partner worries

[naomi.j 1]

hiya im 24year old from uk i have been with my partner for 7 years and have 2 little boys 3yrs and 18months when i met him i was prob about 14lb overweight but i was really happy and confident and liked the way i looked but over the years and 2 kids later im 60lb overweight but my partner still loves me we have problems now and again but who doesnt but since i have deceided that i wnt to be banded which is booked for 24 september he seems to be pissed of with me as im self pay and he is the one who brings the money in he keeps goinhg on about that he had better not pay for me to have this done and than i leave him for someone else he seems that he would bemore upset about the money than me leaving him but i feel quite upset that he can even think that i would leave him i would not do that we have 2 children togethor was just wondering if anyone else has partners that got insecure when they lost weight.

[kaninag 35]

im self pay and he is the one who brings the money in he keeps goinhg on about that he had better not pay for me to have this done and than i leave him for someone else he seems that he would bemore upset about the money than me leaving him but i feel quite upset that he can even think that i would leave him i would not do that we have 2 children togethor was just wondering if anyone else has partners that got insecure when they lost weight.

If hes like my partner he is more worried about you leaving him than he is the money....hes prob having thoughts going thru his head that once your skinny minnie then you'll want to go look for someone better. Before I got the band-several years ago I was successful at losing 55lbs ( I did gain it back)...I felt great but my bf at the time (now hubby) started acting different and made comments about me leaving him...we did end up breaking up for awhile though..he needed to gain his self confidence...anyhow we got back together and hes made a couple of comments about leaving but we're married and I just sat down with him and told him how I felt about that and hes been fine since.....you may want to consider letting him talk to a counselor or something.....GOOD LUCK!!

[kaninag 35]

I was just curious how things were going?

[Guest BikiniBeachy]

A lot of times both genders will stay or settle with someone because of their weight. The other partner can suspect this, and feel like they may not be able to treat someone the same when they lose weight, that's my personal opinion, not specifically on your situation but in general. This whole process is very emotional.