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I hope I don't make anyone uncomfortable, but I am honestly concerned about how, if at all, having sex changes after the surgery. I mean after you are healed completely---Is it dangerous to feel weight on your abdominal area from your partner? Also, sex at times can require a significant deal of abdominal work---sorry everybody, I really don't mean to get x-rated here, but I'm trying to explain myself as scienifically as possible here---is abdominal work dangerous? If so, does that ever change, I mean when will it NOT be dangerous? I'm sorry if this was weird. I'm having surgery next month, November, and I'm trying to get as informed as I can get. Thank you for your replies everybody.

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Why would sex after surgery be dangerous? I guess I don't understand why you would think it would be. You have to heal first from your incisions...and there will be some discomfort for a while until you're all healed up inside but, it's whatever is comfortable for you.

When the port is sewn in place and healed you can do whatever you want. If we can exercise, after we heal you can certainly have sex no problem. It took me a good 5 weeks before the internal incision part felt ok but that was me. Everyone is different and some heal faster!

Good luck

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Oh and the only thing that changes for sex after surgery is it gets better cause you're losing weight so your bodies get even closer :thumbup: hee hee

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I wish I had that problem. No man in my life right now. I would guess when ever you feel comfortable. They say it takes 6 weeks after surgery for the band to heal/scar around your stomach. So if your worried about the pressure of someone smashing you, do what I would do....be on top!!:thumbup:

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There's nothing that I haven't done. I don't really exercise like go to the gym. I work in a warehouse unloading trucks, so I get alot of physical activity on a regular basis. (Unfortunatly like I said, not a lot of PHYSICAL activity if you know what I mean.) I want to get a WII fit I here they are alot of fun. I guess there's a dance game and some type of hula hoop thing besides the basic yoga type stuff. :thumbup:

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From a male prospective, sex is much better. The weight loss is like viagra. :crying:

Honestly, 2 1/2 months post op = no pain, no problems.

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I've had my band almost three years now and I can honestly say maybe once or twice I've leaned against something in front of me like the kitchen counter to wash the kitchen window over my sink and I leaned on my port. You notice it quick, doesn't hurt more uncomfortable and so you stop. Other than that I barely know it's there unless I go looking for it or I'm getting a fill. You shouldn't have to worry about it once you're healed :crying:

You can definately do abdominal work etc. Will you notice the port....sometimes if you're building up that much muscle I would think you could but, as far as having to be extra careful because of it? I wouldn't think so but, best advice for that would be your doc. If you poke around in the before and after pics you'll see people in there that obviously have worked out pretty hard so I'm guessing they didn't have any issues :eek: Best to ask your doc on that part of it.

Good luck with your band journey!

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Hilarious Linksmom! Do you do ALL kinds of exercises or do you have to stay away from some kinds of exercises now that you had the surgery?

you probably want to check w/your dr - he/she may want you to wait a bit before doing ab exercises. mine suggested i wait 2 months out.

i love this thread was started in the fitness & exercise forum...:crying:

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Hi Lisa,

Thanks for asking the question that many have probably wondered about but not comfortable asking. I am newly banded but that is one of the questions I was going to ask my doc on my next follow up. I wish you the best in your upcoming surgery in Nov

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