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Well, I just told my husband about my decision to get the lap band surgery. I had not told anybody but my best friend a few weeks ago when I was going to the seminar because I knew she would just listen and not judge or try to convince me one way or the other. Hubby can tend to be a bit negative and always points out the bad, so I chose not to tell him until I had chosen because, frankly, this is about and for me.

All he knew was that I was going to all these doctor appointments and knew I had something going on but didn't want to talk to him about it just yet. Until tonight.

He was amazingly supportive and happy that out of all the WLS out there, I had chosen this one because it was not as drastic as so many others out there. I was so surprised that I started crying. He asked if I was sad about this, and I said no... just emotional. There's a part of me that is SO excited to begin this new journey, yet another little voice in my head said I failed or wasn't strong enough to do this myself. He shushed me and said that's not true at all... this is just a tool, and I will still have the work to do. I just need some help, and that's okay.

He even asked, if it was okay with me, if he could go with me to meet with the nutritionist when that time comes because he does a lot of the cooking and wants to know what will be best for me. How fantastic is that?

Wow. :sad_smile:

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Beth.. that is awesome that he is supportive.. We all need support and i tell you it is easiest when the hubby's are there for us.. My husband is overweight, but not as bad as me, but he decided to have Lapband with me so he could go through it at the same time and I did not have to do it alone...It made me very happy he was willing to take the journey with me..We are lucky to have such wonderful men in our lives.. Best wishes to you on your journey.. Keep in touch

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