Compliments

[mommie2 0]

Hello fellow bandsters. I have been banded for 4 mts now with a loss of 70 pds. I ran in to friends and family that I haven't seen in awhile for christmas and they start telling me how good I look and congratulate me. I know my body is changing because of the close getting looser and I know what the scale says but it hasn't really sunk in yet. I'm not use to getting compliments and don't know how to react to it. My questions is how do you handle compliments?

[ColoradoChick 33]

Compliments can be hard to accept! It is hard for me to appreciate the differences that other people see, I am still huge to me!

Congrats on your loss - you are doing great!

[BandedCG 0]

Congrats! Just say "Thank you." :tongue2:

[dburk5 0]

A simple and sincere acceptance of the compliment without a bunch of fuss will make the other person giving the compliment feel as good as it makes you feel receiving the compliment.

[OH Juli 15]

What everone else said.

"Thank you" always works.

"I'm working hard, I appreciate you noticed and said something."

"How nice of you to notice."

If you have not bought new clothing that fits, be prepared because when you do people will really start commenting. It's lovely and part of what you are working on. Being uncomfortable is normal, but it's something you can handle.

Also, if you don't like the spot light quickly change the subject, ask the person something about themself so they stop talking about you.

[HF2008 0]

WOW! Your weight loss is impressive! I have been banded for 7 months and loss 30 lbs since, and I agree it's hard to accept the compliments. The thing that really ticks me off...they guys who want to talk to me now that weren't interested before! :frown: Anyhow, keep up the good work! I can't wait until I get to a 70 lb weight loss.

[lucyavery 0]

I know compliments for me can be hard also. I always feel the need to explain or point out what is still wrong with me. However, I saw my SIL over Christmas, and she told me that I looked good and I simply said "Thank You" and that was it, that was enough. I did not go into explaining things and it felt great. Of course there will always be those that go on to ask questions of you, then you just do what makes you comfortable.

Congrats on the weight loss.

[OH Juli 15]

I forgot the other fantastic thing I say when I get, "you look great" or some variation on that--

"Thanks, can I tell you I feel amazing!"

It takes it off of how you look which is just icky to talk about at times, and focuses on what is really important, how you feel!

XO

[aubrie 6]

I agree with OhJuli. I usually say, "thanks. I feel great!" The simple reason I did this was more for my health than my looks. My appearance was an added bonus. At almost 50 years old, I didn't expect to look "hot" when it was all over, but I did expect to have some real progress with my blood pressure, arthritis, etc. And I have!!!

[HeatherO 7]

My family was rather shocked over the holidays. They knew I lost weight but haven't really seen me much since summer. The last few pounds have really made a huge difference. It was really nice to receive the compliments and made for a fun Christmas. This is my first normal sized Christmas as an adult, lol.

What I noticed even more than the compliments were that peoples eyes followed me around everywhere, lol. That showed more of the surprise in the change than the compliments :0)

[ColoradoChick 33]

My family was rather shocked over the holidays. They knew I lost weight but haven't really seen me much since summer. The last few pounds have really made a huge difference. It was really nice to receive the compliments and made for a fun Christmas. This is my first normal sized Christmas as an adult, lol.

What I noticed even more than the compliments were that peoples eyes followed me around everywhere, lol. That showed more of the surprise in the change than the compliments :0)

I went to an event a few weeks ago with my husband. We saw a friend who we had not seen in about a year. We walked over to her and her husband to say hello. She looked right at my husband and asked him where I was!! Well I was standing right next to him which was also right in front of her!! She did not recognize me at all. It was GREAT!!! You can see my pictures on here from my highest to now. Many people do not think that I do not look like the same person.

[KelinTx 1]

When someone compliments me on my weight loss i am always very flattered and thrilled that they did have the courage to say SOMETHING. So i always say "thank you for noticing and thank you even more for telling me because it gives me motivation to continue on with the journey!"

[ColoradoChick 33]

When someone compliments me on my weight loss i am always very flattered and thrilled that they did have the courage to say SOMETHING. So i always say "thank you for noticing and thank you even more for telling me because it gives me motivation to continue on with the journey!"

That is a great way to handle compliment! You have done an incredible job with your weight loss!

[mommie2 0]

Thanks everyone for your responses you guys are always helpful. Happy New Year to all of you! Looking forward to a healthier, happier 2009.

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