need advice?

jewels41 · September 7, 2008

Hi everyone, I only have 2 more dietician visits left one at the end of sept and the last one is october 29th . I also see the surgeon that day as well.. I have come along way and still thinking positive until last wednesday...

here is the deal, I am a single mother and on august 29th my two youngest childrens dad died at the age of 38 he was younger than me. You see Im worried that I would be the one to die on that operating table. I have had other surgeries and have been fine. Just things have sure changed " IM THERE ONLY PARENT" My two kids are sixteen and fourteen I think Im going to talk to my sister and brothers to see which one if something should happen who would take them and get it in writing. Perhaps everyone is like nothing is going to happen but you never know when god calls you home. I still want this surgery very much so and Im sure I will. Just more nervous about this now. could use some support perhaps or words of wisdom..

thank you

Julie

lap band lady · September 7, 2008

I think its a great idea to have somone in mind to take care of your children if you should pass. My sister and brother in law have asked me to be guardian of their son if anything was to happen to them. Now granted they both are still alive, but what if they got into a car accident and both died? It would put your mind at ease, not trying to be insensitive but remember when its your time, its your time, if its surgery or getting hit by a bus, so in my opinion being prepared is a great idea.

heartfire · September 7, 2008

I agree, I think you should do it whether you have surgery or not. You just never know. Obviously, as with your kids' dad.

I had some of those same thoughts before surgery. My DH is alive and well but we have a 2 year old DD and I just didn't want to die and not see her grow up and have her lose her mama at so young an age. I knew she'd be well taken care of but still, I wouldn't be there!

I think all of us with kids have the same thoughts going in and it would be more so for a single parent.

So, talk to your family, get it in writing and talk to your kids about it. Don't need to scare them but let them know that if something DOES happen, they're going to go live with ... and be well taken care of. Maybe even ask them who they'd prefer to live with. They are old enough to have an opinion.

Best wishes to you on your band journey!