I need help

[SueSue 0]

It has been awhile since I visited this site. I am failing. I have lost only 39 lbs. in 15 months and I lost that the first 6. I have not lost anything in months and have actually gained a few the last several months. I am doing everything wrong and do not know how to stop it. I am a diabetic and my body screams for food. I am still on insulin. I don't know what to do. I have been depressed all week and cannot seem to get myself to care.

[reportergirl 0]

You are not alone, so many of us are battling the same issues. I am new to this site. Try the over 50's forum for support. They seem like the greatest people. I care.

[suepro 39]

You have taken the first step by posting on here for help. perhaps you should go back to basics and start keeping a food diary to help you focus on eating the good stuff.

I am not diabetic but am sure that you should be able to eat a suitable diet to keep your blood sugar level even if you are quite restricted.

When did you last have a fill? Perhaps you need one to get the right level of restriction.

Sue

[GretaBelle 0]

I know I am new at banding, but I am not new at trying to lose weight and be vigilant. Remember, all of us are here because we have had issues with weight, food, healthand unfortunately failure to control these. You are not alone. We are all on the same path, just at different points in the road. We will all hit points where we are frustrated and it is important that you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep walking towards your goal. We are all here if you need someone to hold your hand as you walk. :wink2:

[gone 4 ever 6]

Here is the 5 day pouch test.

http://www.5daypouchtest.com/plan/day3.html

It is kinda hard the first couple of days but well worth it. This will help jump start you back on the right track. Here is also another LBT thread that might help you. It is other bandsters who is doing the pouch test. Good luck and keep us posted.

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f178/starting-holiday-detox-early-anyone-wanna-join-me-84070/

[Theagillis7 0]

I have not even had the surgery that I am so anxiously awaiting and to know you have had the surgery and are still struggling. God has allowed medical tech. to save yourself from yourself and you are not complying. Please for all of us and mostly yourself get back on the band wagon and accomplish your goals. PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!:wink2:

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

I have not even had the surgery that I am so anxiously awaiting and to know you have had the surgery and are still struggling. God has allowed medical tech. to save yourself from yourself and you are not complying. Please for all of us and mostly yourself get back on the band wagon and accomplish your goals. PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!:laugh:

I think this is a common issue that people just don't get. Surgery does not do it for us. With the band it's probably 20% the band and 80% you. You don't get a band and just wait for weight to melt away, it doesn't work that way.

Surgery is the easy part, fixing your head and changing bad habits is the hard part. Surgery is just a tool to help you do your own head work.

Regardless of surgery type everyone has to do their part and if it was that easy to do our part we wouldn't have needed surgery to begin with. Surgery just makes it a bit easier to do what we couldn't do before.

I guess my point is that it does not suddenly become easy to follow some magical set of rules or guidelines because you had surgery. It just makes it more possible than before.

Another thing, I think you'll find that most people fight their surgery type for a bit. You kind of resent the band for a short time. You begin fighting it a bit. Some people fight it more than others. My stage was probably about a month long. But others it takes longer. People need time to sort through issues.

If it goes on too long either some therapy or a different surgery type might be in order.

[slimmap 1]

It has been awhile since I visited this site. I am failing. I have lost only 39 lbs. in 15 months and I lost that the first 6. I have not lost anything in months and have actually gained a few the last several months. I am doing everything wrong and do not know how to stop it. I am a diabetic and my body screams for food. I am still on insulin. I don't know what to do. I have been depressed all week and cannot seem to get myself to care.

Dear SueSue, Like the others said, we all have serious issues with food. That said, I wonder if you've talked to your doctor. It could very well be that you don't have good restriction and you just need a fill. Wouldn't that be great if that was all it was? I too have diabetes and have to be careful of what I eat. I find that is really only possible when I've had a good fill. Speak up! Talk to your doc. This is his profession and he will probably have some direction for you. All I know is that I wish you the best. And you are not failing. You just need some direction right now. We all do. Something else I have found is this: When I start to give in to my cravings, it usually causes me to have even more cravings. So then I eat what I was craving and I find I am just eating anything and everything. As hard as it is, just try to not do it. Easier said than done, I know. I still have 150 pounds to lose. But if I have good restriction, it is a lot easier. Those Protein shakes really fill the belly up too. I know they are not what we necessarily want, but they do help get things under control. That 5 day pouch diet helps too. Good luck! I hope I haven't rambled and repeated myself too much. I just want to tell you that you are not alone.

Pam

[TerriDoodle 6]

Here is the 5 day pouch test.

http://www.5daypouchtest.com/plan/day3.html

It is kinda hard the first couple of days but well worth it. This will help jump start you back on the right track. Here is also another LBT thread that might help you. It is other bandsters who is doing the pouch test. Good luck and keep us posted.

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f178/starting-holiday-detox-early-anyone-wanna-join-me-84070/

SueSue - I'm starting this pouch test diet tomorrow, too. I'm in a mental place similar to you. I've been choosing slider foods to help it go down rather than solid, healthy foods. What this translates to is things covered in cheese or other fats rather than going back to the bandster rules of small bites of solid Protein and chew, chew, chew.

this pouch test is only 5 days and it might help me to lose a few pounds which would do my head an enormous amount of good. Maybe you should just follow http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f178/starting-holiday-detox-early-anyone-wanna-join-me-84070/'>this thread for awhile and see if it inspires you at all....that's what I did.

Oh, and by the way...I haven't lost any significant amount of weight since 8 months post-op.

Good luck to you and know you've got lots of support here.

Edited January 1, 2009 by TerriDoodle

[SueSue 0]

Thanks. It helps to know someone else is experiencing the same thing. I think I am tight enough, in fact I think that is what caused this problem for me. When I got my last fill I could not eat much of anything so I turned to soft foods. It is funny how hard I will try to find something to eat. Anyway, I discovered also that if I felt that uncomfortable feeling after a few bites, sometimes the first bite, I could wait about 5 minutes and the feeling went away so I would eat more. I also started taking my food with me when we left a restaurant. I would then finish it over an hours time. What bad habits I developed.

[TerriDoodle 6]

Thanks. It helps to know someone else is experiencing the same thing. I think I am tight enough, in fact I think that is what caused this problem for me. When I got my last fill I could not eat much of anything so I turned to soft foods. It is funny how hard I will try to find something to eat. Anyway, I discovered also that if I felt that uncomfortable feeling after a few bites, sometimes the first bite, I could wait about 5 minutes and the feeling went away so I would eat more. I also started taking my food with me when we left a restaurant. I would then finish it over an hours time. What bad habits I developed.

YEP! I could have written this myself. Well, maybe just try to maintain for awhile, pay attention to the negative self talk and try to be more positive about your ability to get control. Be patient with yourself and just keep visiting LBT.