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Hi All -

I am just wondering if anyone has seen your scars and asked what they were from. It is swimming season here and I have been shirtless around the pool a few times (I am a man) and had someone ask me what the scar was from. I keep my surgery quiet - so hardly anyone knows. It caught me off gaurd and wasn't sure what to say. I am very careful about the way I position myself and who is around when I am shirtless.

Any suggestions for not telling the truth?

I said I had a cyst removed -

Thanks

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I have thought of this very question...I am a woman, and next summer when I'm wearing a 2 piece people will see the scars....I plan on keeping this hush hush as well, so I have been thinking of what to say....You can always use the excuse they're from exploratory surgery done, or caused by and accident of some sort...These are people who you are not close with, so who cares what they think....tell them anything to satisfy there nosy needs.

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My ex had a triple bypass 13 years ago, he was only 45. He was very self conscious about the huge scar, and tries not to go shirtless at all. The scar from a heart bypass is very obviously a scar from a heart bypass.

Since the lap band scar is small you could say , "oh from minor surgery" or you could make a joke out of it and say.

"I was part of a study, where they were trying to figure out why some men are so handsome, intelligent and charming, they took a specimen to examine my DNA. If the study goes well in a few years everyone will be able to be as smart and handsome as me"

I was stabbed in a barroom brawl

I accidentally swollowed a tadpole, after few days my stomach was rumbling, it was actually the frog saying "rbbt" they had to and remove the poor guy. I bought him an aquarium, he lives at my place, come by and visit him sometime

I got into a fight with this guy cause he asked too many personal squestions. I ended up fracturing his skull, but because he stabbed me first I wasnt convicted. Any more questions.

As you can see, I love to be sarcastic.

When people ask personal questions they deserve a sarcastic answer!

Have fun, make up different stories.

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I should have probabaly said the person who asked me is a close friend -

Thanks

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I'm only 10 days post op and had to have an "open" sugery because my liver was too large. Just a couple days ago I got my staples out and my scar runs just below my breast bone to just above my belly button, not to mention the scar where my port is. It looks like a zipper running 22" vertically across my belly. I don't think I'll ever take my shirt off again!

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Just say that you had gas, barfing, something else not too serious sounding, and then explain the scars as where the docs took a "looky-lou" to try to figure it out.

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First, get a tube of Mederma- It will help fade the scar. However, make sure you keep sunscreen on them when you are "shirtless" the sun will cause the scars to become more noticable. Once they have faded you should be able to get a tan, which will help hide them. Also, I had a hernia repaired at the time of my lap band. My doc said that the inscisions were the same, except I would need an extra one for the hernia. You could always use that excuse.

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I'm a woman and NO ONE sees my gross belly. *I* don't even like to look at it - lol.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p>

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Maybe you could say you had your gall bladder out? It's done laparoscopically (sp?) in the same area so the scars are probably similar. <o:p></o:p>

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Too old. To saggy and to many stretch marks from child bearing to ever wear a two piece again!!! My husband is the only one to see my scars. (And my physicians, who know what they're from).

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