Anyone Get Afraid About Something Happening To You?

[Ineedalapband 0]

I'm STILL waiting for my paperwork to go to my insurance company but still am wondering about this. I'm comfortable with all the changes that will be necessary for my band to work. I know it will be hard work and I know its not an easy fix.

What worries me most is something happening to me, either on the table or from complications afterwards. Its my husbands fear too (I think) since he's not completely on board with this yet. We have two small children and I just am scared something will happen to me. But at the same time, I really want to do this. I feel like I NEED to do this. For us all.

Anyone else scared?

[SLIM SLY 0]

Don't think like that, everyday we are here we are taking a risk of one thing or the other, riding in a car, walking down the street. Think what could happen if you don't lose the weight, heart attack, diabetes, stroke and a host of other things. So claim the victory and trust in whatever higher power you believe in that everything will be fine. I'm going on that table on July 23rd with the belief that this is my salvation from a life of illnesses that my weight could bring about. My husband doesn't want me to do it either, but he said he will support me if that's what I want to do and I can't wait to do it.:embaressed_smile:

Edited July 16, 2008 by SLIM SLY

[CassCass 0]

I have my moments.

I know as it gets closer, I'll start to worry more.

My main worry is something happening during or afterwards that requires a hospital stay or further surgery. We're going to be self pay and that's only through a loan, so we have nothing left if something else arises.

I think being scared is absolutely normal. It means you're taking the risks seriously.

[jkpenny376 2]

That is a completely NORMAL feeling. I even wrote a 5 pg letter to my kids and husband just in case...because I knew I had to do this for me and for them...and I wanted them to know this. I think anyone who goes under has those feelings. I had the feelings also because even though it was a necessity it was still a choice and I know if something happened it would have ulitmately been by my choice...but I think if you weren't worried....then you wouldn't be taking this seriously..and it is serious. It is LIFE changing. I was banded on June 4th and have lost a total of 22 lbs..and I will say the beginning weeks were hell...Hunger, emotional.....just it all came crashing down on me all at once...but that being said..I still wouldn't take back the band...as hard as it has been it is still better then where I was Pre-band. I am making life changing choices everyday...and learning that I matter and this weight will not own my anymore....I have taken control of this beast once and for all and I will fight it to the end. Everything will be be fine...and it's normal to feel the way you feel. Hang in there. It will all be okay.

[Jillbeme65 1]

I'm STILL waiting for my paperwork to go to my insurance company but still am wondering about this. I'm comfortable with all the changes that will be necessary for my band to work. I know it will be hard work and I know its not an easy fix.

What worries me most is something happening to me, either on the table or from complications afterwards. Its my husbands fear too (I think) since he's not completely on board with this yet. We have two small children and I just am scared something will happen to me. But at the same time, I really want to do this. I feel like I NEED to do this. For us all.

Anyone else scared?

Yeah... someone else feels exactly like I do.. I just hung up with my friend and she says that I am nuts that I should be so excited about all this. I said I just want to make sure my head is right.. She said well then you will never have the surgery(lol) I guess I was hoping for the magic pill not the stuff you have to work at

[Long2BFree 12]

I think what you are feeling is completely normal. My surgery is this Thursday but the thought of being put under scares me, especially since I had a rough time the last time I had surgery. I do know that without this surgery my life will be shorten dramatically due to the numerous health problems I have. Having peace with knowing where I will go when I die makes it easier.

[ThinknHealthy 0]

I had the same feelings too. I'm a single mom of a 12 year-old girl and the thought of leaving her an orphan was sobering. However, I knew that my weight could easily kill me at any time so something had to be done. My philosophy is to always prepare for the worst and pray for the best. I surrounded myself with people who love me and I had a team of ladies praying over me. At the same time, I prepared my will and made decisions on guardianship for my daughter. Not a bad idea at any time really. I also paid all my bills, got caught up at work and left little notes around so life could go forward. Again, not a bad thing at any time and so much less on my mind before surgery. Keeping busy in that kind of way also keeps your mind off what you are doing. The night before, my sister and I just talked and talked until late at night and before I knew it I was asleep and then it was the next morning (a sleeping pill helped). I was always at peace because I was prepared. Of course I wrote a special message to my daughter in my journal but I had sent her off to camp that week so her mind would be on other things too. She even forgot about it and had to be reminded.

Bottom line . . . You'll be fine. Go with confidence and faith that this is what you are supposed to do. Rely on your family and friends. The more you are at peace about it, the more they will be too. Also, your surgeon knows what he is doing. Trust in his skill and experience.

[vegasgirl44 0]

Great post! That is exactly the way it should be said. I'm scared too, but I feel like this is my salvation. My doc has a great track record, so I'm putting my faith in him, the fact that I'm adhering to everything he tells me to do, and of course, my maker.

And ThinknHealthy....I also have a soon to be 12 yr old daughter and she just returned from camp today. She is off to visit her Nana for one month this weekend. I wanted to have the surgery while she was gone. But I think that you prepared yourself well. It certainly doesn't hurt in any circumstance and at any time. Good Job!

[vegasgirl44 0]

I have my moments.

I know as it gets closer, I'll start to worry more.

My main worry is something happening during or afterwards that requires a hospital stay or further surgery. We're going to be self pay and that's only through a loan, so we have nothing left if something else arises.

I think being scared is absolutely normal. It means you're taking the risks seriously.

CassCass, I'm also self pay and finance and I hope that things work out fine. That's why I'm doing everything my doctor tells me to do to the letter. I don't want anything to get in my way of a full recovery.

[Barbiek 0]

Ineedalapband: I was banded on July 2 and I was soooooooo scared. I was excited too, but mostly scared for the very same reasons. Because this is an "elective" surgery, you feel that you are making a choice that could be potentially harmful to you. I felt the exact same way, it's very normal. All I can say is when you wake up from surgery, you will feel liberated and very happy that you made that decision. I posted something similar to this right before my surgery and a woman replied to me saying "this is just another day at the office for your doctor!" Those words were very comforting to me and it was so true! You will be fine ~ Good luck to you!

[Ineedalapband 0]

I think a lot of it stems from having a horrible delivery with DS (6 months ago). We both almost lost our lives. I've never seen my husband quite so torn up. I even remember half waking up and thinking "Lord, if I die my husband will have to raise our two kids all by himself". I think thats why I'm so afriad and why my husband is not quite on board with all of this. I don't think its the band, I think its the surgery.

Thanks for all the encouragment. I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way.

For what its worth I've just been praying "Lord, if it be a GOOD thing, then help me to get approved". Just a few minutes ago I thought he'd given me my answer when I logged on to Tricare and saw C - Cancelled. I was so dissapointed but that didn't say D - Denied so I called them. They said they needed more info (My PCM's surgery clearance). I go for that tomorrow. Hopefully by next week I'll know if I'm approved.

Anyone else scared?

[libguy2753 0]

My main worry is something happening during or afterwards that requires a hospital stay or further surgery. We're going to be self pay and that's only through a loan, so we have nothing left if something else arises.

Yep, that's the biggest "con" on my list. I want to have this done, I'm ready for it. I'm just afraid of being one of the couple percent of people who do have problems arise. I can't afford to have to go to the emergency room.