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Desperate1    1

Desperate1
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tamra, I think you're asking the wrong question. It doesn't matter why people say unnecessary things - the question you need to find the answer and solution to is "why do you let it affect you" you can't control other people all you can do is control you and your actions. People only treat you the way you let them so tell her to quit or cut her out of your life - it's that simple. you ladies on here are the only friends I hang with. I have 4 other friends outside of here that I know would support me but their lifestyles are too much for me to handle so I come around on an as needed emergency basis!

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Desperate1    1

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oh, and the extra skin is nothing like the RNY people. this is a slower, more natural process and your skin has time to shrink with you - yes, there will be some but that is true no matter how you lose the weight. Is she telling you to stay fat forever so you don't have a little extra skin at the bottom of your tummy! I have it now from my past weight loss - I went down from 272 - Im not banded and it's there already!!

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riley4183    0

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I have a goal to hit by Halloween, I will do this with you Chris! I want to be what it says on my driver's license, 168!! That's uhm . . . .too much, like 16 lbs. or something

OH! BART STRIKE AVERTED! Jes, turn on the news!!

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swrktp    1

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Tamra girl!! I think you should get some counseling or come to some of our support groups.............you need to a change to process all this, all the changes..........this is an intense process and no shame in getting all the help you can!!

There is nothing EASY about lap band surgery!! This has been the hardest, scariest, most overwhelming at time decision I have made..........and yet this is by far my greatest accomplishment besides my daughter..........but I am going to counseling myself off and on .........and I took an anger management class recently..........trying to cover all my bases..........but this is HARD stuff............right ladies??

Biggest thing I have learned so far is to ask for help and to not be to proud to accept it...............and to be open and honest about my life............even the hard stuff that is easier to hide sometimes.............cause we want other people to still think the "best of us"..............

Thank you Dr. Baggs and Robin for teaching me to accept help again this week and to learn when to say give and trust someone else to help and make decisions for me, even when I stubbornly stick to the idea that I can solve things by myself and don't need to ask for help............still learning this stuff myself!! GEtting better at it though..........

Heavy people usually are the helpers for everyone else. WE feel guilty or think we don't deserve to ask for help for ourselves...............Thanks Donna for helping me figure this one out this week!! Donna is a true teacher!!! Love that lady!!! :-)

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tamra.    6

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Thanks everyone!!

Do you know when the next class is @ Richmond by any chance?

It would be hard to cut her, we have been friends since about 15, but she is VERY negative. she has alot of issues and is dealing with alot now, but I never EVER throw her stuff into her face like she does me. *shrugs*......

I will look into some counsling as well...and I do have extra skin, always have around my tummy, i dont CARE!! What I care about is being healthy and around for my baby. even if (and when i do) get to 160, i wouldnt show my body off with skimpy clothes....why am i sitting here makin excuses for her??? LOL...

whatever! where is the class again SAT? and what time? I have a church function @ I believe 11 am in Vallejo.

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Desperate1    1

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Sorry, Girl but your friend just doesn't get it and that annoyed me for a moment - I'm over it! but I agree with Tina 100% YOU NEED SUPPORT.

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tamra.    6

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Sorry, Girl but your friend just doesn't get it and that annoyed me for a moment - I'm over it! but I agree with Tina 100% YOU NEED SUPPORT.

its okay lol she upset my other friends when i told them also.....thanks for listening :)

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Desperate1    1

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Richmond is the 1st & 3rd Wednesday of the month. 6 - 7:30. conference rooms C1, C2 & C3. I will go with you if you want - Jes goes to one of those too! Lets plan it for the 3 of us to go to the very next one - you two ladies down for that?

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tamra.    6

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yes please lets go!!

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swrktp    1

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Riley NOT 50 miles in one week!!! LMAO!! I meant by Halloween...........oh Riley you are killing me here?? Should I aim higher??? :-P

An Riley I went though 6 years of college and grad school to learn to be nice and to say things in a way that can "reach people's ears" LOL. But for me personally I like and respond best to your approach!!! LOL. That is why MY EAR can hear............tough love!!

Tamra I will say one more thing than leave you alone. This is the second time you have let someone else affect your eating habits in a short period of time (your boss last week?)..........you need to think about this and deal with it or the lap band won't work for you...........but here is the secret your already stronger for just making the decision to go forward.......and your being open and honest about your "stuff" by posting...........your reaching out. All signs of strength and growth..........Girl your on a roll!!!

Just think the more weight you lose the more of a fight the people around you will put up........when they realize your strong and won't change for them.........they will change with your or drift away.......most likely drift away but I have had a few people stick it out with me.......

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swrktp    1

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Ok ladies I ate three small pieces of pizza........not feeling bad about it yet but let me count the calories. I was at 600 today before that...........ah everything is going down just fine thank you!!! and I am back to thinking about food again.........darn it, darn it, darn it............

I think I need peace and serenity and a 12 step group...... cause I am having a hard time accepting 2cc's of help from Dr. Baggs!!! I wanted to accept only .5cc's of help!! Can you ask for help and than tell someone how much help to give ya?? I did try to argue it a bit and he laughed but didn't budge!! ****God grant me the power to change the things I can, the courage to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to the difference between the two--chanting to myself rather loudly*******Maybe I still have some control issues???

Riley I miss my sweet spot.........i was fine with 2 meals a day and not thinking about food at all. (except for the fact I worried I was not eating enough!) Had to remind myself to eat........granted a PB or two a day........don't miss that but do miss the not being hungry and not obsessing about food all day........

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momcof3    1

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Who's going to be at the Point West support meeting this Saturday? I am going to be there - need to see my girls.

I too am seeing a therapist - went every two weeks for four visits and now I am waiting a month to see how I do on my own - see her again on August 28.

I need to e-mail Dr. Im to see when my next appt is - he told me 2 mths when I saw him on Jun 25, but I don't see any appts scheduled for me on-line. I have lost 11 lbs since I saw him on June 25 - not sure if I want a small fill or not - definitely not feeling any restriction today at all - I was even able to eat half a piece of meat pizza for dinner.< /p>

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tamra.    6

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Tamra I will say one more thing than leave you alone. This is the second time you have let someone else affect your eating habits in a short period of time (your boss last week?)..........you need to think about this and deal with it or the lap band won't work for you...........but here is the secret your already stronger for just making the decision to go forward.......and your being open and honest about your "stuff" by posting...........your reaching out. All signs of strength and growth..........Girl your on a roll!!!

Just think the more weight you lose the more of a fight the people around you will put up........when they realize your strong and won't change for them.........they will change with your or drift away.......most likely drift away but I have had a few people stick it out with me.......

your not bothering me at all, i love the advice!! i need it right about now, thats why i came stright here :)

i will get passed it, another hump in life!!!

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    • LeighaTR

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      Four days post surgery. I am sipping as fast as I can and getting NO WHERE near the goal of 60 - 80 grams of protein or the 64 oz of liquids. I just feel FULL. I don't know if it can still be the gas build up (I would think by now that would be gone) but it is a struggle to drink. And so far I have not had the nausea or spasms and don't want to wander into that territory by pushing too hard with liquids. I about passed out today as it was my most "strenuous" day. Went from second story to basement for shower and I was sure I was going to pass out. Looking back on my last few days I have had a total of less than 1000 calories. Am I just not getting enough nourishment in me? Once again a friday where I can't get ahold of the doc until Monday rolls back around so I am hoping maybe someone here has some experience on how to keep energy going. I do have fibromyalgia too and that may be where some added fatigue comes into play. How did you all fair with the goals the week after surgery?
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    • Doughgurl

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      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
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      1. Phil Penn

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        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

      2. Selina333

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        I'm in Houston so kind of near you and had the sleeve in Dec. Down 61 lbs. Feeling better. Was definitely worth it. I hope the everything is going well for you. Update us when you can!

      3. Doughgurl

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        I am back home after my bypass surgery in Tiajuana. I'm post op day 4. Everything went great! I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who have not encountered much pain at all, no nausea thus far and I'm having no problem keeping down broths and water. Thank you for your well wishes. I cant wait to keep up this journey and have a chance at better health and simply better quality of life. I know there will be bumps in the road ahead, and everything won't be peaches and cream, but at least I have a great start so far. 😍

    • LeighaTR

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      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
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    • Doughgurl

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      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
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      1. Selina333

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        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

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