Mommy Dearest, thanks for making sure I never feel happy!

[aubrie 6]

BBK. When I first read the letter, I thought, okay, a very concerned mom. Maybe a little over the top, but concerned none the less. The internet can be dangerous, and I could see her point. The pictures? Good heavens. I was a high school teacher for several years and I've seen WAY worse parading up and down the hallways!!! Your pictures were in good taste, and nothing, absolutely nothing was showing that would warrant your mom's criticism. Then, I read your post further down about what you suffered through as a child, and that your mother did nothing to stop it. WHAT? I was stunned. This reaction coming from the same person that allowed that to happen to a child? I clentched my teeth. There's a whole lot more to all this. Now I understand your pain. YOu're right. she had no right to say it at that point. She lost her priviledge to act like a mother to you. And notice I say priviledge. She squandered that. I now see the letter as concern for HERSELF!!! She was worried about Ralph for God's sake!!! She didn't want this to reflect on her!!! Her concern for "you" is a load of crap. Pure and simple. Sorry. I hate to be blunt. Once you do that to a child, you're unredeemable as far as I'm concerned. You live your life, love your kids, be comfortable in your skin (Hell you deserve it!), and Celebrate your blessings. Leave the dirt where it belongs.... In the bin. Don't EVER let her get the best of you.

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

Well, based on the answer, I was being overly sensitive. But you see, I was thinking that there was some logical reason to throw Ralph in there. I.E., that the idea that Ralph would see the picture would somehow upset BBK. But apparently not...

There is nothing logical about her at all. That there in lies the problem!

BBK. When I first read the letter, I thought, okay, a very concerned mom. Maybe a little over the top, but concerned none the less. The internet can be dangerous, and I could see her point. The pictures? Good heavens. I was a high school teacher for several years and I've seen WAY worse parading up and down the hallways!!! Your pictures were in good taste, and nothing, absolutely nothing was showing that would warrant your mom's criticism. Then, I read your post further down about what you suffered through as a child, and that your mother did nothing to stop it. WHAT? I was stunned. This reaction coming from the same person that allowed that to happen to a child? I clentched my teeth. There's a whole lot more to all this. Now I understand your pain. YOu're right. she had no right to say it at that point. She lost her priviledge to act like a mother to you. And notice I say priviledge. She squandered that. I now see the letter as concern for HERSELF!!! She was worried about Ralph for God's sake!!! She didn't want this to reflect on her!!! Her concern for "you" is a load of crap. Pure and simple. Sorry. I hate to be blunt. Once you do that to a child, you're unredeemable as far as I'm concerned. You live your life, love your kids, be comfortable in your skin (Hell you deserve it!), and Celebrate your blessings. Leave the dirt where it belongs.... In the bin. Don't EVER let her get the best of you.

Thank you. I truly appreciate it!

[heartfire 4]

But honey is so "sweet" LOL

Which just proves my point! Plain is sooo NOT honey!!! He's neither smooth nor sweet!!! LOL!!!

Sorry Plain. I just can't help myself sometimes.

:thumbup:

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

Which just proves my point! Plain is sooo NOT honey!!! He's neither smooth nor sweet!!! LOL!!!

Sorry Plain. I just can't help myself sometimes.

:thumbup:

Don't feel sorry, he gives it out as much as he gets it! :frown:

[plain 12]

Don't feel sorry, he gives it out as much as he gets it!

Hey! Maybe I am a turd, but I'm still voting for you! Over the naked chick!! I am only able to exercise that level of self control because I am a ninja!

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

Hey! Maybe I am a turd, but I'm still voting for you! Over the naked chick!! I am only able to exercise that level of self control because I am a ninja!

Awwwww.... :wink2: See, I knew you are trainable. That is all that matters! :tongue:

Thank you most honorable ninja! :crying:

[Southern Missy 1]

BBK --

Apparently this is a recognition problem. Do you think maybe you need to tell your mom that you're not NAKED chic, your picture is under hers? (TeeHee) :wink2:

Seriously, though, I grew up without my mother so my grandmother stepped in to help my Dad out and our relationship seems to parallel what you describe with your mother. I'm sure you realize that it is all about "control". At my wedding, my grandmother was going around introducing herself to everyone as the "only mother I've ever known" and when that got old, she then proceeded to sit down and start crying, telling anyone who would listen, how tired she was with all the work she had done on my wedding. These are just drops in the bucket compared to the lifetime of things she has done. Our relationship is very strained, to say the least, because of her constant need to try to control me.

Your pictures are in very good taste, girl. I wouldn't give it a second thought! BTW, shouldn't you ask Ralph for his vote? :crying:

[DivaStyleCoach 89]

Mornin' BBK and Friends,

I just voted for you again, girlfriend...you're now only 1% behind that naked woman...

Let's get out there and vote, people! We can help put BBK back in her rightful place as the "woman at the top" of this vote!:crying:

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

BBK --

Apparently this is a recognition problem. Do you think maybe you need to tell your mom that you're not NAKED chic, your picture is under hers? (TeeHee) :wub:

Seriously, though, I grew up without my mother so my grandmother stepped in to help my Dad out and our relationship seems to parallel what you describe with your mother. I'm sure you realize that it is all about "control". At my wedding, my grandmother was going around introducing herself to everyone as the "only mother I've ever known" and when that got old, she then proceeded to sit down and start crying, telling anyone who would listen, how tired she was with all the work she had done on my wedding. These are just drops in the bucket compared to the lifetime of things she has done. Our relationship is very strained, to say the least, because of her constant need to try to control me.

Your pictures are in very good taste, girl. I wouldn't give it a second thought! BTW, shouldn't you ask Ralph for his vote? :biggrin:

Thanks Missy!

Yes, I should ask Ralph shouldn't I? GOOD CALL!! :thumbup:

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Last I checked today, you were ahead by quite a bit.I wish I could vote from work.

[green 6]

BBK - The impression that I received from reading your mother's letter was that she sounds like quite the manipulative drama queen. This letter was, and make no mistake, all about her and her feelings and the maintenance of her self-image of herself as your mother; it really has little or nothing to do with you except, of course, that it says very hurtful and destructive things.

It has been both my personal experience and my observation from looking at the relationships of my friends that the parent-child relationship is the most psychologically loaded relationship one will ever have. I know that I have fully recovered from bad marriages and romances but that I still at my advanced age will dwell on the damage done to me as a child by my incompetent yet loving parents. Indeed, this is why I still see a therapist. My parents are now dead. I have found this to be surprisingly relaxing. That sense of guilt they gave me is gone.

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

Wow green, I think you hit the nail on the head. I appreciate your honesty and openess. Sad to think death is the answer...

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

I need your help.​ Those​ of you who were votin​g for me on the votec​aster​ know that it is down.​ Some jerk cheat​ed,​ so now all those​ votes​ no longe​r count​.​ I first​ want to thank​ all of you for votin​g for me, thank​ you!

If you have not vote on the blog,​ pleas​e do so here!​ You will have to add her as a frien​d,​ but her stuff​ is cool so it is worth​ it!​:​)​ It is the only way to get me back in the lead as all you know was winni​ng!​ Toget​her we can do this again​!​

I thank​ you all in advan​ce!​ HUGS and LOVE!​

Ginge​r Rayne

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[DivaStyleCoach 89]

BBK - the link didn't work for me - can you post it again?

I want to make sure OUR poster girl wins!:crying:

[green 6]

Yah, the link didn't work for me, either.