Restaurant rage

[cmmcguire66 0]

I'm just feeling sorry for myself with this one. It took me 1.5 hours to find a restaurant for lunch today. No one seemed to have anything that I could eat after getting a fill just 3 days ago. Then, the DH lets me know he screwed up the reservations for our anniversary dinner which is tomorrow. How can I get the family and others to understand that I can't just pick up and go wherever THEY want? If I know that a certain restaurant has something on the menu that works for me, then that is where I need to go. I am not nearly as flexible as I used to be. Plus, no one can really cook for me, so I end up making 2 meals a night. Just once, I want a meal to be no big deal for me. Thanks for the outlet to rant.

[RestlessMonkey 7]

Are you maybe too tight? According to my surgeon, the huge bulk of his patients can eat anything except stringy red meat and bread. That leaves a LOT of food. From what I've read, the "green zone" or sweet spot means

you can eat most foods, but must chew well, you get full on a child sized (or smaller) portion, and you remain full for hours. You know best how to work your band so I hope I don't sound presumptuous but I don't think you have to suffer as much as it sounds like you are. Life is going to go on and you need to be able to live it....being too tight will just hurt you in the long run, I think!

Of course I just read that you had a fill 3 days ago so hopefully you're just "too tight" for a bit. Anyway, I'm sorry everything got messed up for you and I hope you hit the zone soon...where you can eat anywhere! :grouphug:

Edited January 9, 2009 by RestlessMonkey

[cmmcguire66 0]

I have the added headache of being under dental construction, so chewing is difficult. I can't do most beef, salad, Pasta and bread are evil to me, I won't even get egg salad or tuna with celery in it (never been a fan of celery, but now it is a definite no-no) and I sometimes have trouble with fish. My food must be moist - I always ask for a side of low fat dressing, salsa, marinara or the like to dip my food. Oddly enough, my episodes fo getting food stuck usually happen when I need a fill. Strange, huh?

[TQUAD64 9]

Happy anniversary! Sorry your going through this right. Perhaps you are to tight with your fill. Maybe you need more time adjusting to this latest fill.

I have two fills with 4.5cc in a 10cc band and I can eat everything, but in very small portions.

[RestlessMonkey 7]

I think for my anniversary I'd want something other than a meal out, then. A shopping spree? A movie? Gemstones and gold? anything but food! :grouphug: Hope it all works out for you!

[cmmcguire66 0]

See, here was the deal: I've been feeling sorry for myself because my body is melting, I feel unattractive, and I left the plans in his lap. He was going to make reservations at an exclusive restaurant that we both love, and that I haven't been to since being banded 6 months ago. I really wanted him to do SOMETHING to make me feel special: ask for a sugar free dessert, have a rose waiting for me, something. I knew I could get an appetizer and eat some of his swordfish, which is one thing they are known for. I, in turn, planned for some special surprises AFTER dinner.

I bought a new dress, under garments, etc. For me to shop right now is a huge deal. I hate my odd size, nothing fits right, and I am recently unemployed. We have a gift card for this restaurant. He had 2 weeks to make reservations, he waited until today, and it all fell apart. Now I feel even worse than I did. I just needed someone to take care of me for a change, and make me and my needs important. So, now we are doing nothing, I lost the babysitter to his nastiness, and am becoming more bitter. It's a pity party to the extreme. It really is the first one I've had since being banded.

I am done whining now.

[flowers 0]

I'm so sorry things are so rough for you right now. It sounds like your husband is a big part of the problem. I was banded around when you were and have had 3 fills and I dont eat special, but I do sometimes have trouble chewing things like steak because of teeth and gums issues, so I know how you feel there.

We are doing my parent's anniversary at home. Sometimes that is just easier, hope your husband comes thru with something special. I got short ribs BBQ and a small cheesecake for dessert and a crystal thingee as a present. Im sorry the restaurant didnt work out for you. Maybe you can go next weekend? If it were me, Id still want to go and wouldnt take no for a answer.

I looked again, and we were banded the same exact date, Happy banding sister.

[HeatherO 7]

I hope you are feeling a little better soon. I am sorry the dinner plans didn't work out for you.

I agree with the others who are saying that you might be al little too tight . . . but sometimes it does loosen up after a fill. I can really eat at least something at every restaurant now . . . even if it is only Soup.