Need a lot of help!!!

[kelbeljel 0]

So I am 30 years old and about to finish my first degree! As excited as I am about that I cannot help but feel overwhelmed by the factor that I started college at 185lbs and now I weigh over 230lbs. I am 5 foot 7 inche with a BMI of 36. I have struggled with my weight all of my life and I am really tired of struggling and feeling like I never see results. I am have been married for a over a year and I do not like the way I look! This is so despressing that I find myself finding other ways to get me to forget about me being fat! My husband is in perfect health and weight and I would just like to be healthy for him so that he can rely on the factor of me being there for the rest of his life. I am really depressed and have tried dieting, gyms, workouts at home, etc! I would love to see results but never see them and the moment I see them, the pounds are put back on. As a college student, I cannot afford another bill...does anyone have any more information or help or suggestions for me?? I have researched the idea of lap band surgery and like that I can see results and keep working out! Please help!

[JamieNP 20]

Ah..yes, college is where I gained all of my weight. Well, if you have insurance, call and ask them if they cover weight loss surgery. If so, what are the requirements. Do you have any comorbidities? (like high blood pressure, diabetes, sleep apnea, etc?)

You could also pay out of pocket. Many people here go to Mexico and have the procedure done for half the price.

Good luck to you!

[Ivernous 0]

I am also 30 yrs old and weigh 327 pounds. I suffer from major depression and have for years. My husband and I have been married for 5 years now and he is in perfect health and weight whereas I am definitely not. I don't know what exactly to say to you since I am in a very similar situation. I don't have any comorbidities but can see that I will in the future as my whole family is overweight and my dad was just dx with type 2 diabetes. What keeps me going is knowing my husband won't have to wheel me around in a wheel chair or keep helping me upstairs. I don't want to put that burden on him. He supports my decision to go forward with the lap band surgery and he is going to be doing the liquid diet with me when I have to get ready for surgery. IS your husband supportive of this idea? It really helps to talk to your spouse about your feelings on this.

[shrinknme 0]

the only thing I can recommend is that you have to be happy with yourself. Fat or no Fat.. getting skinny is not going to help you feel better about yourself.. you will always find something wrong. I was overweight when I got married and felt like crap about myself and now I have been married for just over 4 years and I feel good.. yes I wish I was thinner so I could do more.. but if I had to remain at 277 I would be ok with that. I went from fearing to see my self naked to walking around the house that way and sometimes opps the curtains were open!! (dont get the wrong idea I am very conservitive and I dont show a lot of skin in public) the point is that I became secure in who I am as a person on the inside and realized the outside was just a shell..

I think if I would have gotten the LB before I did that I would have wondered if my husband really wanted to be with me or if he was hoping that I would eventually lose the weight.. and I would have wondered if people really like me or if I just fit into their world of skinny friends.

I also made the focus of the last 4 years of my life a journey to be healthy. Not to diet and focus on losing the weight. and I havent lost all that much.. but I think it helped me get the healthy view of me. Because I didnt have the try and fail all the time.. because diets DONT work.. I just tried to walk everyday and make healthy food choices.. and if at the end of the day I didnt lose weight.. it didnt matter.. I didnt contribute to getting more unhealthy.

ok sorry if I talked too much.. just so you know too.. we are self pay because I dont have any health problems and we didnt want to wait for insurance to say they wouldnt cover it.. I know you can finance it. like capitol one or something.

[kelbeljel 0]

I do have high cholesterol and obesity is high on both sides of my family. I do not have diabetes...yet...however all of my family members do have it.