Who are you telling?

[stevegoad 32]

The exact reason I don't tell many.

Most it is the lie of "The easy way out."

The only exception to that is my mother. I didn't tell her because (1) she has very loose lips and would tell everyone... and (2) she would be too all up in my business as to how I could pay for it. I don't want her to be questioning my finances.

[maw 0]

:smile2:Initially, I only told my sister-in-law as she was with me during another procedure in which my doctor really expressed concern about my weight. About a month after I had attended the inital meetings required by the surgery group, I told my 2 oldest friends. Their support and encouragement was great! I told a few friends at work and my boss because I was asking for alot of time off to attend the required medical appointments for pre-op. What surprised me the most was when I told my hairdresser! Her support has been fantastic. I finally told one of my sisters and she has been very supportive and is encouraging me to tell my dad. I'm not sure about that; I'm afraid his wife will be nagging me quite a bit and make comments that I will have to bite my tongue not to be rude or obnoxious. I have found that the folks I've told have been really, really supportive and I'm really grateful for this! :thumbup:

[Sunwyse 1]

My partner has started the "you won't be able to have that after" route. Sure I won't be able to have the fizzies, but I will be able to have ice cream sheesh. Not straight away and not much, but I will be able to have it occasionally. I just don't want him to start monitoring everything I eat.

[Super Girl 0]

I have told my hubby, my sister and brother and my two children and of course my best friend. I really didnt want anyone else to know I have a very critical extended family and I have been the only one who is overweight.

Now I am equal to them all!!!

I now have a quiet confidence that I never had in my entire life.

Super Girl

[julie.ann 1]

I have told my hubby, my sister and brother and my two children and of course my best friend. I really didnt want anyone else to know I have a very critical extended family and I have been the only one who is overweight.

Now I am equal to them all!!!

I now have a quiet confidence that I never had in my entire life.

Super Girl

I understand. I think it is great that you have chosen to take this big step. That's what is important...not everone knowing your business! I'm right there with you! I have told my best friend (just 2 weeks ago.) I think she is jealous, but I don't think she would even qualify for wls which is good for her. I don't regret my decision to keep it a secret. You can always change your mind and tell more people, but once people know it is immposible to change that!

[julie.ann 1]

Just wondering out of all of you that decided to keep this journey a secret from MOST people how many have stuck to that?

My hubby, friend and doctor know aned that is it. Anyone else still keeping it a secret?

[Losing 2 0]

I haven't told anyone at work outside of the two original folks.... I have wanted to tell so many times, especially since I am getting plenty of questions regarding weight loss during the day; I am doing a whole lot more walking for exercise thru the facility (instead of sitting 80% of th day).

My family & friends of the family know. I hope to keep it that way.

[Losing 2 0]

Julie! :thumbup:OMG... Your stats are amazing!!

Continued Success to You on this journey!

[julie.ann 1]

Julie! :thumbup:OMG... Your stats are amazing!!

Continued Success to You on this journey!

Thanks NFaith! Everyone seems to be doing great. You too! There are several people that we haven't heard from for a while I'd love to know how everyone is!

[maw 0]

It is amazing how many people have found out about my surgery without my telling anyone. At Christmas Breakfast, my sister - in-law's father says I know this is hush, hush, but how is your weight loss coming. Boy was I floored. I politely answered but quickly changed the subjet. Later that night, I was at a party and someone I see maybe 1-2 times a year says I hear you had the lap band surgery, how's it going? This was in a room full of people I didn't even know. Later that evening, the same person corners me and starts talking about the surgery and my father (who I hadn't told) was in the same room. Man, was I angry! I knew then that I had to tell him because had saw this individual more fequently than I did. I had to confront my sister-in-law and brother and then had to go tell my father and his wife. I did this several weeks after the holidays because it took me awhile to get over my anger. I felt so violated; my sharing personal things about myself is a real biggie.

I have to say that I was contacted by my doctor's office last week and told that the General Assembly is considering removing bariatric surgery from state employees health care package. I got on the internet and contacted those few folks that I have told and asked them to contact the appropriate legislators. In my request, I found that I really revealed alot about what has happened since the surgery so they could include that information in their letters. When I wrote my letter to the legislators, I amazed myself at what I said and how much I revealed. I found it really easy to share the information. Maybe because they are strangers or because of the out-of pocket expenses that I'll have to pay (which I can not afford) and may alter my course of treatment.

I must say, I felt very supported. Most of the folks I contacted, did contact at least one legislator. Some contacted all 10!

I still don't want a whole lot of people to know; it really is a personal thing to me. I do love the gall bladder surgery comment!!