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Oh liquid that SUCKS what a :biggrin::cursing: asshole!! We are here for you :rolleyes: I hope you move to the anger stage really quick and have some mates who can help you out if you need it! So vent all you want and look after yourself {{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}

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The best revenge is living well, and you can do that by slimming down, being healthy and feeling great about yourself and you don't need a low-life guy like him to do that.

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Thank you everyone! It was a hard first night and i am still upset. I really didn't sleep to well and it was just all the lies he told me flooding my head. Today is the day I am starting over. I am shedding my last tear now. I am just devasted I guess....Just trying to keep my head up! What comes around goes around!

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By having this surgery, you just took a huge step toward taking better care of yourself. As you continue to take better care of yourself, you will start to feel that you deserve good things. A man who cheats is not a good thing. You are better off leaving him behind you just like you're leaving excess weight behind you :)

I know it hurts like hell right now but I PROMISE things will get better. The pain will dissipate and you'll be stronger. You will feel better - just a little time. Take really good care of yourself - walk, eat foods that are good to your body, get manis and pedis. You'll be in great shape for the REAL Mr. Right. That a**hole was just practice!:biggrin:

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I am so very sorry this has happened right after your surgery. I know it is painful when your get your heart broken, but don't let that hold you back from remembering why you got the band in the first place. It was to be healthy and happy, and you don't need anyone to do that for you. It is all up to you!!! You may be suprised at how fast you get over this jerk. I will keep you in my thoughts. Turn that frown upside down sister!!!

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I am so sorry. I know we can all say you are better off without him (and you are) but that doesn't make it any less painful. Hang in there! You are a precious, special human being and someday, the right person will realize that!:)

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I agree with everyone else. Hang in there. I promise it'll get better. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You'll find someone much better. He's a horrible person. :)

Cheer up! Stay busy to keep your mind off of things!! Hugs!!

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I'm so sorry to hear about what you are going through. That is horrible. Honestly, I believe in revenge and I think the best revenge is to sleep with one of his close friends. Trust me, it will make you feel better... Just wait until you get really small and can shove that in his face. What a hateful guy. Oh it makes me mad when I hear of stories like that. It makes me want to go to your State and whoop his ass. Man I hate cheaters. Hang in there girly. We are here for you.

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Hang in there liquid,

I'm sending a huge bear hug from NH to you. This is not your fault. He made the choice and it's on him:angry:. You are on your way to making your insides match your outsides and no one can stop you. I agree with the statement that the best revenge is to choose good health and make this even more determined to succeed. I'm soooo sorry this happened. He will regret it, I'm sure there is a reason this other woman was his Ex-wife. He made a bad choice, but you can do this! We are all here to support you in whatever way you can. Cry all you want and feel the feelings so you can let him go and live your life. Moe

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Thank you! Everyone! I need all the support now. He just did a 360 on me and told me he wasn't attracted to me at all....That hurt...but i am trying to be strong and jst i cannot stop crying....but i am trying my hardest...i was bad and went and had a dunkins Decaf ice coffee with a friend and it was great!

Don't worry about the sour milk that he turned out to be. I kissed alot of frogs before I found my husband 3 years ago and I said he was my Orchid cause I was always searching for a Rose. (that was a song by MICKEY GILLEY) "I OVER LOOKED AN ORCHID WHILE SEARCHING FOR A ROSE."

Anyway what I am trying to say is stay in there and stand tall the best is yet to come. take care and good luck:thumbup:

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Hey there,

I was banded on Monday too, I can't imagine having the sadness of a breakup on top of all the other emotions, sensations and adjustments I'm currently undergoing.

Maybe looking at this a an even bigger new beginning, with something better in store then your wildest dreams. Be gentle with yourself and take care.

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Oh Hon, hang in there. I am so sorry about the timing of this. I'm thinking he did you a favor though. He's a creep and it's good he left. I know that's hard to swallow right now but down the road a ways, you'll realize you're better off without him. Hold your beautiful head high and focus on your after surgery process. Take care! Hugs!

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Thank you everyone! It was a hard first night and i am still upset. I really didn't sleep to well and it was just all the lies he told me flooding my head. Today is the day I am starting over. I am shedding my last tear now. I am just devasted I guess....Just trying to keep my head up! What comes around goes around!

Hey Liquid, I'm an August 07 bandster peeking in on you youngins :thumbup:!

There may be more tears down the road. Don't be surprised and don't feel bad if you feel bad. It's O.K. some of us have gained wieght because of stuffing our feelings. I have found journaling to be very helpful. My therapist once told me to write and don't read what you have written. It allows your psyche to know that it doesn't have to constantly remind you that you are hurt. It knows that if you need to you can read about it and feel the pain but that way you don't have to carry it onyour shoulder where it can be easily bruised and reinjured. Good luck to you!

Someone earlier said the best revenge is success and living a healthy happy life. get busy living!

Success to all you August bandsters!

Val

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