I never thought it would happen to me.....

[Cota129 0]

Wow....I just found out last week, 7/7, that my husband has been having an affair with a woman from his job for the past few years. I guess I knew in my gut that there was someone else, but I have been in big denial. We've been married for 22 years and have 3 children. It came to the front last Monday when my husband was having an angiogram and she called to see how he was. My husband had been telling her that we were getting divorced, and it would be final this summer, so she was as surprised as I was to find that he was still involved with me. She and I were living in a life of lots of denial. Now the term "fool in love" takes on a whole new meaning. Well, he is now getting his divorce and she can have him. I am devastated. This was the man that, despite having some significant marriage struggles, I love with all my heart. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I wake up every morning crying. The future is so scary right now. Hang in there. I hear life gets better as time goes on.

[Laurinda 1]

*SMH* Bless YOUR heart too Cota. Good - Luck to you also. Both are in my thoughts and prayers

[*susan* 1,709]

Cota, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this as well. My heart goes out to both of you.

[Irish76 0]

Ohh, I am so sorry to hear this. We all know how hard it is to not eat when we're stressed and depressed. Please hang in there and try to not eat...it really doesn't help. If he's doing drugs and fooling around he has more serious problems than you do. Take your son under your wing and protect him everyway that you can. My prayers are with you.

[JennyLynn 0]

Thank you all for your wonderful support... it means a lot to me. Cota, I am so sorry... I know what your going thru and it is really painful. If you ever need to talk just PM me. I thought I was holding it together pretty well but have been crying the past two days. I am going tomorrow to file my divorce papers. I started packing yesterday and I think that is when it really became reality for me. Its tough but I think once I get out on my own it will hopefully not be so painful. I saw my therapist today and he suggested a divorce support group so I can talk to others going thru the same things, he also suggested a church in my area that I am planning on looking into for my son and I to meet some new friends. Again, thank all of you for the support, suggestions and websites to check out. It really means a lot to me. :confused_smile:

[JRFAN88 1]

JennyLynn & Cota,

Just wanted to let you know that I was there too. On Thanksgiving day 2006 my husband of 17 years left. One month later he moved in with his girlfriend. This was a huge shock. He was my best friend. We have 2 kids. My life was just how you described yours - a roller coaster. I just had to go through the motions for months. I wasn't able to sleep or eat. My doctor put me on medication for sleep & panic attacks. Everybody said it would get better but I just couldn't see it. One of the good things that came of it was that I lost 56 pounds in about 4 months. In August 2007 I started dating someone. It was very hard because my husband was the only boyfriend that I had ever had. My weight gradually came back on but good thing was I was able to get off the sleep medication & no more panic attacks. My & my boyfriend are still dating over 11 months later & talking about marriage. I never thought I would find someone so soon. He's actually the reason I got the lapband. He got his in February then I followed in May.

Good luck to you both. And know that it will get better. My life didn't turn out the way I had expected but it is very good.

[U_go_gurl68 0]

JennyLynn,

We are all here to give you support and encouragement through this painful time and beyond.

You are a beautiful person and will always be.

Sincerely,

Stephanie