Enduring to the end...

[lotzasunshine 2]

I just need to talk out my feelings for a few minutes.

My hubby has chronic knee problems, they started on his mission. He has had several surgeries to helps, and they did, but only for a little while. He is currently seeing a pain management specialist and is on a time release dose of morphine and takes lortab 4 times a day. He can't do anything but come home and collapse in pain. I try to do all the running around by myself because it is so hard for him to walk a lot. I am also working and taking care of our apartment, so I am very busy. I feel terrible because there is nothing I can do for him! :teeth_smile: All I can do is pray, and I do that a lot. On a particularly bad day this week I made him promise me that when we go to his Orthopedic Dr this week that he will ask about possible knee replacement. I know that it is drastic for a 26yr old to have both knees replaced, but the dr said it would be the only thing to really help, but he wanted to wait until DH was older. I know that the artificial knees usually last only 20yrs and you can have them done twice if you are lucky, but I would rather have him healthy and in less pain now, because technology is always getting better and who knows what they will be able to do in 40 yrs.

Now to talk about me, I am feeling kind of depressed because I am not losing quickly at all. It seems to be picking up a bit because I discovered that I had to increase my calories to lose, and have lost 1.5 in a week. Maybe this is what I need. Plus I am really feeling the desire to have children! We have been married for 2 yrs next week and aren't preventing.

I know that I would be able to wait if I only knew WHEN!! When will DH be out of pain, when will I lose this burden of weight, when will we be blessed with children? :wink_smile: But I guess that is where the whole enduring to the end thing comes in right? It will all be in the Lord's time, no matter how badly we want it. I just need to be more patient. God knows what is best and I need to trust that he has blessings in store for me that I cannot even comprehend!

Thanks for letting me talk out my feelings!

[crzytchr 3]

Sunshine, you have a lot on your plate right now. I am sorry to hear about your husband. It must be hard to be so young and be in that kind of pain. I think he is probably right to check into knee replacement. Help him through that, continue to follow your eating plan to take care of yourself, and the baby will come in time. You will need to be healthy to carry it more easily and you will feel better. It does seem to be part of His plan.

Take care of yourself and the rest will come when it is time. Good Luck!

[lotzasunshine 2]

Sunshine, you have a lot on your plate right now. I am sorry to hear about your husband. It must be hard to be so young and be in that kind of pain. I think he is probably right to check into knee replacement. Help him through that, continue to follow your eating plan to take care of yourself, and the baby will come in time. You will need to be healthy to carry it more easily and you will feel better. It does seem to be part of His plan.

Take care of yourself and the rest will come when it is time. Good Luck!

Thank you. I know it is all for the best I am just having a hard time. We went to his Dr today and he said he wouldn't even consider him for a replacement because he is too young. I don't know what to do.

[crzytchr 3]

Honestly, I would try a different dr. Only your husband truly knows how much pain he is in. Living day to day on a pain management plan is liable to wreck havoc on his liver. Are they testing it regularly? Please see if he is open to checking with another dr.

[Shinyhappymommy 2]

lotza,

Sorry to hear of the trials you are facing right now. The bright side is that you will be all that much stronger once your are through these things. Really, we do grow from our adversities.

I can relate to the wanting a child (for me another child). My first thought is that you're awfully soon after surgery to be considering pregnancy just yet. I'm 8 months out and almost 90 pounds down, with 54 to go and I think that it still might be a little soon for me. But only you know your feelings and what Heavenly Father wants for your family. I guess if you're not pregnant yet, that may be your answer. As you lose weight, you'll likely become more fertile as well.

That's really rough about your husband. Is he also overweight? What caused his knee trouble? I have no experience in such things, so I really hope you're able to get some good medical advice from a doctor that will listen to you guys.

As far as your weight loss, do you think you need a fill? Are you getting exercise? Are you eating properly and following your band rules? All those things help so much. The weight loss can slow down from time to time, but after a few weeks if nothing is changing, you may look into why it's not coming off.

Hang in there. May you be buoyed up from Conference this weekend. I know I'm looking forward to it.

[lotzasunshine 2]

lotza,

Sorry to hear of the trials you are facing right now. The bright side is that you will be all that much stronger once your are through these things. Really, we do grow from our adversities.

I can relate to the wanting a child (for me another child). My first thought is that you're awfully soon after surgery to be considering pregnancy just yet. I'm 8 months out and almost 90 pounds down, with 54 to go and I think that it still might be a little soon for me. But only you know your feelings and what Heavenly Father wants for your family. I guess if you're not pregnant yet, that may be your answer. As you lose weight, you'll likely become more fertile as well.

That's really rough about your husband. Is he also overweight? What caused his knee trouble? I have no experience in such things, so I really hope you're able to get some good medical advice from a doctor that will listen to you guys.

As far as your weight loss, do you think you need a fill? Are you getting exercise? Are you eating properly and following your band rules? All those things help so much. The weight loss can slow down from time to time, but after a few weeks if nothing is changing, you may look into why it's not coming off.

Hang in there. May you be buoyed up from Conference this weekend. I know I'm looking forward to it.

Thank you so much for your reply. I was feeling a little overwhelmed that day. I am today as well. It seems that when it rains it pours. My parents just found out that my Dad has a mass in his brain so now we are all waiting to hear if it is nothing or if it is something to worry about. So now that is on the list of things to endure for now too. Oh well, I know I'll be all right if I just pray and live like I am supposed to.

About DH. He is not overweight at all, and has always led an active and healthy life until his knee problems started on his mission. The doctor that he sees is the best specialist in Utah, and one of the best in the country as he has worked with Olympic athletes. So he knows what he is doing and we just need to trust that the Lord will provide a means of DH dealing with the pain. 26 is very young to have joints replaced, but somehow we will get through it.

I am definitely baby hungry but I also think it is too soon after surgery to consider getting pregnant, so now we just need to be more careful

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers!

[Shinyhappymommy 2]

Did you catch Conference today? There were a lot of great talks that I found very comforting. I hope you're doing well.

[lotzasunshine 2]

I LOVED conference yesterday, it seemed like it was meant for my family and I. It really lifted my spirits. Excited for today too!