) because they don't have to worry about getting pregnant, and they both really enjoy it.

To each his own.

[*slim* 2]

Thanks. I would sure like to know how it's possible to have an orgasm that way. It makes no sense to me. It's not that I would want to try to have an orgasm that way, but the whole thing just mystifies me.

I'm mystified too. I have to say that I would question my DH's manhood if all he wanted was anal sex. A little too close to homosexual sex to me. I'm just saying...

[Carrie_C 9]

I'm mystified too. I have to say that I would question my DH's manhood if all he wanted was anal sex. A little too close to homosexual sex to me. I'm just saying...

Yea, I think so too. My ex wanted it ALL the time. But he always wanted to do really gross stuff and would get mad when I wouldn't. I'm glad he's gone for good. lol.

[*slim* 2]

Yea, I think so too. My ex wanted it ALL the time. But he always wanted to do really gross stuff and would get mad when I wouldn't. I'm glad he's gone for good. lol.

Did we date the same guy? lol I dated a guy that was really into disgusting stuff. He liked to put....Nope too gross even for here.

[Carrie_C 9]

Maybe we did, LOL. He was also addicted to porn.

[Gone4Now 4]

You know, I don't have a problem with porn...I have watched it w/BFs and never had an issue - except with one. He would wake up in the middle of the night to watch porn while I slept. I was really bummed - I like sex, and wondered why he would do that - all the time - wihtout me.

[Jachut 487]

I can understand why women like it. It hurts like HELL to me, and it just feels a bit too depraved and yucky, but pain is the main factor. But I like to be touched there and I will go off like a firecracker every time I am.

[Carrie_C 9]

You know, I don't have a problem with porn...I have watched it w/BFs and never had an issue - except with one. He would wake up in the middle of the night to watch porn while I slept. I was really bummed - I like sex, and wondered why he would do that - all the time - wihtout me.

I don't have a problem with it either, but my ex would look at it constantly. He would take magazines and go in the bathroom and get off on them. I liked sex too, and I never understood why he would do that, why he preferred that over the real thing. Plus, he would order dirty movies off cable while I was at work. That would really bother me. I think it bothered me most because he lied about it. He would also say he was at work, but later I would find out that he was at a strip club. And he would even lie about that. He once said he drove his friends to the club, but he didn't go in, he said he stayed in the car and waited on them. Yea right!!