Overweight friends

[chelsbels 2]

Has anyone else had other weight friends that were jealous that you were getting/got banded? My two closest friends are also over weight not as much as myself but still up there. I feel like I cant talk to them about it because they just say "ah well we'll still be fat" I dont know what to do about it! HELP

[OH Juli 15]

I'm not a teen, but this is something we all have to deal with.

What you might try is talking to them about how to talk about your WLS.

It goes something like this, "You know I'm having WLS. I'm going to have all kinds of changes going on. Of course I'll want to talk about with you, but I don't know if you'll want to hear about it. What's the best way to do that? Do you want to tell me if I'm going on too much?"

Or some such thing.

Good luck.

[Sarah.R 2]

I personally only have 2 friends that are overweight, well one isn't really a friend she's more an aquaintance but our families know each other lol - anyway, they're both basically the same size as me maybe even bigger although they delude themselves into thinking they're not. With the one that is my actual friend, I don't think I will tell her, I know she would be supportive but the fact is she has a big mouth and would probably tell people I don't want to know, with the other I definitely wouldn't tell her even if I was friends with her, she is so deluded into thinking she is one size that it really annoys me, here in aus our size like 20 is a size 18 their and she comes over most times and says "oh this dress i'm wearing is size 12 (size 10 their i guess) when in actuality she's a size 20, and the dress is one of those mesh ones where it can stretch to any size, she would be the kind to be pissed mainly because she can't have it or she just doesn't like others being happy, honestly if you think your friends can handle it then tell them, just say to them, if you want any information you can feel free to ask me about it, but if you don't feel comfortable with me talking about it then that's fine to, just let me know and i'll respect your wishes, or something along those lines. And if worse comes to worse - you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends!

[Jachut 487]

I've got 3 or 4 friends big enough to be banded. One has a banded friend, she's a nurse herself, understands it all well, but just doesnt want to go down that path and fair enough, she'd probably be a BMI of about 35, so not desperately obese.

The other two ladies are really very obese, very dangerously so. Both display a baffling lack of concern about it - they feel the vanity issues but both have openly said they dont want to give up being able to eat.

So no jealousy, not at all.

But I do feel vibes from other bigger people in my life (like school mums) that never knew me fat. They treat me like the "thin girl" as if I'm not one of them, they assume that I'm really vain or up myself becuase I look like I do and for the first time in my LIFE I've been excluded from a group (just a social, get together before and after school dropping the kids off) because of my weight. None of them know I'm banded.

[chelsbels 2]

its not really that they are jealous. well idk! but things have gotten better since i posted this. my 3 best friends are all really supportive. one of my best friends even made an account on lbt so she could know more about it! isnt that awesome!!! one of my friends since isnt my friend anymore. not because i wanted it that was nor did it have much or anything to do with the band. but all is well here!

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