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Oh my gosh.. got my date, August 1! Today I see the nutritionist for pre op diet. My wierd little mind is already trying to circumvent the diet, how will I go to a baby shower? my in-laws anniversary?? My first thought was to lie and say I was having some mysterious female surgery..... My spikey daughter said , Heck mom, you have done all this research, gone to fifteen dr. apointments, and it's your body and you are doing something good, tell them the truth, you're having lap band surgery and go for it! So today I start my journey, a little scared, and a lot hopeful for a different kind of life.

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NOW thats what I call a good daughter- someone is very proud of you!

I myself am a closet bandster & am very happy I am! I wouldn't want to be outed. I have alot less pressure than most outed bandsters do!

Congrats on your date- its around the corner & you come through w/flying colors! So happy you have the support at home.

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Make the choice you want to. I have told a number of people. I think it would have been easier not telling them but I know a few people have checked out the surgery because of it. I live in a conservative (but fat) part of the country so if figure that if I can help educate others on the band, it may help them or a friend have a better life or health.

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I'm also a closet bandster, only people VERY close to me that I trust know.

As for going to showers or whatever...hell, tell them you are on a diet, or doing lo carb, or something like that. People usually go "ooh! Good for YOU" then back off.

I was getting offended that people kept monitoring how much I ate until I said "you know, I'm lo carbing....just trying to get a few pounds off" and people leave me alone now.

Good luck with your decision to tell or not tell. You know, a lot of people still haven't heard of the band so if you tell be totally prepared to answer a LOT of questions.

Congrats on your surgery date! I'm so excited for you!!

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My spikey daughter said , Heck mom, you have done all this research, gone to fifteen dr. apointments, and it's your body and you are doing something good, tell them the truth, you're having lap band surgery and go for it!

Smart daughter you have.

as parents we teach our children that lying is not a good thing.

You are an adult able to make your own choices. If those around you do not understand or support your decision, that is their problem not yours. Dont worry about what others may think or may say..you are doing this for you and no one else

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Like the others, I think you have to make the decision that fits your personality. Myself, I'm an open book about lots of things, not everything. Lapband surgery is one of the things I have been very open about; and have had nothing but good wishes and encouragement. My situation might be different, too. I have worked with the same teachers for 20 years or so...yes, there are a few new ones here and there, but mostly, the same crew, kinda like a dysfunctional family. So, if I tried to keep a secret like that, it would soon be out anyway. Also, I have found when I can tell others about something, they respect it, and I have even helped some people to learn about subjects they were previously uneducated about. On the other hand, I would never be offended if someone kept their surgery secret. You do what you think is right for you. My 2 cents (but I usually throw in 1 more for good measure!) Cindy

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