Why were YOU overweight?

noosagirl · October 27, 2008

In my dads eyes you are probably more excepted if you kill someone than be over weight. All of my cousins on my dads side, of which there are nearly 20 are all intelligent, athletic, very skinny and most are tall (the biggest girl would be my sister who would be a US size 8!)

I was hyperactive as a child so from the age of two I was on a diet.

I remember hiding sweets in my cupboard at the age of five.

Going to kids parties I was watched like a hawk so that I didn't have any "junk" but as soon as backs were turned I was like an out of controlled animal.

I went to stay with my grandparents one time and I snuck some lollies in my suitcase which were found, I got in a lot of trouble, the same visit I sneakily bought a Mars Bar (chocolate),was caught eating it and the shit hit the fan, got in so much trouble that my grandma wouldn't talk to me for a whole day, I was only 10years old!

I ended up marrying someone who, surprise surprise feels the same way about anyone being over weight as my dad does.

I guess you can see that in my life BIG=BAD.

I have waisted 35years thinking about my weight and I thought I just can't do this anymore, so I got banded 3rd Sept 2008 and i've promised my self to trust in the lap band and start living my life.

Two weeks ago I started back at the gym, I love to dance so i'm doing Zamba classes and pole dancing as well. I also told my husband to pull his head in last week and i'm not putting up with his put downs any more. I am going to work up north for 3 weeks in Dec and I am going back packing around India for 2-3 months end of next year with or with out my husband (if he is good he can come).

noosagirl · October 27, 2008

Life is way to short!!!

lea2015 · October 27, 2008

I was always of normal weight (married at 135lbs age 25) Had three children with 1st pregnacy became diabetic controlled with diet. Lost all pregancy weight with all three children. At age 40 I became type 2 diabetic. After 5 years of trying to control my sugar wih diet and exercise, I was put on meds, with each new med I was put on to control my sugar I would gain 10lbs give or take a few lbs. After 5 years and 60 lbs of weight gain I decided to get my life back and my sugar under control. I am still working on control of my sugar but, I know in time all will be right in my world. I will live to to granchildren someday. Good luck to everyone.

Jeanneazul · October 28, 2008

Great stories!

My sister was born pre-maturely and very sickly, and I followed one year and 17 days later. My sister had to be tempted to eat; my first word was "more". My mother always liked to feed people--you get the picture! I was always overweight in the day when fat babies were considered healthy. I starved in college, so managed to date. A few years later, I caught my husband having an affair, and that was the end of self control. Kind of an "I'll show you" attitude. Depression was probably more accurate. Well, I showed him, didn't I? Still married and with eyes wide open, the weight kind of just stayed on, and slowly grew over the years. Quitting smoking added about 30 more pounds. I was always a little afraid of the radical changes the bypass did to people, so very glad when the Band came along. No regrets at all!:thumbup:

tkcuvelier · October 29, 2008

Very interesting thread indeed!

Me, I was a thin ADHD child until I hit puberty. I spent my days outdoors playing and was really quite a tomboy. Then, when I hit 13, my hormones kicked in and I put on 100 lbs. over the course of 5 months without any change in diet or exercise.

At 14, I was diagnosed with Hypothyroidism, Poly-Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and an adrenal gland disorder, which combined was the cause of the 100 lb. gain. And thanks to both the PCOS and the weight, I have also recently been diagnosed as a Type 2 Diabetic.

I've tried everything to lose the weight, and despite dieting AND regular exercise (I still have ADHD and am constantly moving), my weight continued to go up. And I mean I've tried everything -- from Weight Watchers to Atkins to prescription diet pills, and the scale never budged.

My weight has had me incredibly depressed since I was 14, to the point that I attempted suicide 4 times. My highest weight was 345, which was my weight just before starting the pre-op diet. I will be thrilled if I can get down to 200.

Tara

Edited October 29, 2008 by tkcuvelier

rodriguezequal · October 29, 2008

Very interesting thread indeed!
I will be thrilled if I can get down to 200.

Tara

I think you mistyped this...I believe you meant to type you will be thrilled WHEN you get down to 200 lol...we've got this. Take care.

Losing_It_In_Texas · October 31, 2008

I have loved reading all of the stories. It seems there is one main theme here.....no matter what the reason was that we were overweight, we have ALL chosen to take our lives back and to no longer be victims to our demons, whatever they were. AND, we are longer victims of obesity and that is what matters most!! Great job everyone...keep up the good work.:biggrin:

MADE IT 2 MY GOAL..OH YEAH · October 31, 2008

In a way my story is alot like other here on this site, but in a way it may differ also. I was actually in very good shape most of my life. Up until I was 19 years old and become pregnant with my first child, I was only 125 pounds. I didn't do much to keep in shape. As a matter of fact, I worked at Hardees and would eat hamburgers and fries all evening, and of the morning when we would stop serving Breakfast, what ever was left of the cinnamon biscuits, I would eat. On a normal day i could eat atleast a dozen of them and wash it down with a milkshake and NEVER gain an ounce. I like to call those days, "the good old days". When I didn't have to worry about my weight. I never once thought I would be sitting here on a site like this with something wrapped around my stomach to help me lose weight, crap, I never thought I'd have the need to lose weight.

I got married shortly after my 19 birthday and within a month after getting married, I become pregnant with my first child. Still at 125 pounds, I never worried about gaining pregnancy weight cause I thought I would be able to lose it like most of the women in my family and the fact that my mom weighs less than 130 pounds also. While pregnant with Savanna, (my little girl) I gained up to 200 pounds. Not once did my OB/GYN tell me I was gaining to much weight. After having Savanna, I never lost the weight. My marriage wasn't the best in the world, I didn't get along with my inlaws what so ever, so I turned to food to comfort myself.

I become pregnant again at the age of 21 with my son Jerry, and ended up around 250. I tried to lose the weight but nothing I did ever seemed to work for any length of time, so, I gave up and figured I was suppose to be fat for the rest of my life. My (now) ex husband had gained alot of weight over the years so I got to were I didn't care.

My ex-husband and I split up in June of 2005 and within just a few months, I was down to right at 200 pounds. I was able to fit into button up jeans again and was starting to feel good about myself again. I met the man I am now married to in March of 06 and stayed at the right at 200 mark for a while. I got comfortable with him and gained my weight back.

(It get a little personal here, but, this is my story). After gaining alot of the weight back, I become more ashamed of my body than ever. You see, my husband is really good looking, in shape, nice body all that stuff. We got married in March of this year, and I guess you can say my breaking point on my weight was when I really realized, I wouldn't let him see me naked at all. Sex was totally out of the question unless it was totally dark, and his hands weren't aloud any futher than my breast.

Although he always told me that my weight didn't matter to him and he thought I was beautiful, I still couldn't get past it. I mean after all, if I couldn't stand to see myself naked in the mirror, how could anyone else, especially a man stand to see me that way.

After a long drawn out battle with my weight, I started checking in on the lapband. I was to scared to go for the bypass, and I had heard that besides not losing the weight as fast, the band was just as good. I wen't into the hospital on August 18 weighing in at 267 pounds.

Thoughts of myself on that very day were as follows. I am nasty, not worth a glance, I was ashamed that I could let myself get to the point that I had to have an operation to help me lose weight.

I made my goals 2 days before my surgery. They were small goals, but goals that I swore I would make it to by next year, hopefully even sooner. Savanna is a cheerleader and has always wanted me to be a coach but I was to embarrassed to do it, so one of my goals was that next football season, I was going to ask to help coach her squad and not be wondering if anyone was sitting there laughing at me because my stomach hang down lower. I am going to be able to get outside and my with my kids and not have to sit down cause I got out of breath within the first couple of minutes of being out there with them. I am going to be able to take my clothes off in broad daylight and let my husband see me. Although I have already passed that goal due to the fact I demaned to take a shower the same day I had my surgery and he was the only one I would let in the bathroom with me and he had to wash me. I was so drugged up I didn't care at the moment, all I knew is I wanted a shower and I was going to get one...lol. I was 1 goal that I want to make before the end of this year, that goal is, you know those cute little nighties that come out during Christmas time, the red see through ones with the white trim and red string with the white bally thing at the end. I want to be able to get into one of those by Christmas and not be scared of how I look. Those are my goals.

It is now 2 months and 12 days after my surgery. I haven't done as well as I hoped and not as well as other on this site has done. But I have lost 22 pounds, went down 1 pant size, and the sad part is, yeah I am losing weight, but my boobs are going with it to, and I hate that.

So, to anyone out there who is reading my story and hasn't had this surgery done, my advise to you is this. This is a life changing that you are going to do. It not magical and not by any means is it easy. But, it is something that will change your life but only if you help it chance you life.

"to get what you want, sometimes you have to do what you have never done before"

MADE IT 2 MY GOAL..OH YEAH · October 31, 2008