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I am glad the OP started this thread! I decided early on (and I am still pre-seminar) not to tell anyone but my husband. I am considering telling my best friend but still not sure. Definitely no one (and I mean NO one) at work...this kind of thing would become the office joke.

My question to folks who didn't tell anyone, how did you explain your surgery and how long were you really "down" from it? I had my gallbladder taken out through lap surgery years ago and took a week off work for it. I was thinking about the same.

I just hope I'll be eligible. I am at 35bmi but just barely. I do have to comorbidities though - arthritis in the spine, cholestoral meds, irregular heart beat meds and a strong family history of heart attacks. The last visit I had with my doctor in August he put me on xenical...but it really just didn't work. Alli did work for a while but would start and stop in spurts. I hope that will qualify me. I realize this is a BIG step but I really do want to improve my health and be young enough to enjoy it!!!

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My husband and I are both having the surgery Nov 13 in Tiajuana. I have told several people, but he's been very quiet about it. He hasn't told any of his family (even his sister that he listed as an emergency contact). He didn't even tell his boss -- only his assistant. He said he doesn't like the reaction people have when they find out he's doing it in Mexico. I say let them freak out, it's our decision and we're going to prove everyone wrong!

Elaine

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