Help i feel like a failure!!

[Aussie_Jules 0]

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hello everyone, well ive been banded a year in december and ive only lost 30kgs, the amazing weight losses ive read on here makes me feel so depressed i know i should be happy and not compare myself to others but i cant help it.

I know exactly why..... ill be honest i drink when i eat i didnt in the start but now i do it all the time, the pain is bad but it seems to be worth whatever im eating. i need some serious help ...people are commenting why i havnt lost more weight and it really gets me down.

Has anyone else been through this please help!!

[RestlessMonkey 7]

I haven't been through that but I can only suggest, since you know what's causing your lack of weight loss....to STOP drinking when you eat. PERIOD. do it for 1 week and see how you feel. Also maybe a little behavioral therapy would help you. You're the only one who can work your band, you know. 30 kg isn't a bad loss. I personally would tell you quit comparing yourself to others, quit drinking with your meals, and get on with it! LOL You know what and how .... only you, I'd think, can answer why not. good luck! Whatever happens, 30 kgs is a good loss.

[tonya66 13]

Get back to the basics, follow the rules.

Don't get discourage if you are a slow loser. I was a very fast loser the first 6 months, but the past year, it takes everything I have in me to lose 1 lbs.

Stay on top of your fills. Make sure you are at your sweet spot, stick to lean Proteins, eat them first. and DON'T DRINK AND EAT. Drink Water right up until time to eat, then stop.

I know its easier said than done, but you can do it. The thing about the band is it is very forgiving, it is still with you,now you just have to start using it as a tool and it will help you.

Best wishes. PS - Your not a failure, you haven't quit, so chin up and get back to the basics.

[Aussie_Jules 0]

Thanks guys im greatful for ur replys, im going to get back on track starting today, i know i can do it im just off the track at the moment. I will get there eventually

[Bobby D 0]

I feel the same way and my failure now seems small but, none the less I cannot get a handle on it. Been banded about year had very good success until now I stopped going to the gym and I have been eating candy! Just been adjust tightly but, I know how to eat around my band. A lot going on in my life recently divorce so I have that to deal with and this loneliness too. Please if any one has any suggestions I am open to them. Thanks in advance.........

[RestlessMonkey 7]

I feel the same way and my failure now seems small but, none the less I cannot get a handle on it. Been banded about year had very good success until now I stopped going to the gym and I have been eating candy! Just been adjust tightly but, I know how to eat around my band. A lot going on in my life recently divorce so I have that to deal with and this loneliness too. Please if any one has any suggestions I am open to them. Thanks in advance.........

I have a suggestion. If you broke your leg, you wouldn't expect candy to heal it, would you? Well...you have emotional issues in your life that you are "treating" with candy and food. It isn't going to help those, either. I suggest finding a good therapist you trust and "click" with and treating the problem with something that will help you through. Overeating and not exercising are not ever going to do one good thing for you.

[Brandy~ 2]

My weight was just falling off in the beginning and now I am lucky when I lose a pound. It's my own fault too cause I don't exercise alot...

That's ok though. Don't beat yourself up Just try to follow bandsters rules. If it's too much all at once add them back into your routine slowly. Most of all get moving! Just start with a walk at night or something small.

You'll be fine. You have done well and congrats on your loss.