Please talk some sense into me!

[Surby 1]

I was banded 08/06 and was doing fairly well. I was overfilled for several months and was going out of the country, so I got completely unfilled (June 08). Since then, my mother was diagnosed w/ breast cancer that had spread to her liver, and she passed away Dec. 17. During this dilemma, I have gained TWENTY POUNDS!! How could I have let this happen?? Now I am too humilated to go back to get filled again. Someone please help me!!!

[RestlessMonkey 7]

I'm so sorry for your loss! But to gain only 20 in all that time is not bad at all! Your surgeon has seen worse! Please just go back in and get going again. You'll feel better, and it will keep you from putting on another 20 (or more!) It's like not driving a great car because it ran out of gas and you're too embarassed to go to the station with a can and "admit" you let that happen!

[confusedfairy509 0]

I was banded 08/06 and was doing fairly well. I was overfilled for several months and was going out of the country, so I got completely unfilled (June 08). Since then, my mother was diagnosed w/ breast cancer that had spread to her liver, and she passed away Dec. 17. During this dilemma, I have gained TWENTY POUNDS!! How could I have let this happen?? Now I am too humilated to go back to get filled again. Someone please help me!!!

How could you let this happen? Well gosh hun you have been through heck!!! :sad: Any NORMAL person would stumble! Be a little easier on your self! I am so very sorry for your loose. I am sure your life is no where near back to norm and wont be for awhile, so you may stumble again, so be prepared. Just start were you left off for your diet and go get your fill. They will be understanding :smile2: & IF they are not ... find another dr.!! You know I gained ALL my weight back in a matter of 3 yrs! :ohmy: For a number of reasons but now I am faced with having to go get a fill after 5 yrs of having one. plus start all over. YOU can do this! 20 pounds, is better the 86, 50, ot 100 or more. It could be wrose. Look at it as the glass 1/2 full..right!? Take care of yourself and your family.

If you ever want to chat I am here! :sad:

[serenity55 15]

I think we tend to be harder on ourselves than anyone else would. Your doctor may just be glad to see you, to know that you're coming in for a fill, and I know he/she will understand about the loss of a parent. I lost my mother when I was nine, to breast cancer which had spread. I was so young, but the pain is no less whatever your age.

Be gentle with yourself and know that you are taking care of yourself for you, for those who love you, and in loving memory of your mother.

Debbie

[Godschild 0]

I am very sorry to hear about your mom. My prayers are with you.

Talk to your dr. and let him know what is going on. He is part of your support.

Continue to love yourself and take care of yourself(emotionally and physically).

[lucyavery 0]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I lost my mom nearly one year ago, it was very sudden and tramatic. I did not have the band at the time. However, I was eating healthy, exercising and losing weight. I had never felt better, well that all went down hill fast. I stopped working out and eating healthy, I totally went back to my old ways and gained a little weight back. It was June 08 when I had my surgery.

Like everyone else said, go in and get a fill before it gets more out of hand than 20 pounds. Take care of yourself, be good to yourself, I'm sure that is what your mom would have wanted.

Bless you,